If you look around you, you will find that people who are prone to internal friction have the same trait, that is, "exhaustive thinking".
Exhaustive thinking is to constantly think about something that has already happened, or an established fact that cannot be changed, as if thinking that by thinking about it all the time, you will be able to control the problem, and then give yourself a small sense of hope that "things will be different".
Ironically, people with internal friction are unwilling to accept reality because they still have a little "hope" in their hearts, so they are tired and unhappy.
A common trait of internal friction people,
It's just that I like to "think hard" to escape from reality
You may say the wrong thing in a social situation, and ordinary people may forget it after the embarrassment has passed, but a person who is prone to internal friction will enter the whirlpool of "exhaustive thinking" - you repeatedly ponder the wrong sentence, keep playing the expressions and tone changes of everyone present, you "hope" that reality is not like this, hope that you will just be wrong, hope that others will not notice, so you keep changing various versions of reality in your mind, constantly calculating all the details of the process, and this whole lot of exhausting thinking, just to help you escape the "uncomfortable" reality and feelings.
People with internal friction would rather think hard and bargain with reality than directly face and accept reality. Although this practice can bring short-term relief due to avoidance, in the long run, internal friction is actually to trap yourself in a negative thinking environment that repeats itself repeatedly, which will not only make the whole physical and mental state worse and worse, but even those exhaustive thoughts will eventually slowly turn into an obsessive-compulsive disorder of thinking, making you even more unable to escape.
I used to be a super internal friction person,
I found the "two-minute distraction" method really useful
I used to be a super internal person, and the problem came when I realized that I did have a situation of exhaustion, I knew it was not good, but I didn't know what to do to stop this toxic inertia that had accumulated over time.
Later, I heard someone introduce a "two-minute distraction method".
In fact, people's superficial emotions will flow and change, you can be full of fear one minute, and full of joy the next, but if your attention is clinging to a thought, an emotion, you will let yourself get stuck there.
The "two-minute distraction method" is when you find yourself falling into the whirlpool of exhaustive thoughts again, immediately do something irrelevant such as going to the kitchen to cook, make a cup of tea, go for a walk outside, sit on the floor to stretch, and go to the supermarket to buy something.
I feel that "follow the video to do soothing yoga" is super effective, because you have to pay attention to the teacher's instructions in order to keep up with the movements, and at the same time pay attention to your body, so you can really temporarily distract yourself from the whirlpool of thinking. When you come back to your senses again, you will suddenly realize that in fact, I also felt good in those few minutes just now!
Although the "two-minute distraction method" cannot immediately solve the exhausting thinking that has been cultivated over the years, it can help you to reverse such negative thinking habits little by little, and every little bit at a time, it will definitely cause a change.