In many love pain literatures, every man has two favorite people in his life, one is called white moonlight, and the other is called cinnabar mole, but as time passes, white moonlight becomes a grain of rice, and cinnabar mole becomes mosquito blood.
Men are greedy creatures, with cinnabar moles began to yearn for white moonlight, with white moonlight began to yearn for cinnabar moles, but Xili wanted to tell you that love is exclusive, want everything, and finally get nothing.
Cinnabar moles and white moonlight, like fish and bear paws, can never be combined! For men, such a topic is like choosing a lover who can bring passion and sweetness, or a wife with warm and happy hair.
In a man's heart, the wife and lover are like white moonlight and cinnabar moles, which one has a higher status, which one is more pleasing to men?
Many original wives have consulted Xili about this problem before, so today Xili came to discuss this issue with everyone, mainly from the mouths of three men to seek answers.
Maybe after reading today's article, you will get some answers that you want to know!
First: Mr. Zhao
In Mr. Zhao's view, compared with the wife, the lover is more important than the wife, and the wife is the first. Because whether it is love or passion will eventually mix into family affection, people are going to live a life.
Being a person should be realistic, no matter how beautiful the lover, getting along for a long time will also involve oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea, which is inevitable, so the lover is not as important as the wife.
Therefore, in this long life, only the wife can support each other with you, and the lover cannot do it.
The hair-tie wife is the one who accompanies you into the marriage hall, and the time spent with you will be very long, and perhaps the feelings between you will become shallow with the passage of time.
But when love becomes shallow, other emotions are gradually becoming thicker, will be transformed into family affection, friendship, etc., and for Mr. Zhao, looking for a lover is to try to stimulate and impulse, this heavy feeling is only formed because of a temporary temptation, and it can never last.
For Mr. Zhao, the lover is like a good color that appears in ordinary life, just like a flower, it represents the main ball of beauty, and everyone has the right to pursue beauty, but this is not the standard for living a life.
Although the flowers are beautiful, they will wither sooner or later, there are many beautiful flowers in this world, but the most perfect marriage is only once, the wife is not a flower, she is a solid support, flowers can always exist, and the incarnation of life wife is always so rare.
Second place: Mr. Liu
Unlike Mr. Zhao, who has a clear inner thought, Mr. Liu is lost in this dilemma between lover and wife, and he makes a mistake on impulse and has a lover.
At the beginning, it was only because of the boredom and bitterness of life, so in the tenth year of marriage, Mr. Liu, who saw that he had lost his passion in marriage, could not bear his loneliness and made a mistake.
In his mind at that time, nothing was fresh and exciting, so he cheated on him one step at a time.
However, after having a lover, in the face of a lover who does not care about human nature, Mr. Liu loves his virtuous and gentle wife instead, and he begins to recall the beautiful days when he did not have to worry about anything and had his wife as a backup.
No matter what problems arise in work or life, Mr. Liu's wife can help balance when her husband is busy, making people feel very secure, compared with Mr. Liu's lover is too young to take responsibility.
Once Mr. Liu is left to ignore his lover because of his work, the lover will be like an ignorant child, trying to do all kinds of ways to make peace, so that Mr. Li Liu is busy for a day, but also to find a way to make her happy, it is really painful.
In such an unreasonable quarrel, Mr. Liu was born and his lover was completely broken, and returned to the family, but at this moment, his wife suddenly discovered that Mr. Liu was cheating, just like suffering from a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and was greatly hit.
In Mr. Liu's view, as long as he confesses his mistake to his wife well, his wife will definitely forgive herself in the feelings of so many years, but this is not the case, Mr. Liu's wife directly filed for divorce.
In the face of his wife's determination, Mr. Liu was very surprised, but his wife bluntly said that she could understand Mr. Liu's cheating behavior, after all, the marriage is indeed like a pool of stagnant water, without the slightest freshness, so she does not blame him for making this choice.
However, like Mr. Liu, he has long had no yearning for this marriage, and since things have been like this, he will divorce him directly.
At this time, Mr. Liu, who still wants to save his marriage, is very sad, because after experiencing an extramarital affair, he knows the importance of marriage and his wife, and he does not want to give up this marriage, so he has been trying to find a way to delay the divorce process.
Third place: Mr. Zou
Mr. Zou and his wife have been married for nearly 20 years, and in these 20 years, Mr. Zou has not stopped his cheating behavior, he told Xili that he and his wife have been married for too long, and life is very boring.
So he had to find some fun for himself in the boring life, so he kept cheating.
And he has no feelings for his lovers, often changing with his own wishes, in his opinion, it will be very boring to spend a long time with his lover, and it will be more interesting to return to his wife at this time, so he did not divorce.
Of course, the more critical factor in the absence of divorce is that Mr. Zou's wife does not know about his cheating, Mr. Zou's wife is very gentle and atmospheric, very good to her husband, the two are college classmates, they have feelings for a long time, they naturally walk together, and they are successfully married.
Mr. Zou is a very popular man in college, it is his wife who takes the initiative to chase him first, but also ignores Mr. Zou's more general family environment directly married to this man, willingly busy for him, have children.
And Mr. Zou was used to being what he is now, life just got a little better, it began to deteriorate, as soon as he went out to chat with other people, he opened his mouth and shut up to be a woman.
His friends were very scornful of his behavior, and many male friends envied him for having such an excellent wife, otherwise Mr. Zou's life would certainly not be so beautiful.
They all firmly believe that when his wife knows about this, it must be Mr. Zou who regrets it, which will also punish him for not knowing how to cherish.
In fact, Xili originally did not want to analyze this topic specifically, because comparing lovers with wives is disrespectful to wives and disrespectful to women.
But today we can also find out that in fact, for men, why do they not divorce after cheating? Because the most important thing in their hearts is their wives.
So for some wives who want to save the marriage, it is very simple to let the man change his mind, the reason why he failed in the struggle with the third party is only because he did not find the right way, but reversed the status of himself and the little three.
If you are in this predicament, but do not know how to solve, you can always send a private message to Xili, I will be the first time, to give you the most professional guidance and help.