Before the finale of "Xiao Min's Family", teacher Su, who has always appeared in Xiao Min and his family, finally appeared, although he did not see his face clearly, but finally let us know that he is still alive and well, and has a new home, and the family is happy.
It can be said that in the whole play, Teacher Su only shows half of his face, but he is a very important existence. He is the most direct reason for Xiaomin and Jin Bo's divorce, and it is also the key factor for Jin Jiajun to be bullied and bullied when he was a child, including Xiaomin's later suppression and caution of feelings, which was also influenced by the original.
Xiao Min has always felt that she caused Teacher Su to disappear, leaving him alone in a lonely life in a corner of the world, and it was she who caused his wife and children to have no complete home. I didn't think that he was actually in another city, living a good life, and nothing was delayed.
How could this man not be responsible? How hypocritical is that? Originally, I hated Jin Bo in the play very much, until after watching the finale, I found out that Teacher Su was the most hateful man in the whole play, and Jin Bo was much more cute than him.
No responsibility.
Xiao Min appreciates Teacher Su, she appreciates his talent, appreciates his excellence, because of appreciation, they have spiritual resonance, can become friends. Perhaps in this process, some measure is indeed missing, which has led to the misunderstanding and rumors of others, or perhaps these are not all the responsibility of Teacher Su.
However, after Teacher Su's wife misunderstood, Teacher Su did not explain in time, and when everyone insulted Liu Xiaomin, he did not stand up and clarify. In that era, such a thing happened between men and women, whether it was true or false, the pressure on women was ultimately greater, and if Teacher Su was a responsible man, he should take the initiative to come out and make it clear.
But Teacher Su did not, he not only did not say anything, let Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo divorce because of this matter, but also left himself, leaving his wife and children behind. We know that Jin Jiajun was constantly bullied and ridiculed by his friends because of this incident, and it is conceivable that Teacher Su's children may not be much better than Jin Jiajun.
A man may be indifferent to his wife, but does not even care about his own children, then it is really cold-blooded. Originally, nothing happened between them, and if it could be explained clearly in time, this matter would not have caused so much harm. However, when he left like this, it was equivalent to sitting on the matter, and Liu Xiaomin could not say it clearly with a thousand mouths.
This man, he never thought about what his wife and children would face when he was gone, what Liu Xiaomin would face. All he thought about was his own escape, and he used it in such a way that he inflicted the greatest amount of harm on everyone. And he hid in another city and enjoyed life, like nothing had happened, how ridiculous!
hypocrisy.
Why do you say that Teacher Su is hypocritical? Although Liu Xiaomin said that she and Teacher Su were only friends and had not overstepped, this was just Liu Xiaomin's own thoughts. Judging from What Teacher Su did later, a man like him may not have thought of anything else.
Taking a step back, even if he hadn't thought about it, he and Liu Xiaomin were really just confidants who admired each other, so after Liu Xiaomin's divorce because of a misunderstanding, did he really have no guilt at all?
If he really just regarded Liu Xiaomin as a good friend, then he should not hide and let himself disappear, and he should not let his friends bear these false insults. If he didn't really regard Xiao Min as a friend, then why did he copy poems and write letters with her?
Teacher Su's approach is more like a person who wants to do something wrong and is recognized, ashamed and embarrassed, annoyed and angry, so he walked away. He chose to leave, ostensibly because he didn't want to face rumors and arguments, but if that was the case, he didn't have to even want his home, and his children didn't care.
This only goes to illustrate that this man is inherently restless. He didn't want to put a heart honestly at home and live a peaceful and stable life. He has a wife and children, he does not pay attention to proportions when interacting with other members of the opposite sex, he and Liu Xiaomin have a scandal, and he does not want to bear the pressure, simply walk away, his heart, to everyone is hypocritical.
Even if he has a new life and a new home, he still has to create the illusion that he can't let go, and doesn't contact everyone before. If it weren't for Liu Xiaomin meeting him in the hospital, perhaps no one would ever know that he lived so moistly, he didn't dare to face the past, but just wanted to enjoy the present, how hypocritical!
Damn it.
A man like Teacher Su is really disgusting.
He hurt Liu Xiaomin. She single-mindedly regarded him as a confidant, and he did not care about her life or death after the misunderstanding, did not clarify for her, did not defend her, and allowed her to be scolded by her neighbors and divorced her husband.
He also hurt his wife. After being misunderstood by his wife, he did not explain, did not apologize, did not divorce, and left his wife alone to bring up the child, while he hid and had another home.
How stupid do you think women are?
Liu Xiaomin has always felt that she owes Teacher Su, so that he can't live with his family well, and can only hide in a corner and lick his wounds. She has also been carrying the guilt of Teacher Su's wife and children, believing that their suffering is caused by her.
However, if Teacher Su is a responsible man, he does not need to hide at all, he can stand up and bear it. If he were a man of love and righteousness, he would not have disappeared for so many years, abandoned his wife and children, and established a new home.
In this matter, Liu Xiaomin does have a certain responsibility, but in the final analysis, it is caused by the man's lack of responsibility and ruthlessness. But Liu Xiaomin had to carry this guilt and self-blame for most of his life, and that man, but he just changed a place, changed a home, and his life was nothing less.
So, woman, when you are married, you don't have the luxury of expecting another man to really treat you as a confidant, not to mention that it is difficult for him to have such a pure heart for you, even if he has, when one day you are misunderstood and suspected, he will not stand up and bear anything for you, and the hurt is yourself after all.
It may be true that your marriage is not satisfactory, and you and your husband may indeed not have a common language, but remember: instead of pinning your spiritual resonance on another man, you should try to run your own marriage again, so that, regardless of the outcome, at least you are working for happiness.
Don't be foolish to hurt your marriage for an irrelevant man, whether it is a confidant or a spiritual love, it is not worth it.
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