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How important is character to a person? It can be said that character is the bottom line of dealing with people in the world, the foundation of being a person, the virtue of the highest level, and the highest academic qualifications and cultivation.
If a person's ability is not strong, it can be made up through the efforts of the day after tomorrow, but if the character is poor, it is difficult to change in a short period of time.
Because the formation of character is not only related to human nature, but also related to a person's growth environment and acquired experience, there is a saying: the country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to move.
This reminds us that in interpersonal communication, we must identify each other's personality in time. If the character is not good, whether he has money or not, whether he looks good or not, there is no need to continue to make deep friends. Because you never know when he's going to suddenly hurt you and take advantage of you.
If you want to judge a person's true character, you don't need to bother to test, just look at how he usually talks to you, you can know a rough idea.
There are some words that people with really good character will not say, and they will not deliberately slander others, which is the most basic cultivation.
One: always look down on others, talk yin and yang weird, especially like sarcasm and sarcasm
In life, we often meet a lot of people who look down on others. They always feel that they are on top, so their words are full of superiority, and they are full of disdain and blows for others.
One of the most common things they say is, "What's so great." ”
Or, "Who do you think you are?" ”
When they say these words, their attitude is extremely arrogant, it seems that people all over the world are not as good as him, and he does not care at all about the impact that these words will have on others, because he is narrow-minded and vicious, and he cannot think of or care about these things.
In a relationship between the sexes, if you meet a partner who is always sarcastic and sarcastic about you, it is recommended that you think carefully about whether he is a good person.
If a person always hits you and humiliates you like this, then he can't really love you and can't really be good to you. No kind of love is based on hurting others, no matter how grandiose it may seem on the surface.
Second: There are double standards for people, and they have always been inconsistent in appearance, one set behind one set in person
A person's character is often hidden in the way he speaks, which is a social habit formed over a long period of time, which cannot be hidden at all, nor can it be changed in a short period of time.
If he is a double standard, then he looks at any person or any one thing, there is no unified standard, everything only follows his own mood, without any principles and bottom lines.
In Lev Tolstoy's novel Anna Karenina, Count Vronsky is one such person.
He fell in love with Anna, a married woman, and did everything he could to get her.
Later, he got what he wanted, and he quickly got tired of it, perhaps what he really liked was not Anna, but the desire to challenge and conquer desperately, and the sense of accomplishment after getting it.
In the novel, the author describes him with this passage:
"Count Vronsky has his own set of principles, knowing what to do and what not to do, and this set of rules clearly states:
The debts owed to the gambling stick must be paid off, but the wages owed to the tailor can not be repaid; the man cannot lie to the man, but he can be to the woman; the woman cannot be deceived, but the woman's husband cannot be deceived; the insults of others cannot be forgiven, but they can be insulted to the fullest, and so on. ”
This set of standards is obviously double-standard, based on his own inner needs, but he is at ease, will not consider at all, and will not care what others think, how to see.
Including the same with Anna, he often has a set in front of his face and a set behind his back, making Anna extremely insecure.
Three: Surrounded by negative energy and like to complain, they don't care about other people's feelings at all
No one likes people who are entangled in negative energy, such a person is like a black hole, which will slowly suck all the people and things around you into it, making your already difficult life even worse.
In the adult world, nothing is easy, and everyone lives extremely hard.
However, there are still some people who constantly transmit negative energy to us, hit our enthusiasm for life, extinguish our upward motivation, and become a stumbling block on the road of our lives.
For example, some of the things they often say are:
"It's so annoying, I really don't know what it means to be alive."
"I'm so tired, I don't think I have any hope in life, I don't have any hope, just leave it."
"I want to say that it is useless for you to work so hard, and people's fate is predestined."
These words, they often hang on their lips, do not think at all, what people who hear these words will think, such people are often selfish, small and short-sighted, it is difficult to become a big thing.
There is a saying: Birds choose good trees to live in, and people choose good friends to make friends.
The way a person speaks, to a large extent, exposes his true character, in daily life, we can identify what kind of person he is through what others say, and then judge whether it is worth deep friendship.
Only in this way can the road of the rest of life be smoother and more comfortable.
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