Xu Yu, born in 1989, is an only child with a well-off family, working in a local commercial bank, and her parents are employees of public institutions. Divorced at the end of this year, because her ex-husband Du Tao cheated on Miss.
Xu Yu has a first love, the two are right at home, and they have also reached the point of talking about marriage. It's just that the parents of both sides are too strong, arguing over a series of issues such as buying a house, decoration, wedding, and having children, and finally ending up with an old and dead relationship.
When she was 26 years old, she met Du Tao. Du Tao is a middle-level leader in a local foreign company, with an annual salary of about 200,000 yuan.
Du Tao worked hard when he went to school, and after graduating from high school, he was admitted to a well-known university in Shanghai, and later, in order to survive, he gave up the opportunity to protect research and entered this foreign company. He is not a native, his family is poor, fortunately he is an only son, and his parents have done their best to cultivate him.
He has a high emotional intelligence, speaks thoughtfully and thoughtfully, always looks clean and decent at the dinner table, never opens the meat cavity, and is polite to the lady.
Xu Yu began to think that Du Tao might be a good choice. She is not young, with the pressure of marriage, her parents' small calculations she knows, the best marriage house to buy in the same community, it is best to have two children, one with her surname.
Later, the two began to contact privately, and Xu Yu revealed her thoughts little by little to test Du Tao, and although Du Tao had a hint of reluctance in his heart, he did not show it.
The next year, the two were married. The wedding room, decoration, and wedding are all decided by Xu Yu's mother, and Du Tao has no opinion. Xu Yu did not ask for a dowry, but instead shared all the expenses such as the down payment, decoration money, and wedding with Du Tao.
After marriage, Du Tao took his parents over to live for a while, and also ripped off the robe of their gorgeous marriage relationship. Parents have worked hard all their lives, have no culture, and have many habits that do not fit in with them. Xu Yu was always on top and could not talk about any respect; her mother-in-law came to clean up at both ends of the three days, and her speech was extremely ugly.
The meals made by his parents, Xu Yu is not used to eating, he wants to go back to his mother's house to eat; his parents drag the ground, Xu Yu feels dirty, and he wants his mother-in-law to drag; Xu Yu and his mother-in-law use dialects to come and go, and his parents can only listen to laughter...
In the end, the parents shook their heads to go back to their hometown, but before leaving, they touched their son's hand and wept, in the eyes of the parents, the son was wronged. The tears of his parents burned Du Tao's heart.
It was also at this time that Du Tao and Yu Jing had frequent contact. At the beginning, the two met, because of a business reception by Du Tao, the other party was a play café, after the reception wanted to sing, they entered Yu Jing's KTV.
Born in 1991, Yu Jing graduated from art secondary school, had dreamed of stardom, did group performances in Hengdian, and also participated in the acting talent show, but all of them returned home. Three years ago, she returned to this county-level city exhausted to open a small KTV, and she also accompanied the wine...
KTV is much the same, but Yu Jing personally came out to accompany the wine that day, leaving a deep impression on Du Tao. Yu Jing is a veteran, can push away the hand you want to eat tofu without a trace, can coax you to drink and sing in three words, as long as you pay, everything is easy to say, do not think that you are lowly, nor do you think that you are noble.
Later, Du Tao helped Yu Jing bring a lot of business, and the two began to contact each other individually, and when he was in a bad mood, he drank in Jing's small office, and while drinking, a relationship occurred.
Du Tao had no intention of divorce, and Yu Jing had no idea of marrying.
He wants to be busy with his livelihood, he doesn't have so much time and money to raise his lover; he wants to take care of his family, after all, he is married, and he will have children in the near future; he is holding it in front of outsiders, just because he has no wayward capital, who can be more noble than anyone? At the end of the day, it's not all the same.
Yu Jing thinks that between them, you love me, you can't talk about feelings, it can be said that you are a wine friend, a cannon friend, and you can barely be considered a friend, just like that.
In the winter of 2017, Xu Yu was pregnant, with serious morning sickness and unstable fetal signs, and needed to stay in bed for rest. Du Tao had no choice but to follow her back to her mother's home.
In the summer of 2018, Du Tao's son was born, he looked at that wrinkled little face, and the joy rose from his heart, it was so good! Du Tao's parents came from their hometown to see their grandson, brought 100 domestic-raised eggs, wrapped in thick cotton cloth, and although they traveled a long way, none of them were broken.
The two rubbed their hands to try to hold their grandson, but their mother-in-law stopped them and asked them to wash their hands and change their clothes. Eggs were also thrown in the corner, leaving no one to care.
During Xu Yu's confinement, Du Tao was angry for the first time. His mother-in-law said to him, "Xiao Tao, Yu Yu and you are married, we originally did not agree." But Yu Yu is willing, and we support her. Buying a house, decorating, and getting married are all equal to your family, because we have always taken Yu Yu as a son. We want to discuss with you, this child with our surname, in two years to regenerate one, with your last name, okay? ”
Du Tao turned his head to Xu Yu, seeing that she had been fiddling with her fingers with her head down, and knew in her heart, they had all discussed everything, and now it was time to inform him? He said, "Mom, if you have another one, you can consider it." ”
"Oh, what do you mean by this child?" Yu Yu worked hard to conceive and give birth, during which one of your family cared? Besides, the child is not brought by me? Do you let your parents bring it? Raising a child is not money, your salary is still paying off the mortgage, raising a family is not bad, and ..."
Xu Yu immediately stopped his mother and said, "Mom, let's talk about it later." ”
Du Tao said in a gambling tone, "What happened to my parents, I just brought it with my parents." Since I gave birth to him, I must be able to raise him. "After saying that, I slammed the door and left, and I didn't return for the night."
Xu Yu finally persuaded his parents and let the child's surname be Du. She felt ashamed of her parents and prepared to have a second child in advance. However, at the beginning of this year, he knew the fact that Du Tao cheated on Miss.
Xu Yu knew that there was something wrong between himself and Du Tao, but he felt that it was not serious, it was nothing more than the child put on her mother's side, he was reluctant; the child called her parents and grandparents, he was not happy. Later, when he did not return home more and more times throughout the night, Xu Yu began to suspect, and once he checked, he found out the problem.
Xu Yu did not expect that her husband would cheat on a young lady. She could not calm down, even her parents joined the ranks of the siege and blockade, and even in the end, when Du Tao's unit was disturbed, no one could live in peace.
Du Tao thought that if others cheated and kneel down to beg for forgiveness, he would save trouble and directly sentence him to death, and the death sentence would not work, but he would be shot immediately.
Xu Yu's family demanded that the child belong to themselves and insisted that Du Tao clean up the house, otherwise she would not be able to swallow this breath. After more than three years, house prices have risen sharply, and Du Tao insisted on not letting go.
After a year of tug-of-war, it was agreed that the marriage house would be in the name of his son, Du Tao would repay the mortgage, Xu Yu would be responsible for living expenses, and the two would jointly raise the children, which would be able to sign a divorce.
On the day of signing the divorce, Xu Yu asked Du Tao: "Don't you feel sick about such a woman?" Du Tao said, "You think you are noble?" I think she's pretty, and I'm comfortable with her. Oh, and we're getting married soon. ”
Xu Yu fled the scene without turning back, afraid of spitting it out, and she felt that she might not get married again in this life.
Yu Jing did not expect to marry Du Tao, but she knew that she did not resist this step. So many years, ups and downs, see more, see through, as long as someone is willing to marry, she can marry, anyway, do not suffer losses.
Zi Yu said:
This story is told by the reader, and I have compiled it. How to say it? I am not surprised by the idea of a man like "Du Tao". Women generally have a greater sense of morality than men, especially sexual morality. But in reality, a large percentage of men don't think this is important.
In reality, including myself, I will overestimate my own conduct, while men feel that everyone is similar; we think, we should read books to demand ourselves, not others; in the relationship between the sexes, the other party is your real opponent, others are not, do not strengthen them; actively solve problems, learn lessons to make themselves better, the right way.