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Someone asked: What is the real reason for divorce?
The answer is: get married.
Marriage is a pool of sugar water, and how many men and women who can't swim compete to jump in — those who haven't learned to swim before drowning, divorce becomes the only way out.
Whether you're not married yet, or you're married, understanding marriage can avoid future divorce.
I have a female classmate who has been divorced three times.
According to her, the first husband loved to quarrel, the second husband loved domestic violence, and the third husband cheated on her – anyway, several divorces were the ex-husband's fault.
I don't know if she still believes in love, but I'm sure – if she marries again, the end will still be divorce.
A person who can't swim, how many pools to change is useless.
A person who does not understand marriage cannot find true love no matter how many times he has been divorced.
People are social animals, and how to get along with others is a very important knowledge.
Unfortunately, the ethical and moral education in traditional culture has been neglected by us for a long time. As a result, the vast majority of today's Chinese and their ability to deal with ethical relationships is very low.
Book education from childhood to adulthood is either a formula or a theorem, or "An can destroy the eyebrows and bend the waist of the powerful, so that I can't be happy", let us fight for right and wrong in everything, just to get the only correct answer.
If we unconsciously bring this habit into interpersonal communication, it will be a mess.
When you are alone, you are the protagonist of the world, and it doesn't matter how willful you are.
When you get along with others, your relationship is the protagonist, and it doesn't matter who is right and who is wrong.
The relationship between husband and wife, which is also a kind of interpersonal relationship, is not a special case.
Both husband and wife should do their best to maintain the relationship between husband and wife, which is the most important thing.
Being paranoid about who is right and who is wrong will only make you win right and wrong and lose the relationship. In the long run, your relationship between husband and wife has become the biggest mistake - divorce is inevitable.
So, how to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife?
This requires both spouses to develop two abilities: the ability to handle conflict and the ability to be friendly.
There is no one in the world who can be more intimate than a husband and wife. Between husband and wife, we must communicate frequently and try to talk as much as possible.
When there is a conflict of concepts between husband and wife, we must warn ourselves: "I can only discuss things on the facts, and I must not hurt the feelings of husband and wife." If I can't argue, it's not a big deal for me to compromise. ”
Between husband and wife, friendship can also be cultivated. For example, reading together, playing badminton, traveling...
In this way, with the blessing of love, friendship and other feelings, the relationship between husband and wife will be more solid.
Finally, to summarize:
The real reason for divorce: get married without understanding marriage, get married and don't understand marriage.
In marriage, it does not matter who is right and who is wrong, it is important to maintain the relationship between husband and wife.
Both husband and wife can be friends and deal with conflicts together, and the feelings will be stable.
If you understand marriage, marriage is the paradise of love;
If you don't understand marriage, marriage is the graveyard of love.
Give someone a rose, and the hand has a lingering fragrance. Paying attention to the author is also a kind of kindness.