As the saying goes, "the human heart is separated from the belly", and the most difficult thing to understand in this heaven and earth is actually the "human heart".
To recognize a person, you can't look at what he says, but what he does.
Man is good at disguising himself, and without going deep into understanding him, you simply don't know him behind the disguise.
Just like many stars now, in fact, most of them are human.
They've been packaged by the company, and the person you see in front of the screen is, in fact, just a disguised him.
If you want to recognize a person, just look at how he treats these 3 things, you have a heart for him as a person.
01. Attitude towards parents
The sheep have the grace to kneel, and the crow has the righteousness to feed back.
Parents have worked hard to raise us, and the suffering in this process may only be understood when we have children.
Therefore, when we grow up, we should have a grateful heart to repay the parenting grace of our parents.
If a person, when facing his parents, always complains a lot.
Complaining about parents this is not good, that is not good, complaining that you were not born into a rich family.
Most such people will only take, not give.
In life, I must care too much about my feelings, only about what I get, but what I give.
In "All Is Good", the achievement of Su Ming, the second eldest of the Su family, is a typical example.
Full-time nibbling on the old, but without remorse, single-mindedly only asking for it from the family, for not thinking of returning.
A person who does not even know how to be grateful to his parents will not know how to be grateful to the people around him.
02. The practice of treating interests
In today's society, if you encounter a lot of things in your life that you can't figure out.
You can try to think about things in terms of interests, and you will definitely figure it out.
Interest is the best touchstone of character, and it can see whether many people's character is good or bad.
In Wang Lihong's body, from his treatment of interests, it is enough to recognize a person.
Wang Lihong's wife, Li Lianglei, complained in a long text that before they got married, Wang Lihong had already signed a prenuptial equality agreement with Li Lianglei, and the property belonged to Wang Lihong and Wang Lihong's mother.
At the same time, there are many infidelities in marriage, and in the treatment of the family, there is only cold violence.
At the same time, he also transferred his property several times in the period after marriage.
Maximize your own interests, even if you divorce yourself, the property is your own.
Li Lianglei carried three children alone, and now the children have a certain self-recognition ability.
Began to choose to abandon this Li Lianglei, who had worked hard for the family.
In fact, it began with the unequal prenuptial agreement signed by Wang Lihong and Li Lianglei when he got married.
Wang Lihong's true face has long been exposed, and in the face of interests, he maximizes his own interests.
This is in great contrast with the personality of Wang Lihong, who originally loved his family and loved his children.
Therefore, you can't look at people to see how he does it, only when he faces interests.
What he did was enough to see a person clearly.
Nowadays, many artists and stars are packaged by the company, and if you want to recognize him, you need to see how he treats interests.
In real life, it is the same, if you want to recognize the people around you, don't look at the set he shows in front of you, but look at his face of interests.
03. Whether to talk about credit
Trust is the basis for two people to establish a connection, and a relationship without credit will only be a broken relationship.
Confucius once said: "If a man has no faith, he will not stand."
A person who does not talk about credit is not worth associating with.
At the same time, it can also be seen that if a person who does not pay attention to trust is certainly unreliable in his conduct.
The story of the princes of the Beacon Theatre, I believe everyone has heard about it.
In the Western Zhou Dynasty, King Zhou Youwang wanted to win the happiness of his lover.
Lighting the beacon that summoned the princes to the capital to save the car, it was obvious that nothing major had happened.
This not only teased many princes, but also constantly weakened the trust of the princes in the beacon tower.
Later, we all know that King Youwang of Zhou was killed by foreign troops, and from then on, he entered the Eastern Zhou Period.
From King Zhou You's untrustworthy behavior, we know that his character is definitely not good.
King Zhou You was later known as the Emperor of Xia, which is not an exaggeration at all.
This is in stark contrast to the trust-oriented Shang martingale, whose emphasis on trust has won the hearts of the people and made the Qin state more powerful since then.
People's hearts in this world are unpredictable, but from these three things, we can still recognize the true face of most people.
May you always be with you, people who talk about trust, know gratitude, and are not moved by profit.