First of all, I want to do a debunking of rumors. These two days, I wanted to write an article about housework for children to participate in, so when I was sorting out the information on the weekend, a title on the major websites was swiped. "Harvard Study: Children Who Do Housework Are More Successful", this title is so popular that it has been used by many marketing numbers to wash manuscripts. I believe that such a title, we will definitely hear in a lot of marketing numbers, which talk about what Harvard University research shows that children do housework from an early age, and grow up to be more successful than children who do not do housework. I can't help but sigh, what kind of ghost research is this, studied for nearly 70 years to study whether a successful person did not do housework when he was a child?
After investigation, it turned out that in a previous TED talk (a foreign non-profit lecture, regularly arranged for industry celebrities to speak, aimed at spreading success and creativity) an educator who was a mother: Julie Leascote-Hyams. She teased this passage in her speech. It is very short, only three or four sentences have passed, but it has been strongly associated with the educational methods mentioned above in the speech by major marketing numbers.
In fact, this so-called Harvard study refers to a study that spans 78 years at Harvard University. The study, which culminated in a "happiness" code in an elite population by tracking hundreds of people in different identities in family environments. It's more about studying the effects between happiness, love, connection, and happiness. As a result, because of the casual mention in a speech by an educationalist, it was used by countless marketing numbers to hard combine into a conspicuous headline.
Back to the theme, is it really so important for children to do housework? My response was, "Not a top priority, but not necessarily." ”
For children, housework is more important to participate and cultivate self-reliant personality. It is undeniable that the family is a small prototype of society. In the family, children can learn and progress through status cognition, participation in things, and even when parents talk about shopping, they can generate cognition of society. Then in society, it can make him more comfortable to think and act independently.
Doing housework is not a necessity for success, but to use him as a means of educating and cultivating children, when we let the children take out the garbage and pack their clothes, let him realize that he is a member of the family, and what he can pay for this family to make the family better. When children learn to do things independently in the miniature social system of the home, presumably after they grow up, children can better integrate into the new environment and find and realize their own value.
As for the housework list, what kind of housework is suitable for children to do, there is no standard here, parents can arrange according to their actual situation, but do not let children do everything, such as children under 3 years old, we let them sweep the floor and organize their own toys. 3 years old - Before school age, we can let them take out the garbage and fold the quilts to make the bed. The greater the danger when they understand the knowledge of electricity, strangers, then we can let them run errands to get couriers, buy things...
After going through housework, parents must give their children encouragement and correction so that their children can grow better. This is the role of housework, not the so-called housework to do, a package, the child will bear hardships and stand hard work in society after doing more, we must put participation first, remember that this is only part of the cultivation of children's independent personality. We must regard doing housework as a small tempering for our children, maintain the measure and degree, and remember it too late.
As for cultivating the child's independent personality, in addition to doing housework, there are also internal affairs such as self-washing, and the exercise of participating in family decision-making can be said. I will open a new article to describe. Pay attention to parenting, I will share more articles on parenting education.