The Tang Dynasty poet Han Yu once said: "Instead of being happy with one's body, one should worry about one's heart." Inner happiness is the most precious thing in life. And most happiness is not something that others can give, and we need to find it ourselves, which is what we often call "having fun" it. In fact, really smart people are good at "having fun" for themselves! The following 6 secret recipes make you happy and happy, and those who can really understand it will never live too tired in life!
1. Don't be jealous and have fun.
As the saying goes, "there are people outside the people, there are heavens outside the sky", manpower is always exhausted, people cannot surpass everyone in all aspects, there will always be places that are inferior to people. When you find that others are better than yourself in some ways, have a heart and pattern of applauding others, not jealousy. Without jealousy, you can enjoy the happiness of others and share the happiness of others. In fact, psychologists have long pointed out that jealousy is a pathological psychology, and people who like jealousy are often not happy.
2. Contentment and happiness.
Contentment is easy to see as lack of initiative, which is actually a cognitive bias. Contentment mainly refers to contentment in material life, not in career pursuits. Happiness is a feeling, and it is not too directly related to material things and money. In life, those who should fight should actively fight, and the extraordinarily famous and profit should not be too greedy, otherwise it is easy to find trouble for themselves.
Some things are happy to get, and some things are not to be happy. The contented are always happy, and the disgruntled are always struggling in the sea of suffering. Not too harsh on yourself, not greedy for fame and fortune, insatiable, everything can be seen, think open, keep the heart frank, let the mood comfortable, everything goes naturally, it will be easy to "find fun" for yourself.
3. Make angry and have fun.
Learning to control anger is the core content of emotional management, and it is also a magic recipe for making you happy. Psychologists have found that when people are emotionally angry, blood flow and breathing will be accelerated, the heartbeat will be violent, and the whole body is in an out-of-control state, which is not only difficult to be happy, but also hurts the health of the body and is difficult to obtain longevity. Learn to control anger, stabilize emotions, stabilize spirits, it is easier to find fun, and truly enjoy happiness.
4. Enjoy yourself.
In the face of fierce social competition and complex interpersonal relationships, many modern people will feel very tired, mention happiness, and even have a sense of strangeness, such a life, is undoubtedly a failure. People, to learn to "find fun" for themselves, that is, to enjoy themselves, for example, to cultivate a wide range of interests, increase leisure time, to do what they really like... In this way, it promotes thinking, abandons troubles, adds fun, and makes yourself feel spiritually enjoyed and full of life.
5. Take pleasure in doing good.
Zhang Jingyue, a famous medical scientist of the Ming Dynasty, wrote in the "Theory of Successive Heavens": "Only music can be healthy, and those who want to be happy are good." Point out that there is no better way to live happily than to do more good deeds. Doing good is the basis of accumulating virtue, the source of happiness, a noble act and virtue, and a sublimation of personality. Be a person, maintain a kind nature, be lenient with others, be helpful, and dedicate your own strength to others and society, then you yourself will feel a joy from the heart, just like people often say: give people roses, and have a lingering fragrance in your hands.
6. Smile often.
As the saying goes: "Laugh a little, ten years less", "a laugh to solve a thousand sorrows". Laughter can stimulate the secretion of many immune-related chemicals in the human body and can effectively balance the mind. Keeping your mouth open is one of the biggest secrets of being happy. On the contrary, it is always depressed and sad, and it is naturally not easy to be happy.