A male member of the Love Heart Reading Club asked me, "Teacher Li, how do you grasp the rhythm of chatting with girls?" ”
Li Zhenfang:
Chatting with girls, in fact, mainly depends on your mood, you can chat for a while if you want to, and forget it if you don't want to talk. You can talk to girls, but don't talk every day, let alone talk frequently.
Why?
Have you noticed that you talk to girls a lot, and after three or five days of chatting, there is nothing else of value in your chat, just a lot of boring nonsense. The girl's attitude towards you is also rapid and cold.
Because people's knowledge is limited, and the topics are limited, after you finish talking, there will be no new topics. And the speed at which new common topics are generated later is very slow.
If you chat too often, the freshness, curiosity, and mystery between you will disappear quickly, which will make it more difficult for you to meet on a date later.
Through the screen of the mobile phone, talk every day, no matter how good the chat is, when you meet, you will find that you are very embarrassed, you call a little baby on the Internet, and when you meet, it will be difficult for you to call out, you have to start from scratch, this difficulty has increased a lot.
Do you see those old friends, old couples, rarely chatting? Also, you and your iron buddy don't talk every day.
It's not that you're shallow in your relationship, but because you don't need to chat, there's nothing to talk about, if you have something to say, forget it, it's a norm. Fresh topics have also been talked about.
Secondly, the older you get, the more you will find that the chat between men and women is meaningless, there is still passion and freshness in your 20s, you can chat, make porridge on the phone, but when you are over 28 years old, you feel more and more meaningless.
Is there anything to talk about between men and women?
Nope.
Because men and women are different, everyone's education, experience, cognition, living environment, and family background are different, how can we talk?
It's hard for everyone to talk, and the reason why two people talk well is because one party has made a compromise.
Everyone is an adult, especially a man, if you still think about chatting every day, then it can only mean that you have not grown up, you have not matured, and your work and career are still very average.
Really good people rarely chat, they all add WeChat, and everyone makes an appointment to meet with a simple hello.
To find a partner, only by adding WeChat, it is meaningful to meet. WeChat is a tool for making appointments, WeChat is a tool for us to show our advantages, show our value, attract the opposite sex, and let others know about us, so adding WeChat helps us find a partner.
But WeChat can't fall in love, of course, very good people can fall in love through chat, but this requires a high level of knowledge, emotional intelligence, for most ordinary people, I give you a simple, practical, not difficult practice, you just go to add people, and then make an appointment to meet, this is to find a partner.
To find an object is to find that it is meaningful, and to think is meaningless.
Finding a partner, falling in love, not through chatting, chatting is not important. It doesn't really matter what you talk about.
A girl doesn't marry you just because you can talk and you make her laugh.
The logic of a girl falling in love with you and marrying you is not how good you are, but that you are worthy of her, she is in love with you, and she will not suffer a loss when she gets married.
Therefore, I don't recommend that you have a high-frequency chat, just add WeChat, everyone simply chat, say hello, and then make an appointment to meet.
Only when you meet, can you fall in love, and only when you meet can you upgrade your relationship.