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Love is easy to get, marriage is hard to keep.
Many marriages, instead of failing because of poverty, die out of increasing wealth.
How many women, rich or poor, are willing to accompany their lovers, live up to each other, and live up to this life.
But how many men started in decline, but after the beginning, they gave up their original wives and turned their backs on their past feelings.
But there are always people who are different, Song Hong in the Eastern Han Dynasty, is a great husband who "does not seek wealth" and "does not want to change his wife".
With his own practical actions, he proved each other's promise of "sharing weal and woe, keeping each other for a lifetime; being reasonable and cherishing each other".
Today, let's take a look at the story behind "the wife of the chaff does not go to church".
Young and in times of trouble, accompanied by beautiful people
Song Hong was born into a family of official eunuchs, and his father, Song Shang, was then the Shaofu of the Western Han Dynasty.
Song Hong has been gentle and elegant since childhood, and has read a lot.
Just as the so-called "chest Tibetan ink is like a valley, the belly has a poetry and bookish atmosphere", Song Hong's reputation as "a young and promising, humble gentleman" has long been circulated at that time.
At the time of the great chaos in the world, the Chimei army invaded Chang'an, and when they heard of Song Hong's name, they sent someone to recruit him to become an official in the dynasty.
Song Hong was not optimistic about the Chimei Army, believing that they were rogue thieves, so he was reluctant to join the army.
However, forced by the threat of force by the Chimei army, Song Hong had to reluctantly go.
On the wei bridge, Song Hong suddenly threw himself into the water and committed suicide, but fortunately his family rescued him and saved him from death.
Taking advantage of this opportunity, Song Hong died in disguise, so that he could avoid this call.
But in Song Hong's heart, he still thought of building a meritorious career and shining on the lintel.
Liu Xiu's fame grew, and he was a descendant of the imperial family, so Song Hong went to Hebei to defect to him.
However, although Liu Xiu had the potential to rise in Hebei, he was still suppressed by the Chimei Army.
The Red Mei Army once issued a reward edict, and those who could kill Liu Xiu were rewarded with 100,000 households.
Liu Xiu's strength was weak at that time, and he was chased by Wang Lang all the way and ran away day and night.
During the battle, Song Hong was unfortunately wounded and fled to Raoyang territory, where Song Hong was too wounded to move forward.
The road ahead is bumpy, not easy to bump, and there are countless pursuing soldiers behind, Liu Xiu has no other choice but to attach Song Hong to a family surnamed Zheng.
The Zheng family is quite kind, treating Song Hong like a family, serving tea and water every day, eating and drinking well, just for him to recover as soon as possible.
The Zheng family has a daughter, although it is not a fall of the country, but it is also generous.
Take care of Song Hong every day, without complaint, decoct the soup and boil the medicine, boo the cold and ask for warmth, and always care for it.
Song Hong was greatly moved, and as the two of them contacted each other for a long time, they gradually developed a trace of affection.
After Song Hong was healed, he mentioned the affair to the Zheng family and was willing to marry this girl.
Song Hong is a man of integrity and does not like material desires, for him, marriage is the companionship of a lifetime, taking a wife a "virtuous", the second is "feelings".
In his eyes, "virtuous" is more precious and rare than being right at home, learning looks, etc., and it is the noblest virtue of a woman.
Under the circumstances at that time, Song Hong was a general of the defeated army, a fugitive, and a person that everyone avoided.
But the daughter of the Zheng family still did her best to help him and take care of him, and this suffering was shared by Song Hong.
The truth of danger is there, and it warms people's hearts day by day.
There are often eight or nine things that are not satisfactory in life, but there is a person who spends the trough with you, and everything is worth it.
The wife of the chaff is also the beloved
In the first year of Jianwu, Liu Xiu, the Emperor of Han Guangwu, took the throne and appointed Song Hong as the Grand Master of Taizhong.
The following year, Song Hong was promoted to the post of Grand Sikong and was given the title of Marquis of Liyi.
At this time, Song Hong had become one of the most powerful courtiers in the Eastern Han Dynasty.
If he is replaced by someone else, or pampered and proud, or amasses power and wealth, but Song Hong does not, his behavior in the world is still the same as in the past.
In dealing with his relatives, friends, and people, he treated them with sincerity, and even shared the rent he received with them, leaving only his thin property for living.
In dealing with his colleagues and subordinates, he was black and white, that is, he could recommend talents for the imperial court in an eclectic manner, and he dared to face up to the mistakes of his colleagues.
In dealing with the Guangwu Emperor Liu Xiu, he fulfilled his duties as a courtier, not only assisting him in governing the world, but also often speaking out and advising the emperor's words and virtues.
Fan Ye said in the Book of the Later Han Dynasty:
"Hongshi is far away, and Ren does not forget the original."
Song Hong was proud of his own power, and he preferred to see the emperor he assisted be praised by the world and left his name in the future.
Song Hong's virtuous name and conduct have won the praise of many people, and even the reputation has spread to the harem.
At that time, Liu Xiu's sister, Princess Liu Huang of Huyang, was newly widowed, and Liu Xiu was planning to find a new horse for her.
When Liu Huang heard of Song Hong's name, he said to Liu Xiu:
"The appearance and virtue of the Duke of Song, no one in the imperial court can catch up."
Although Liu Xiu understood his sister's intentions, Song Hong already had a wife in the family, and if he wanted to marry his sister, he would first have to take off his own knotted wife.
Liu Xiu knew that this matter was unreasonable, but he also had a vague hope in his heart that Song Hong could agree to this family affair.
Song Hongruo agreed that not only would his sister be happy, but he would also be able to bring him closer.
Therefore, Liu Xiuzhao Song Hong entered the palace, intending to persuade him to divorce his wife.
Liu Xiu said to Song Hong:
"I have heard such a proverb, called 'noble and easy to make friends, rich and easy to wife', that is, when a person is rich, he must stay away from his friends when he was poor, and re-acquaint himself with the same rich people;
When the family has money, they have to leave their old wives in the family and marry wives who are more likely to match themselves, do you think so? ”
After Song Hong listened, he said to Liu Xiu:
"The knowledge of the poor and the lowly must not be forgotten, and the wife of the chaff does not go to the church."
A virtuous person cannot forget the friends he knew and befriended when he was poor; likewise, he cannot abandon his wife who suffers and suffers with him at will.
Song Hong's heartfelt words dispelled the plot in Emperor Guangwu's heart, and also made Liu Huang completely die to him.
After this incident, Liu Xiu finally understood that Song Hong was not a person who sold his reputation and reputation, and his feelings for his wife were so real and touching.
Song Hong has always adhered to his original intention. No matter whether you are a lowly noble person, whether you are powerful or powerful, your "wife of chaff" will always be your own wife who "foams at each other".
Although the most difficult to forget is to share suffering, the most difficult to keep together is to share happiness.
But Song Hong would rather give up the opportunity to be a donkey, but also to stay with his wife who accompanied him through danger.
Sharing weal and woe will eventually lead to one person
Coincidentally, in history, in addition to Song Hong, there are also Tang Dynasty generals, Wei Chigong.
Li Shimin once said that he was a matchmaker for his daughter and wanted to give her to Wei Chigong, but Wei Chigong had already become a family.
In the face of such love, Wei Chigong also chose to refuse:
Although the wife of the subordinate is vulgar and ugly, she has not lost her marital love so far.
Subordinates often hear the words of the ancients: 'Rich is not easy to wife' is the expression of benevolence. ”
Song Hong and Wei Chigong, although they were one article and one martial art, one after the other, but in the face of the emperor's supreme authority, they still dared to adhere to their hearts and not give up their old feelings, which made people particularly moved.
Then, when there is a real husband, there is a hypocrite.
In history, those treacherous scumbags are not in the minority.
Speaking of Wu Qi, people will always think of his use of soldiers like gods, his hard work to govern; but in fact, he is a greedy and lustful villain who will stop at nothing to achieve his goals.
Wu Qi was a Weiguo man, and later fled to the state of Lu because of his anger to kill the townspeople, and studied Confucianism with Zengzi.
Once, the TianJu of the Qi State Doctor came to the State of Lu to ask Zeng Zi for political affairs.
During the conversation, Tian Ju quickly noticed Wu Qi beside Zengzi and felt that he had the style of a general, so he married his daughter to him as a wife.
After that, Wu Qi retired from Confucianism and began to concentrate on the study of martial arts.
Three years later, Wu Rose dacheng became a doctor of Lu Guo.
When the State of Qi attacked Lu, Duke Lu Mu wanted To make Wu Qi commander-in-chief, but because his wife was from the State of Qi, Duke Lu Mu hesitated.
After Wu Qi learned of this, he went back to his house to see his wife and said to her:
"Now Qi Valu, because my wife is a Qi person, the monarch will not use me, and now borrow my wife's head to fulfill my meritorious name."
However, he took up the knife and murdered his wife.
Qi Guo Falu, it is when Wu Qi embodies his ability, compared to the love of husband and wife, he values the fame and fortune of the world more.
Borrowing his wife's life to show his ambition, this is the story of Wu Qi's "killing his wife and asking for a general".
Rich and noble are sincere, plain and gentle.
A truly responsible man never uses his wife as a chip. No matter where you live or where you are, your family will always be the people you are trying to protect.
After going through the wind and rain, it has not been separated, and now the rich and noble are dependent on each other, but they have to betray and calculate, which is probably the saddest place of feelings.
Never forget the ups and downs of the past, and repaying your wife with your own support and companionship is the most solemn promise to each other's lives.
Poverty remains with each other, wealth remains unchanged, and husband and wife can forever be united and unswerving until death.
"Whether it is good times and adversity, rich and poor, sick and healthy, they all love each other and cherish each other until they die."
This is the most important promise that two people who love each other should keep.
Because they understand each other, they can face each other even if the reality is cruel;
Because they are sincere with each other, even if they are rich and prosperous, they can remain unchanged;
Because the original intention remains unchanged, even if the identity changes, we can walk hand in hand.
Jun En is like a stone that never moves, and a concubine is as tough as silk.
In fact, at the beginning of love, it is not difficult for you and me to wish, but the difficulty is that they will not change with each other and stay together for a lifetime.
If two people are not afraid of rich and poor, not afraid of winning or losing, understanding each other, and respecting each other, such feelings, it is difficult to think of happiness.