△ Feng Zexiu and her family
"You are 30 years old this year, and you still have to think about starting a family, and I am relieved that someone will take care of each other." 」
A phone call was full of motherly advice and concern, but this scene happened to a mother and son who were not related by blood.
16 years ago, in the face of the three nephews whose parents died, the eldest mother Feng Zexiu chose to shoulder the burden and shoulder the responsibility of raising three children while taking care of her own son and daughter. Feng Zexiu, who is now over the age of sixteen, has become the light on the road of his nephews' growth with 16 years of perseverance, warm and bright. She is not a mother, but she is better than a mother, with intermittent nagging and warm smiles, she has accompanied her three children through year after year, and composed a moving hymn with great love and true love.
"Nearly half a hundred years old, took over three "sons""
In Changfeng Village in April, the sun was just right, and with the roar of motorcycles, Li Yong carried his mother Feng Zexiu back home from the fields. Putting down the back basket, Feng Zexiu pushed open the door, took out a stool and warmly beckoned the reporter to sit down, and after a brief greeting, he began to talk about the past.
In 1984, Feng Zexiu married to Li Fangyun's family of the 7th forward team in He Gong Town. At that time, Li Fangyun's family had four brothers and sisters, and the family was in difficulty. After marrying into the Li family, Feng Zexiu, who suffered from bronchitis, overcame physical discomfort, adhered to the traditional virtues of diligence and simplicity, virtuous and virtuous, united with the brothers and sisters of the Li family, supported each other, faced all kinds of difficulties in life, persevered, and life became better and better.
In 2008, Li Jun, the youngest brother of the Li family, and his wife went to Tibet to work, and a major accident occurred in the Golmud section of the Qinghai-Tibet Highway. As the eldest in the family, Li Fangyun took Li Jun's three minor sons to Golmud to deal with the aftermath of the accident, the eldest son was only 15 years old, and the other two children were only 5 and 3 years old respectively. Recalling this incident, Feng Zexiu is still very sad.
These 3 young children not only have to face the pain of losing their parents, but also face the problems of life and education in the future. As the head of the family, the eldest brother Li Fangyun shouldered the burden of the family without hesitation, gave up the great opportunity to earn money outside, went home to deal with this bad thing, and tried to put the big family on the right track as soon as possible. After the discussion of the big family, the three children were temporarily raised by their grandmother, and the child support was paid by the big family, I thought that this matter was solved, but because only Li Jun's youngest son was his grandmother's own grandson, and the other two children were born to Li Jun's ex-wife, the grandmother only took the youngest son back to her hometown in Langzhong, Sichuan, and the matter fell into an impasse, and the life and education problems of the other two sons were placed in front of her.
In 2017, due to her grandmother's old age and illness, she couldn't take care of the child, and the family also went to Langzhong, Sichuan for many visits, and found that the younger son's living and learning environment was poor, so the family decided to take the youngest son back to Yongchuan to live, and the responsibility of taking care of the younger son fell on Feng Zexiu. "The three babies were so small at the time, they looked very bad, and they couldn't ignore it, so they just added a few more pairs of chopsticks and a few bowls." Feng Zexiu said.
Suddenly there were three more children, and the pressure on the family suddenly increased. Although the government has a monthly allowance of nearly 1,000 yuan for orphans, because Li Jun's family still had a mortgage and car loan that have not been paid off at that time, all the money was used to repay the loan, and the children's daily living expenses were borne by Feng Zexiu's family. "Life must be passed, and the money can only be earned slowly by ourselves, and we will never starve our children if we have our own food." Faced with the difficulties of life in the past, Feng Zexiu just said a word.
"The seedlings of the past have grown strongly"
After Feng Zexiu's consistent and careful care, the three nephews lived a not good but stable life, but the growth of the children is not only about food and clothing, but also inseparable from family education.
Feng Zexiu not only has to solve the problems of daily life for the children, but also always pays attention to their mental and emotional development. In order to better take care of their studies, Feng Zexiu specially moved from the village to Yongchuan City, taking care of their food, clothing, housing and transportation, although the education level is not high, the ability to express is limited, she will often communicate with the teachers of several children's schools, care about their growth.
At that time, Li Jun's eldest son was in the period of adolescent rebellion, and the second son was also disabled (left hand and left foot missing middle finger), and his personality was more introverted. In order to ensure the mental health growth of children, Feng Zexiu conducted classified education for children's psychological problems by checking books and consulting psychologists, and took them to participate in various mental health counseling and lectures on weekends and holidays to prevent and alleviate their mental health problems. Especially when the youngest son was just picked up, Feng Zexiu found that because the old man was more spoiled, the youngest son Li Yifan had many small problems, such as not much speech, introverted, love to lie, etc., Feng Zexiu often worked hard to educate him, take him out for a walk, integrate more into society, and communicate more with people, these things seem simple, but more careful and patient. It wasn't until Li Yifan was successfully admitted to university that Feng Zexiu moved back to this familiar old house in the village.
With selfless love and care, Feng Zexiu held up a "shelter umbrella" for the children to help them overcome difficulties and meet the challenges of growing up. The years have wrinkled the corners of his slightly drooping eyes, and now 16 years have passed, Feng Zexiu has also entered the age of sixties, and the three nephews who were young in the past have also become adults. The eldest son is now working on a construction site in Tibet and is able to take on the responsibility of the family. The second son is also studying in Hainan and is currently in his third year; The younger brother has just entered university and is currently studying at a vocational and technical college in Chongqing. Although they are not in Yongchuan, Feng Zexiu's home still has a warm "lamp" for the three nephews to illuminate their way home.
"Write the most beautiful family style with kindness and love"
In Feng Zexiu's home, an embroidery embroidered with the words "Home and Prosperity" is hung in the center of the hall, so that people can immediately notice it as soon as they arrive at the door. At the same time, this sentence is also a vivid interpretation of Feng Zexiu's family.
In the heart of the second Li Hairui, his aunt has long been like his mother. Li Hairui said: "For so many years, my aunt has cared about us, and now that I am in college, it is also my aunt who bears my living expenses. A simple sentence conveys Li Hairui's infinite love and gratitude to Feng Zexiu. Nowadays, only during holidays and Spring Festival, the three nephews will come back to get together, and there has always been a room for them in Feng Zexiu's home, which is their warmest harbor. "They are all back for the Chinese New Year this year, and they will help with housework and so on together when they are free." Recalling the time when they got together, Feng Zexiu couldn't help but smile on his face.
This is not only true for the children of the Li brothers, but also for the other children in the next room, she is willing to give whoever needs help, and whoever comes to her house is as free as returning to her own home, so every time they celebrate the festival, their house is the most lively, and the neighbors like to go to their house to sit when they have nothing to do. "Their family is very harmonious and united, I have seen her care of her three nephews all the way, she has contributed money and efforts, and I have never heard her complain no matter how hard the days are." When neighbor Wu Xiuqing talked about Feng Zexiu, he couldn't stop praising him.
Tang Chengping, a member of the United Front Work Committee of He Gong Town, used "real and attentive" to describe Feng Zexiu. As early as 2017, when she was working in the village, Tang Chengping learned about the situation at Feng Zexiu's family, she said: "Feng Zexiu raised her nephews with kindness and love, and her deeds affected the people around her, which is touching and admirable, and this spirit is worth learning from the whole town."
"Mother" love is like water, like a trickle of water infiltrating every moment of the growth of the three children. After 16 years of selfless dedication and hard parenting, Feng Zexiu has supported a home for her nephews with great love, and she also used her actions to let her three children know that among the lights of thousands of homes, there will always be a light for them, and the way home will always illuminate for them.
Reporter: Chen Xinwei
Source: District Civilization Office
Editor: Kong Xinran (intern)
Duty review: Wu Ailing, Wang Dongmei, Producer: He Li, Kang JunjunDirector: Yu Miao, Director: Propaganda Department of Yongchuan District Party Committee, Information Office of Yongchuan District Government