Text: Cradle of Love Smile Winter
Use the simplest words to give you warmth, give you companionship, lead you to grow, and help you be strong.
In life, everyone is not an island and needs to deal with others.
Therefore, in addition to IQ, a person's emotional intelligence plays a very important role during this period.
Only people with high emotional intelligence will make others feel very comfortable with you, and they will have good popularity.
People with low emotional intelligence always say things that are easy to hurt others without thinking, and they are disliked without knowing it.
Language is an art, and learning to speak is a very important lesson in interpersonal communication.
In the world, everyone's personality is very different, so we have to use different methods when communicating with different people.
Being able to talk is far more difficult than being able to do things. It is not easy to speak well, to speak comfortably, and to speak just right, because this is the embodiment of a person's comprehensive ability of wisdom, experience, eloquence, and emotional intelligence.
People with high emotional intelligence often show their comprehensive strength at the right time, no matter where they go, they can be welcomed and play with ease in interpersonal communication.
People with low emotional intelligence always hang the following three sentences on their lips, embarrass themselves, embarrass others, and often have problems in interpersonal communication.
01
Arrogant and arrogant words
People with high emotional intelligence know how to be careful in words and deeds, and will not say some words that are proud and complacent and have no one in sight; while people with low emotional intelligence often like to say arrogant and arrogant words.
But "the wood is in the forest, and the wind will destroy it." A person who is too sharp will often be jealous of those around him.
People who are arrogant and look down on others will make people feel difficult to approach and get along with, and in the end they will respect him and be reluctant to associate with him.
What's more, he will deliberately "trip" him and wait to see his jokes.
In real life, those who speak arrogantly and arrogantly often can't make friends, don't fit in, and their popularity is getting worse and worse.
In fact, sometimes, seeing through without saying broken, taking the initiative to show weakness, pretending to be confused, is also a way of self-protection.
There are people outside the people, there is a heaven outside the sky, know not to be arrogant, not to be humble, to respect others, to treat themselves well, is a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom.
02
Words of complaining about life
In life, we often hear some people complaining, complaining about bad weather and traffic jams, complaining about trivial affairs, complaining that life is difficult and can't go on...
They are always complaining and emitting full of negative energy. In fact, this is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence, which has no benefit except to make people upset and avoid it.
Instead of complaining about life's many unsatisfactory, it is better to face it positively and make changes as much as you can. Life will also slowly get better inadvertently. Only those who strive to live an optimistic life can let the sun penetrate little by little and dispel the haze.
Everyone has the right kind of pressure in their lives, no one likes to be with a grumbling, complaining person, and no one wants to be a trash can for others to pour out negative emotions, and let their mood get worse and worse.
Therefore, you must learn to find problems from yourself, and solve them in time, so that you can become excellent, become strong, and become cheerful, in order to live as you want to be, attract others to get close to you.
Therefore, no matter how difficult and unbearable life is, it cannot be used as an excuse for Lu Xun's "Xianglin Sister-in-law", chattering about life, sighing and sighing all day, shrouded in the cloud of bad emotions, and life can not get any improvement.
It is better to cheer up, think about how to live a good life, and make an effort, this is the first step towards a happy life, may wish to try.
03
I don't know what to do
Everything is too late, and it is even more so when it is spoken. Say the words, splash out the water. What to say and what not to say, you must have a number in your heart.
Speaking in a measured manner is a person's quality, but also a person's emotional intelligence.
For example, when others fall and fail, we can't stand by and say something cool about "knowing today, why did you know it in the first place";
And you must help appropriately, comfort a few words, let others feel your kindness and support, others will trust you.
For example, when others are happy and happy, we must not pour some cold water and say some words of criticism and accusation, but appropriate affirmation, congratulations and encouragement, so that others can feel your sincerity and understanding, and others will like you.
Whether it is doing things or speaking, we must know how to be measured, grasp the principle of moderation, know how to respect the privacy of others, and maintain the face of others, so that people can feel comfortable and comfortable in getting along with others, so that they are willing to contact you and be willing to make deep friends with you.
Emotional intelligence is a comprehensive embodiment of a person's quality and cultivation.
A person's emotional intelligence is not achieved overnight, but through the accumulation of habits to slowly realize, gradually tempered.
Be a person with high emotional intelligence, know how to take care of other people's feelings, put others in your heart, and others will be willing to get along with you.
Be a person with high emotional intelligence, learn to speak, know the measure, let yourself be more sincere and kind, others will feel comfortable and beautiful.
In this way, your friends will be more and more, the road will be wider and wider, let's cheer together!
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