General Eisenhower was once asked, "What kind of opponent in your life has scared and headached you the most?" ”
Eisenhower said frankly: "It's your own emotions. ”
In particular, when negative emotions arise, it is easy to say and do things that you do out of your control, but you regret it after thinking about it in hindsight.
What's even more infuriating is that the next time negative emotions arise, this is still the case.
Agree with this saying: "Everyone's emotions are like a war with themselves." ”
In this life, people must learn the skills of getting along with their own emotions: do not speak when they are angry, do not argue when they are annoyed, do not lose when they lose, and do not make up when they are chaotic.
As the old saying goes, "In the midst of joy, do not allow characters; in the midst of anger, do not answer people's books." ”
When you are happy, don't promise others, and when you are angry, don't talk to others.
Because when people are angry, they are most likely to say hurtful and cruel words.
Kou Has once shared a small story of her own cruel words.
She talked about a boyfriend, felt that she could be entrusted for life, and wanted to get married.
After the father understood, he felt that her boyfriend Huang Guolun, who had divorced and had children, felt that the other party was not worthy of his daughter, and he strongly opposed it.
But Kou Naixin's attitude is extremely resolute, and she wants to marry the other party.
So, the two quarreled.
Dad roared angrily, "If you get married, we will break off the father-daughter relationship!" ”
Kou Nanxin did not show weakness: "Break it!" So when do you think it's better to start? It's you who tells the family! Or I told the family! ”
Dad was so angry that he almost sent him to the hospital for emergency treatment.
Afterwards, she was super remorseful and hated herself for using angry words against her family.
When a person is angry, in order to make himself happy, he will attack others with the most vicious words.
But words when angry, like a sword and spear piercing the heart, hurt people's hearts.
Even if it is removed later, the scars are still there.
Confucius said, "Don't be angry, don't be angry." ”
Get along with people: when angry, do not be angry with others, when it is not smooth, do not lose your temper with others.
Not attacking others verbally when angry is a lifelong skill to practice.
Netizen @ run Ya the host's family chased after it, sharing what they were afraid of.
Once, he drove a nine-meter six-van and drove normally on the highway.
Suddenly, a six-meter-eight truck changed lanes and threw itself in front of his car, and slammed on the brakes.
Due to the close distance between the two cars, he also braked quickly, but his car had a high center of gravity and was almost thrown out of the guardrail.
This annoyed him, and he rushed up parallel to the van, ready to scold him, but the other party ignored him.
So, he used his own car to go to another truck, he turned right while pressing the other party with the size advantage of the car, and the other party could not lean to the side of the road.
The other person leans a little closer, he squeezes a little; the other person slows down, he slows down.
In this way, it lasted until the provincial highway toll booth a few kilometers away.
After he got out of the air, he planned to get off the car and wanted to teach the other party again.
Unexpectedly, the truck driver ran to the police and provided video evidence.
In the video, he saw that his car was like a mountain, hitting the steering wheel to the pickup truck countless times, each time more fiercely, each time more intense, there was a feeling of forcing people to death, very scary.
He regretted instantly, he only wanted to export his evil spirit and win back face, and he did not want to harm the other party.
Finally, because he took the initiative to admit his mistake, he was only punished by the traffic police to write a review, otherwise his driver's license was directly revoked.
To vent anger in the heart, recklessly fighting for breath is a super stupid act.
Don't be red-faced and aggressive for a moment of right and wrong.
Although the momentum was won, the pattern was lost.
In fact, not arguing when annoyed is not an acknowledgement, but a low-key wisdom.
On the Internet, a netizen complained:
He said that in the past two weeks, he has interviewed almost a dozen companies.
I liked his job, but I didn't want to go because of the distance or the lack of salary.
However, the company he liked, the other party politely refused: "Go back and wait for the news." ”
It just happened to be a light rain that day, and I felt super bad when I came out of the interview unit, and the whole person was very depressed, feeling that I was worthless.
Agree with this saying: "A man's ability is measured not by how many failures he has experienced, but by how many failures he has endured and crushed them." ”
Life is not satisfactory, nine times out of ten, it will inevitably affect the mood and make people depressed.
The hardest thing is to have the courage to face failure and dare to start again.
Once saw a short story.
There is a person who likes to write, but after submitting the article, the result is that the stone sinks into the sea.
Slowly, some of his short stories were published, but the reading volume was dismal.
Friends around him advised him: "Change your career, not the material for writing."
Fortunately, he encouraged himself to keep improving a little longer.
Later, he wrote a long novel, and after submitting it, he was still rejected.
But he was not reconciled, and it was not until the 31st publishing house that there was an interest in editing.
Unexpectedly, the book sold 2.3 million copies.
He is Stephen King, author of "Carrie the Witch", and is an epoch-making horror novelist.
On the road of life, sometimes try your best, only to find that failure and setbacks are the norm in life.
In fact, there is no need to worry about a moment of frustration and exhaustion and give up moving forward.
Like the saying: "Aspirants do not never fail, but never compromise." ”
Only by withstanding the frustration of the present can we have the strength to resist the wind and rain in the future.
Not losing when you lose is a compulsory course on a person's way forward.
I've seen a video like this.
When the delivery man went to a restaurant to pick up a meal, he found that the meal was not ready, so he was a little irritable and urged a few words.
Reply: Wait another three minutes.
But after three minutes, the meal was not good, and the delivery man scolded impatiently.
The store consciously apologized for the loss.
But the delivery man did not spare, while scolding, while smashing the table with his helmet, causing the spices on the table to spill on the ground.
The shopkeeper couldn't look at it, so the two of them quarreled.
As soon as the delivery man was excited, he picked up the potato spatula on the table and beat it.
As a result, the store's fingers were scratched and the head and abdomen were bleeding.
Eventually, the delivery man was detained for harming others.
Small things that only require patience, but because of emotional impatience, eventually become tragedies, the gains are not worth the losses.
When people are impatient, it is easy to become impulsive and do things that they regret.
Instead of regretting it, let yourself wait a few seconds, ease your emotions and then make decisions.
Emotional stability, give yourself the opportunity to think calmly, so that you will not fall into the trap of emotions.
As the saying goes: "Those who are impetuous in their hearts will achieve nothing; those who are calm and calm will be blessed with their own blessings." ”
In the face of things, calm and calm, in order to cultivate a calm heart, spoiled and not shocked to face everything.
The author Liu Na once said: "Emotion is a gun, when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”
Because, all the bad emotions, in the end, are paid for by themselves.
Negative emotions will affect a person's judgment, and then affect behavior, behavior will affect habits, and habits will affect a person's life.
In fact, how you get along with emotions, what kind of life you have.
When angry, do not speak, and reduce the harm to others;
When annoyed, it reduces the punishment after impulsiveness;
When defeat is not lost, it reduces the obstacles on the way forward;
Indistinct times reduce the chances of failure.
For the rest of your life, may you and I both cultivate the skills of living in peace with emotions, be the masters of emotions, and learn to control our own lives.
The author | Jiang Xiaoyu, public number: Man Ma Ji.
The anchor | Zi Mo, WeChat public number: Zi Mo tells stories.
Pictures | Visual China