Text: Su Jian talks about life
In life, some old people always feel that their sons and daughters are biological, and their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law are dispensable in their eyes.
What's even more infuriating is that many old people interfere in their sons and daughters' housework, making chickens and dogs jump all day long.
Some elderly people don't understand that interfering too much in their children's marriages and protecting their children everywhere will harm themselves and their children in the end.
The elderly who understand the "law of cause and effect" will make the family harmonious and prosperous when they get along with their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law.
When people are old, they get along with their sons-in-law and daughters-in-law, and they must get rid of the "poverty" on their bodies.
1. Quit "poor mouth", don't dislike it, and praise more
One night, my brother and daughter-in-law came home with a big bag, and my parents were cooking in the kitchen.
The younger brother and daughter-in-law changed into slippers and hurried to the kitchen to help.
When the meal was ready, when it was brought to the table, my mother saw the bag on the table and asked my brother, "What is this?"
My brother said, "What is this?" (referring to my brother-in-law), a roast duck that I bought outside.
My mother began to count down her brother and daughter-in-law like a cannon: buy and buy all day long, it's not good to eat too much of this thing, there are all kinds of vegetables at home, and the net money is spent.
When my mother criticized my brother-in-law, my brother-in-law didn't speak, and she had a good temper and personality, and she was already used to her mother-in-law's tone.
Then, my mother turned the finger at my husband, saying that my husband also likes to spend money and earns little money.
During the whole meal, my mother kept nagging, her mouth was like cannon fire, and she kept "shooting".
Many elderly people especially like to find fault with their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law, and always think that their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law are not worthy of their children.
The mistakes of the daughter-in-law and son-in-law are all attributed to the fault of the in-laws.
Most of the family conflicts are related to the "poor mouth" of the elderly.
As soon as he opened his mouth, he counted down his family members and complained about his son-in-law and daughter-in-law, obviously pushing his family out.
This is the rhythm of pushing the blessings of family "unity and harmony" out of the door.
Even if you are an old man, when you interact with your family, your emotional intelligence should be a little higher, and your mouth should be sweeter.
A happy family needs "benign interaction", how good the heart is, how much blessing there is.
2. Quit the "poor face", don't give a face, smile more
Hu Shi said:
There is nothing worse in the world than an angry face; The most obscene thing in the world is to show others your angry feet, which is more uncomfortable than beating and scolding.
Do not give people a good face, easy to embarrass others, not as Lucky Star Chinese Restaurant full of face, ushering in harmony and wealth.
There was an old lady in the village, three daughters and one son.
Thirty years ago, the old lady was picky about her daughter-in-law everywhere since she beat her daughter-in-law and entered the house.
No matter what her daughter-in-law does, in her eyes, she always feels that her daughter-in-law is wrong.
The daughter-in-law has been married to their family for decades, and she has suffered bitterness and sin, but she has not tasted sweetness.
Later, the old lady got older, and when she was in her 80s, she was in bed and couldn't move.
The daughter-in-law didn't even want to look at it, let alone go to serve.
No matter how everyone persuades the daughter-in-law, no matter how the three daughters complain about their sister-in-law, the daughter-in-law will focus on a "don't ask".
There is no doubt that the contradiction between the old lady and the daughter-in-law will never be resolved in this life.
If the old lady does not throw her face at her daughter-in-law and speaks softly everywhere, when the old man is old, it is still the old man who enjoys the blessings.
But some old people don't understand this truth, and they show their daughters-in-law and sons-in-law everywhere at home.
This style of "complexion" will one day return to the old man's body.
If families do not know how to cooperate and win-win, they will only attack each other, belittle each other, and it is inevitable that the family will fall.
3. Quit "poor hands", don't sit idly by, and help more
It is often heard online that parents are not obligated to help their children with their children.
When hearing this poisonous chicken soup, as parents, you must think about it, including our children, we all come out of the bottom family.
The foundation is already weak, and without the support and help of parents, life will be even more difficult.
Downstairs in our house, there is a rice noodle shop, and the owners of the rice noodle shop are a young couple.
The store is not big, but it is clean and the business is good.
And the waiters in the hotel are the parents-in-law.
My parents-in-law came to the rice noodle shop early every day and began to prepare all kinds of seasonings.
When there are many guests, the parents-in-law are busy greeting the guests.
A discerning person can see at a glance that his father-in-law and mother-in-law are here, and they are a free laborer.
The retirement salary of my parents-in-law is not low, but after retiring, I am willing to stand up and help my children without complaints, so that my children have no worries.
There are mountains and valleys in life, and a family must help each other to be a family.
There are not only obligations and responsibilities between family members, but also feelings and love that blood is thicker than water.
Parents are considerate of their children, help if they can, and guard the rear.
The children are grateful, and the family is working hard in one place, and the heart is thinking in one place.
Some people may say that this is your life of kidnapping your parents.
In fact, from another point of view, they also enjoy the happiness that their children bring them.
We are all ordinary people, and ordinary people's family resources are already very small.
If you still have to distinguish between you and me in everything, there is no way to keep warm together.
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When people reach their old age, they should put away the "pride" of their youth, treat their children with "love" and "understanding", and learn to be the "blender" of the family, so that the family will be safe and happy.
Treat your daughter-in-law and son-in-law as if you were your own children, so that your children will not be in trouble in the middle.
Children are the meat of our hearts, and in the same way, daughters-in-law and sons-in-law are also the hearts of other people's parents.
As an old man, you have to bring the family together, so that this family can get better and better!
When people reach old age, quit "poor", and good fortune will come!
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