People often say that "people are good and are deceived by others", and this sentence is not unfamiliar in daily life.
Kindness is supposed to be a virtue, but in some cases, without proper defense and boundaries, kindness can become a weakness that can lead to being taken advantage of or oppressed.
Especially when encountering two types of people, kind-hearted people will often suffer if they don't know how to be "ruthless".
In the face of people who will only take advantage of you and people who will not see you well, good people should learn to set boundaries and avoid getting stuck in life and interpersonal interactions.
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People who will only take advantage of you
In life, we often meet people who only take advantage of others.
On the surface, these people are warm and appear to be on good terms, but in reality, each of their approaches has a clear purpose.
They never really care about your interests or needs, but are always thinking about how to get benefits from you.
This type of person sees relationships as a tool and sees the benefits you can bring to them, rather than your value as an individual.
These people who will only take advantage of you are often good at disguise and curry-please.
They will flatter you and act friendly when they need your help, but once they get what they want from you, they will quickly withdraw and even forget what they promised.
This type of person is a "parasite" in relationships, and they have only one goal, which is to get as much benefit as possible from you, without really giving you anything back.
In the face of such people, kind-hearted people often compromise repeatedly because they can't bear to refuse, or because they are afraid of destroying the relationship, only to let themselves be constantly exploited, and even at critical moments, they find that they have long been abandoned by these people.
If you don't know how to be "ruthless" to them at the right time, unguarded kindness can easily be used by them to the fullest.
To avoid being hurt by people who will only take advantage of you, the key is to clearly discern their true intentions and know how to refuse unreasonable demands.
In their repeated demands, learn to say "no" decisively in order to protect their own interests and avoid being ruthlessly used and consumed.
True friends and valuable relationships are based on mutual care and support, not blindly taking advantage of them.
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I can't see your good people
Another type of people who need to be "ruthless" to deal with are those who don't see you well.
Such people are often friends or colleagues on the surface, but deep down they are jealous of your success and happiness.
They are not genuinely happy about your achievements or happiness, but are always around you to find faults, blows, and even secretly stumble and try to make your life not go well.
These people don't see you well, and it shows in all aspects of life.
No matter what kind of results you achieve, they will always find some reason to belittle you.
Your success, they see as accidental luck; Your happiness, they feel is a temporary illusion.
In their eyes, all your benefits are unacceptable, because your success makes them seem small and incompetent.
So, they will weaken your confidence in various ways, discourage your motivation, and even deliberately provoke contradictions and get you into trouble.
In the face of people who don't like you, if you still blindly maintain kindness and tolerance, you will only make them gain an inch, and even let yourself be caught up in their conspiracy and can't extricate yourself.
If a kind person is soft on these people, he may be constantly suppressed and hit, and lose the opportunities and happiness that belong to him.
When dealing with such people, it is important to learn to be alert.
When you perceive their jealousy, don't try to convince them with tolerance.
Instead, you should set clear boundaries and avoid getting too entangled with them.
If they try to suppress you or provoke disputes, don't give in easily, but bravely defend your dignity and interests.
In some cases, being "ruthless" to such people and staying away from their negative energy will win more space and opportunities for yourself.
Sometimes, the best way to deal with these people who don't like you is to focus on your goals and not be affected by their negative evaluations.
Let your actions and accomplishments speak instead of dwelling on unnecessary arguments with them.
Remember, a truly strong person will not change his pace because of the jealousy and malice of others, but will go his own way more determinedly.
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Kindness is certainly one of the most beautiful qualities of human nature, but it must be based on wisdom and self-preservation.
In the face of people who will only take advantage of you and people who don't like you, kind people need to learn to be "ruthless", draw boundaries, and know how to refuse, so as not to be hurt and used in complex interpersonal relationships.
Kindness is not bottomless forbearance, and true kindness should be to help and care for those who deserve it on the premise of adhering to self-dignity.
Only by knowing how to protect oneself can we truly be kind and strong in a world full of competition and complexity.