In the original work, Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo had to get married early because they were unmarried and pregnant, and it took their best efforts to dredge Up Xiaomin's mother and also get the support of their sister Xiao jie, but the reality did not allow them to be optimistic.
Xiao Min has always been rational and realistic, if it were not for the feeling that Heaven gave her a second chance to be a mother, plus it was already a year of confusion, it is likely that this pregnancy was the last chance in this life, and she hesitated to give birth. The same Chen Zhuo, the love for Xiaomin is mostly because he regards her as a spiritual pillar, coupled with 3 years of companionship, the unexpected arrival of this child also makes him rekindle the hope of life.
However, before the two people decided to get married, they still made a premarital negotiation very carefully, mainly on the sorting out of their respective property and the inheritance ratio of the next three children, as well as their own surviving parents. No matter how you look at it, such a combination can be said to be abundant, but the fact is that their half-way marriage is not only a matter of feelings and property, but more importantly, the problem of their respective children.
It is often said that Taoist families have difficult scriptures, not to mention the reorganization of two large families, which indicates that they are facing more problems, and Chen Jiajia and Jin Jiajun's two children are in adulthood, rebellious and stubborn and irreconcilable is the true color of young people, which is not a small wash away from their already weak will.
Father and daughter look at each other
Chen Jiajia is a 20-year-old girl with thorns on her body and always wrapped in love, and her temper is sharp. This sharpness is her protective color, because in her view, the divorce of her mother and father is the abandonment of her.
Especially her bad for her mother, she feels that her mother is a woman who betrays her marriage and pays a lot of money, so for her mother who dotes on herself and has a lot of money, the thing she is most willing to do is to swipe her mother's card hard, only in this way can she eliminate the resentment of her mother in her heart.
But she is extremely dependent on her father, especially when she gets up early to prepare breakfast, makes braised pork to eat after school, and helps her cover the quilt at night, making her feel that her parents should be like this.
Divorced children are mostly loveless, although she has received double compensation from her parents, but she firmly remembers that she does not have a complete home, so she will want to reconcile her parents countless times, even if she knows that this is impossible, she has never given up.
At the same time, she is also sensitive, originally because she pushed her mother to cause the abortion to apologize, but accidentally heard the news that her father had a girlfriend, so anxious that she did not eat and directly killed home, did not expect a joke, but led to a terrible fact. She struck a heavy hammer on the table and roared, "I don't understand, I don't agree!" father! Like my mother, you abandoned me! Betray me! ”
With a slamming of the door, she seems to be back to the night her 7-year-old parents divorced, and she is also a person, a person who was abandoned by her biological parents. At this time, she even thought about dying, because in her world, if her parents did not love her, then she did not have to live in this world.
Until the next day, when her father slammed open the door that she had unlocked, he saw her standing on the bench, knotting the two stockings that had been worn through the middle of the roof hook. Yes, she wanted to hang herself, but it was fake, just to scare her father.
But her tears were real, crying and complaining, "Anyway, I don't care about you, you look for your woman, don't care about me, I die and I live and have nothing to do with you!" Her father was also really scared and stupid, and quickly promised that as long as she did not agree, she would not talk about marriage until she saw that her father's eyes were red.
Chen Jiajia this person, good coaxing, because the original is an extroverted personality, as long as there is enough patience, enough warmth, can melt her sharp, but also easy to go to the extreme, sensitive, spicy, do what you say. Although she is not a closed loop, she also has a breakthrough, or with the subtlety of time, she can finally understand her father's unspeakable.
However, it takes time for Chen Jiajia to support her father's remarriage and regeneration, but it is this time that is the most tricky, xiaomin's stomach cannot wait, and once Chen Zhuo said Chen Jiajia's stimulating behavior, not to mention Xiaomin's jin jiajun, even Xiaomin has to retreat, which means that the two middle-aged people have to pluck up courage and want to break the bravery made by the world, and suddenly they have to fall to the bottom, and the 3 years that were once 3 years will be sealed forever.
Mother and child look at each other
Jin Jiajun is a sensible child, especially in front of his mother Xiaomin, never make any demands, give it to take, do not give it, even if he takes it, he still wants to return it to his mother, because he never recognizes his mother, and he is extremely strange to his mother.
How strange is it?
In the original work, his grandparents are far less good than Xiaomin's mother, on the contrary, like most ex-in-laws, they say a lot of bad things about Xiaomin, plus Xiaomin's marriage to Lan Yan's confidant has been witnessed by him, and after he followed his father at the age of 6, the role of his mother is about equal to money.
Because it was rare to go back to see his mother several times a year, if it were not for his physical blood, if he had not forgotten to give him a little money, he might not be sure if he still had a mother.
This time he came to Beijing because he quarreled with his father, and his father failed to invest, and he was in debt in his hometown, and he was bent on studying in France, so he had to run to his mother.
Yes, in his heart, coming to his mother's place to run is at best a temporary foothold, because in his small book he clearly remembers every expense his mother has spent for him. Therefore, after he came to Beijing to study and know Chen Jiajia, he was anxious to find a way to make money and pay off the money owed to his mother as soon as possible, and he never contacted his mother again.
However, no one knew his idea, not even his closest grandmother. Just some time ago, his aunt told him that his mother was in love and had the idea of marriage, and on the surface he was calm and calm, but inside he was like a surging active volcano, which could gush out at any time.
Therefore, he drunk himself and fell next to his grandmother, who temporarily lived in his aunt's house, he has always been a stuffy gourd, and he is also a sensible child in everyone's eyes, but the more sullen and silent people are, the more they can calculate big things in their hearts.
Just like him, he made extra money for the lower grade homework in the school, and earned tens of thousands of yuan in just two weeks, but unluckily was discovered by the school, if not, his "repayment of money" plan can be successfully completed before going abroad.
The three women who learned all this, his grandmother, mother and aunt had different looks, grandma gave him a slap, it didn't hurt him, the mother was anxious to come and see, but accidentally bumped into the stomach, the aunt blurted out "be careful of the child", and suddenly his eyes were full of blood.
Look, this is the claim to compensate his mother, but he was pregnant with someone else's child shortly after he came to Beijing, and he was about to reorganize the family, and he should not have hoped for it, should he?
Compared with Chen Jiajia's sharpness, he is a complete introvert, but he is also a manifestation of lack of love, lack of safety, and lack of companionship, every day to the drunken father, as well as the grandparents who are resentful every day, his life does not have much warmth to speak of, and he strives not to let himself grow crooked and become bad, and he is already the most responsible for himself.
However, it takes a certain amount of time for him to accept his mother, and it takes more time to support his mother's remarriage and regeneration. But his behavior deeply stimulated Liu Xiaomin, especially the hundred yuan bill, which was a huge humiliation for the role of mother. The son earns money to return to the mother, which is to break away from the mother-child relationship, and from then on the bridge returns to the bridge road. The idea that doubling down on your efforts would fill it was a joke. The power of time is far beyond Liu Xiaomin's imagination. At this moment, Xiao Min wanted to simply concede defeat. Marriage is not married, children are not born, as long as you can hold the love of your eldest son, you are willing to give up anything.
The hidden pain of remarriage begins at home.
We all know that feelings are a matter of two people, marriage is a matter of two families, so how many people are remarried?
Such a complex family as Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo, the father and son of the halfway and the mother and daughter of the halfway, there is a gap between the two sides. No matter who they are, they talk too much, the child is impatient, a sentence "I am not your own child", it makes people feel uncomfortable for half a day; if they say less, the other half is unhappy, and they always feel that they are either biological or unsympathetic.
This has nothing to do with money or social status, because love itself is not a reasonable place.
Although the first marriage and remarriage, the pursuit of love is the heart of two people who want to pursue happiness, perhaps the elderly can understand, after all, you are their child, but their children are difficult to accept, because in the child's heart, if divorce is a fatal injury, then remarriage is another delay.
When the child is a child, he is afraid of being abandoned, and when he grows up, he is afraid that no one will love, and this insecurity will affect the child's life and work, and even in marriage, and even become unconfident and unloving.
Many people will argue that divorced people don't have the right to pursue happiness anymore? Can children and remarriage be either? Naturally not, in fact, this is not a conflict, the key to the problem is still between parents and children. It's just that the most torturous thing in this world is to stand where you are and think that you can go back, and the pursuit that the child lacks is nothing more than a complete warmth from the family.
I've always thought that marriage and family are actually separate, because marriage is about love, and family is about family affection. Children need families, adults need marriage. Although there is a marriage first and then a family, the child is only involved in the family part, so he is not interested in the marriage part of the parents and does not want to understand. This is the source of the contradiction.
However, remarriage should consider the balance of family and marriage at the same time, especially the trauma brought by the family to the child, which requires more time, love, tolerance and understanding, which is also the main reason why many people are reluctant to remarry and keep their children.
Although I still believe that remarriage is also an important way to achieve happiness, and children who reorganize their families can also get double love, but this road is a long way to go, and it requires a firmer heart and fearless courage, as well as more patience.