How to judge whether the girl you like is really suitable for you?

Hello everyone, your morning brother suddenly appeared.

Today we will talk about how to know if a girl is the right person for you before you are ready to establish a long-term relationship with a girl?

#1 Understand the concept of love

Some of my brothers always asked me, "Why do I really care about her, but she thinks I'm too wordy; why do I obviously give her gifts, and she still thinks I haven't done enough."

This is the inconsistency of your view of love! If there is a difference in the concept of love between two people together, it is... There is a possibility of volcanic eruptions at any time.

Do you think that if you have the intention of getting married with her, and she is just an unmarried person, what should you do, do not understand clearly in advance, and whether it is tiring to quarrel and break up later?

In fact, in the concept of love, we can talk a lot:

"Do you think two people can get married when they talk about it"

"What if your parents don't like the boyfriend you're talking about"

"Why did you break up with your previous boyfriend"...

Only those who fit the concept of love will have tacit understanding.

#2 Understand spending levels

Everyone is an adult, falling in love is not doing charity, if the difference in consumption between each other is too large, it is easy to appear...

If you want to ride a shared bicycle, she has to play didi, you have to go to home, she has to go to Hilton, and incidentally complains about you for slamming the door, where to reason.

So we can see if her consumption concept is consistent with her own.

I believe that most people are still more frugal and have the habit of saving money, some deduct 1, no deduction 2, if you are a frugal person should be difficult to accept spending money and spending a lot of money, can not make ends meet the girl.

Girls who also like to spend money will also disagree with the boys who save money, so the best way is to observe her consumption, dress up, and then compare it with her work to see if it is positively correlated.

In fact, if you want to judge a girl's consumption concept, you can talk to her about the "friends" series:

"My friend is always moonlight, and he asks me to borrow money"

"My friend was also too intimidating, and borrowed a few months' salary to buy a hand"

You can see whether she shows you the attitude of supporting the wine this morning and getting drunk this morning, or the money in the pocket to be at ease.

There is also a little trick, you ask her "how many lipstick do you have", those who say countless, dozens of them are probably impulsive consumption.

#3 Learn about lifestyle

Two people together, no matter how windy and snowy the beginning, will eventually return to chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, people with different living habits are also difficult to integrate.

You like to wash the dishes after eating, she always said next time must be;

You like fitness, she likes to buy junk food and stuff it for you to eat;

You like to stay up late to play games, she is used to getting up early, accidentally making an unpleasant scene and pulling your plug when you play the group is not terrible?

It is difficult for both sides to change the habits of life that they have always had, which is called a twisted melon that is not sweet.

So when we chat with girls, we also try to understand her hobbies and her living habits as much as possible, such as:

"What are you doing after work?"

"What time do you go to bed at night"

"Do you usually cook your own meals?"

As long as you are familiar with these things, you basically understand them.

#4 Learn about her dating circle

As the saying goes, what kind of person and what kind of person to make friends, you want to understand her, then you go to see her friends, one can't do two.

After all, people who love to read books are not very good at playing with people who love to drink, so you can look at the people she pays attention to, and the friends with high interaction.

You look at them one by one, including their original dynamics, as well as retweet comments, and if you look at five or six, you probably have a spectrum in mind.

However, everything is not absolute, and seeing her friends only has a certain reference.

In fact, Brother Chen has also prepared some small methods for everyone to use for reference, if you want to see if she is a person who likes to take advantage of others, then you can send a little thing to her.

A box of biscuits, a breakfast, or a meal or two for her. A normal, emotionally intelligent adult doesn't always take advantage of others and will occasionally ask you back.

If you want to know if she is a self-motivated person, you can talk to her about those who are slightly better than her, to see if she is acting to appreciate and learn, or to blindly think that people are just lucky.

Of course, I am not telling you that if there is anything that is not appropriate for you, you should give up decisively, after all, no one in this world is perfect to meet your standards.

However, we can make judgments on some principled things, and what exceeds our own bottom line is still as clear as possible to make a judgment.