Good evening, friends. The "fake sexual intimacy" in love that I have talked to you about before is very draining, and the two people are just "wine and meat couples" who eat and drink, rather than soul partners with spiritual resonance.
Many people don't know that there are actually fake intimate relationships in friendships. One-sided giving and companionship is probably more terrifying than that kind of plastic sister.
I remember seeing a submission, a sister said that she met a girl during the learning to drive, the two people often sent WeChat chat, the other party told her a lot about themselves, and they would also come out to play together on weekends. When the girls talk to her less and less after learning to drive, they contact her to say that they have been busy lately, and then find that they have been deleted by her.
She was very confused, obviously felt trusted, thought that she had made a new friend, but did not expect that she was the other party's "training limited playmate".
I had a similar experience, once meeting a girl at a friend's party because of her initiative and enthusiasm to quickly establish a sisterhood, and during that time we played together almost every day.
It didn't take long for her to fall in love with a boy and often talk to me about her emotional confusion. But as their relationship heated up, she contacted me less and less. They automatically ignored me after dating, and the boyfriend was always her first priority.
She no longer shared her happiness and troubles with me, and many times she made an appointment to go out with her boyfriend, who came to me temporarily when he had something to do. Either it was difficult to meet with me once, or it was necessary to talk to the object of the whole process, and there was no room for the sisters to talk about their hearts.
No matter how heavy the love period of friends, I can tolerate and understand. Sisters in love must be blessed, and do a good job as a behind-the-scenes emotional analyst, this is a conscious and qualified friend.
I contacted her frequently again because there was a problem with their relationship and could not be solved, so they broke up. Her whole being became very depressed and negative, and I could only do my best to comfort her, to be her emotional trash can, to spend that sad time with her.
She was in a little bit of a better mood, I thought she didn't have a boyfriend, we could still become as close as before, and I was less and less in contact with her.
When I also needed to tell people about my heart, she did not respond and feedback positively, but seemed to be very perfunctory, and at this time I also wanted to understand that I should no longer feel the truth about this false and intimate friendship.
I gave her trust and companionship in this friendship, maybe just one-way. I just had a lot of her secrets and haven't been taken seriously, and it wasn't the friendship I wanted.
And true intimacy comes and goes, and two people with similar interests attract each other to become friends. I can be with her when she needs me, and she never misses when I need her.
Another good friend who has known me for more than ten years is like this for me, and I feel warm and down-to-earth when I think of it.
From junior high school to realize now, even in the past many years, the friends around us have changed one after another, even if we can't see each other often now, we still have a desire to share and protect each other, and still care and trust each other.
I often talk to each other about my thoughts and thoughts, and when she is sad, you can talk to me, and I will give her comfort and companionship. When I'm confused, I can also share it with her, and she will also give me advice and help.
True intimate friendship, one's maintenance and support is not enough, it requires both parties to operate with their hearts, and it is mutual respect and care.
It's really a blessing to have a stable and super close friend, and you know that no matter what happens, each other is the one who unconditionally supports each other.
She will always think about the other party, worry about the other party's bad things, be happy for the progress and happiness of the other party, and hope that she will live better.
Truly close friends may not chat and meet often, sticking together all the time, but we will still be important people in each other's hearts.
Thank you to the friends who have stayed with me, laughing with me and crying together. They taught me that a hand-in-hand friendship may be more reliable and precious than a side-by-side love.
Head image / Arren Aaren
Illustration / "Boyfriend's Girlfriend"
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