As the saying goes: "A distressed man is unlucky for a lifetime".
If one person says this by accident, if everyone says this, then there must be a reason.
In today's era, "soft rice men", "phoenix men" and "wealthy sons-in-law" can be said to be endless.
However, "eating soft rice" is nothing new, and eating soft rice is another way of saying it.
In the context of Chinese society, the term "son-in-law of a wealthy family" always evokes reverie.
It represents a dream of quickly crossing classes and getting rich overnight, as well as complex family politics and power plays.
And Shen Dongjun is undoubtedly one of the most representative and dramatic cases in the group of "wealthy sons-in-law".
As a young man from an ordinary background, he relied on his charm and intelligence.
won the favor of Ma Qiao, the daughter of Ma Chongren, a bigwig in the jewelry industry, and thus stepped into an enviable wealthy family.
What was supposed to be an inspirational story of struggle turned out to be a tragic tragedy.
And what kind of life is he living now?
The rise of Shen Dongjun
Shen Dongjun's rise to prominence is legendary.
He started out as an ordinary clerk in a travel agency, but he had a keen business acumen and excellent marketing skills.
In order to be able to gradually stabilize and gain a firm foothold in the jewelry industry.
With the full support of his wife Ma Qiao and father-in-law Ma Chongren,
Shen Dongjun created psychic jewelry, which gradually rose to become the leader of the industry.
However, with the rapid rise of his career, Shen Dongjun's inner desire is becoming stronger and stronger.
This growing desire may become a hidden worry on his way forward.
He was not willing to be just a successful jeweler, but set foot in the field of film and television, not to mention his frequent appearances in various variety shows.
even tried his best to create the image of a "domineering president".
Although this cross-border behavior won him more attention in the short term, it also exposed his excessive pursuit of fame and fortune.
After all, he embarked on the road of no return and lost himself
People often say, "Whether the husband is good or not, the original family knows", and Shen Dongjun's behavior confirms this.
Although he is beautiful on the surface, deep down he has never been able to get rid of his inferiority complex.
He desperately craves outside recognition, eager to prove that his success is not based on his wife's family.
Such a distorted psychology finally led him to embark on a path of no return.
Shen Dongjun began to alienate his wife, who supported him, and even spent all day drinking outside, raising an illegitimate child.
When his infidelity was exposed, he intensified it, instead of repenting.
Attempts to protect one's own interests by transferring property.
This kind of behavior not only betrays love, but also makes people feel spurned.
What's even more despicable is that when Ma Qiao filed for divorce, Shen Dongjun actually took extremely despicable revenge.
Not only did he slander his brother-in-law on social media, but he also tried to send his father-in-law's family to prison with false accusations.
This kind of behavior of revenge completely exposed his true face, and also let everyone see what kind of person she is.
What Shen Dongjun did not only ruined his career and marriage, but also lost his most precious trust and respect.
He used to be an enviable "son-in-law of a wealthy family", but now he has degenerated into a despised "white-eyed wolf".
This brings us to the ugliest side of human nature: greed, selfishness, and betrayal.
However, we cannot simply attribute Shen Dongjun's defeat to the degradation of personal morality.
In fact, his tragedy also reflects the general dilemma faced by the group of "wealthy sons-in-law".
Entering a wealthy family as a person with a foreign surname, sons-in-law often face the problem of identity.
They are not entirely part of their wife's family, and they have left their family of origin.
Such an embarrassing situation can easily lead to a change in people's psychology, which will give rise to a series of irrational actions.
Wealthy sons-in-law are often able to quickly gain great power and wealth, but these are not accumulated through long-term struggle.
They may lack the necessary sense of responsibility and management experience, and can easily get carried away by sudden success.
The label of "wealthy son-in-law" itself carries a certain negative color, and society's evaluation of them is often biased.
This external pressure can exacerbate their inferiority complex and drive them to constantly want to prove themselves.
In contrast, the story of Hong Kong's "charter man" Ng Kwong-ching provides a positive example.
As the "son-in-law of the strongest wealthy family on the surface", Wu Guangzheng relied on his wisdom and tenacity.
It not only won the trust of his father-in-law, Bao Yugang, but also developed the family industry to a new height.
The key to Ng's success lies in his humble and enterprising mindset at all times.
He is deeply aware of his hard-won position, so he cherishes it and persevers in learning and improving himself.
At the same time, he also knows how to be grateful, always respects his wife and father-in-law, and protects the interests of the family.
We also have to admit that even a "successful model" like Wu Guangzheng is not unbreakable.
In fact, both Shen Dongjun's failure and Wu Guangzheng's success have revealed a profound truth to us:
In complex relationships and power structures, maintaining one's original intention and ethics is more important than acquiring wealth and status.
Those who are lost in power and money will only end up losing everything.
And those who always stand by their beliefs and respect others can win real success and respect.
epilogue
For those who are interested in changing their fate through marriage, the stories of Shen Dongjun and Wu Guangzheng are undoubtedly cases worth pondering.
They need to know that becoming a wealthy family is not the end of life, but a new beginning.
This means more challenges and responsibilities that need to be faced and taken on with a new attitude.
At this starting point, they need to demand themselves with higher standards, continue to learn and grow, and prove their worth with practical actions.
At the same time, we also need to reflect on society's prejudices and stereotypes about "wealthy sons-in-law".
Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, and it is not a sin to have opportunities through marriage.
The key is how the person uses these opportunities, whether for their own selfish interests or to create greater social value.
We should look at this group in a more open and inclusive manner, and give them fair judgment and room for development.
Wealthy families also need to rethink how they manage and pass on their wealth.
Excessively harsh restrictions may dampen the motivation of the son-in-law, which is not conducive to the long-term development of the family business.
Building a partnership based on trust and shared values may be the key to ensuring the longevity of the family.
In general, the most important thing about the rise and fall of the group of "wealthy sons-in-law" comes from how they look at it.
Only in this way can you break out of your own world in such a wealthy family.
What do you think?
Information source: "Laishen Psychic Shen Dongjun Defeated" surging news released on 2021-12-06
"Whether it is Shen Dongjun or psychic jewelry, the IPO listing is just the beginning", released on December 5, 2016