Two years earlier, I met a little fart shoe and blurted out "auntie", and I was a little angry. But by this year, it seems that he has become a Buddha, and there is no wave in his heart. After all, if the mother of the bear child is 27 or 28 years old, I have indeed reached the age of the mother.
But I think the more important reason is that getting older, I don't seem to care as much as I did in the previous two years, and I have an inexplicable magical confidence.
I believe that myself in my thirties and forties will be better than when I am twenty.
There is a line in the Miss Marple series. The young maid asked the gentle and wise woman, "When will I become as good as you?" Miss Marple said, "Wait a little older." ”
▲ "Detective Miss Marple", Geraldine McEwan as Miss Marple
Being scolded by an old woman or a big mother on social networks is the most popular experience for contemporary women. There is no need to be mean and bitter, as long as the condition of "old" is met, it is the original sin of women. It seems that the so-called old woman is an undignified human being.
In Chinese semantics, "old woman" is often associated with unseemly. From time to time, when I hear others complain about my boss, I say "the old woman who refuses to let people go to work", and the old woman who works hard in various offices is as fast as a sea otter...
▲ To feel better is the bigger the more attractive, the picture is Yu Peier
I hate all the labels about "old woman". It seems to me that tying old age and loneliness, unseemly, greed, careful eyes, and strength together is a terrible mindset.
I believe more in Miss Marple's philosophy of not being a deduction for age when evaluating women, a score of youth and beauty, and not being intelligent and mentally attractive enough.
Recently turned Miss Marple out to see, I have to say, Marple is my favorite old lady.
Marple is Agatha Christine's female detective. I really like Miss Marple more than the more famous, petite, chubby detective Poirot from Belgium.
Polo comes from the upper class, eats and dresses decently, is arrogant and cute, and relies on his "gray cells" to solve the case, but it is still too common for me. A smart and decent man, well, though a little bit of cleanliness and eccentricity, no one would question his abilities, the usual detective routine.
▲ Agatha Christie
Handling cases requires too much intelligence, and carrying everything is usually men. In Agatha's time, there were very few female detectives, female investigators, and female scientists.
But Agatha wrote Miss Marple. She is like the big sister and aunt Ma you can see in the wet market, the dress is not fashionable enough, it looks harmless, twittering, carefree, and even a little naïve. But she was the hidden boss.
▲ Where there is gossip, where there is my Marple
In the Case of Rye Macky, she is written:
"Tall old woman, wearing an outdated tweed coat and skirt, plus two scarves, and a small tweed hat with bird wings. Carry a large bag in your hand and an old suitcase with good materials at your feet. ”
Dressed up isn't trendy, she doesn't look shrewd, and often leads criminals to mistakenly think she's not threatening.
You think she's playing with yarn, talking about gossip, and in private she's already figured out your eight generations of family relationships, and by the way, she has set up a plan to force out the real culprit.
▲ Knitting sweater every day, sweater native dress Miss Marple
I always feel that every stable big family will have a Miss Marple.
Their interest is not necessarily to solve cases. When I look at Miss Marple, I think of my mother-in-law from time to time, she has a skill, only with the family, but also to guess the state of mind of each person, who takes care of it.
Watching Agatha's autobiography, I feel that Miss Marple also has the shadow of Agatha's mother.
She has an intuitive instinct that always unexpectedly sees through people's minds. When my brother served in the military, he was in financial crisis but didn't want his parents to know. One night, his mother saw him sitting with a sad face. "What's wrong, Monty?" She said, "You borrowed usury. Did you go into debt through your grandfather's will? You shouldn't do that. You'd better go talk to your father first. This shocked Monty. The Autobiography of Agatha Christie
▲ Miss Marple, who likes gardening
Agatha does not seem to have written about Miss Marple's youth, and she appeared in her 60s and 70s, living alone in the English countryside of St Mary Mead, a quiet and cozy town.
But the old lady couldn't stay at all, she was very keen on all kinds of gossip, because humanity could be seen in it.
Marple was not short of money, well educated, and had a German female tutor in her youth. He likes to read poetry and talks to strangers about which poet from time to time. There is a nephew who writes detective novels. Like the male detectives, Miss Marple was never married.
I don't think Agatha has elaborated on Marple's emotional drama, but in the play version, Miss Marple seems to have an old lover.
Like many women of that era, because of the First World War, men went to the front line, and a group of women became a generation of unmarried people. Therefore, the women of that era also flowed more into the current power market and embarked on the road of professional women.
The local position is still incomparable to that of men, basically typists, secretaries who are used as vases, and so on.
The women of the same class as Miss Marple were either running tea parties, banquets, or running the family, miss Marple was a "detective." She had never received the official title of detective, and handled murders much more shrewdly than a confused sheriff.
I prefer Marple to Sherlock Holmes and pineapple. Old ladies like Marple are too permeable.
The too clever detectives are mostly idiots of life, digging into the puzzle and needing an assistant to take care of his life, Miss Marple, not only smart, but also worldly wisdom, solving cases depends on insight into human nature.
She can always see the pain of others accurately, trying to understand their pain, loss and hatred. That's a great skill that only people who have been through the cracks and have a mature and strong heart can possess.
Miss Marple is sometimes quite vulgar. Walk around like most old ladies with a wooden basket. But I also want to completely eliminate the vulgar side of life.
By the age of sixty or seventy, maybe I was similar to her, planting some flowers and being keen on gossip. Occasionally, you can also have an afternoon tea and tap Si Kang. A friend shouted and ran for an outing.
But as soon as you get serious, you can shine. Miss Marple, who has always been on the side of justice, loves and hates, private choices, and never loves to chew the root of her tongue. At best, they will tell some poignant truths about life when human beings are entangled.
I think that being such an old woman is actually not too bad.
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