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The host Lu Yu wrote such a thing in "Encounter".
One weekend, a friend who had been living in Shanghai for a long time returned to Beijing and invited him to dinner with a few acquaintances.
At the dinner table, there was a middle-aged man who was very close to her, and as soon as he spoke, he was very targeted, and it seemed that every sentence was directed at her.
As a cultural person, Lu Yu suppressed his anger and did not want to turn his face.
Another man, as soon as he opened his mouth, said, "You're too thin to have anorexia, right?" ”
She plucked up the courage to reply: "Boring." ”
The atmosphere became awkward, but she relaxed a lot.
The feelings of people are mutual, not wishful thinking.
Therefore, for the rotten people around you, you must put away the "politeness and upbringing" and know how to keep the bottom line of being a person.
02
If you get too close to a rotten person, you'll hurt yourself.
Yi Shu said: "People can only live once, and they must first entertain themselves and then entertain others." ”
Think about it, what happens to people who don't have good intentions when they get along with you? They are like mosquitoes hiding in the shadows, coming out of nowhere and biting you.
First, raise the bar. He doesn't like what you want to do, and he has to find a bunch of reasons to suppress you. When you blush and puff up your neck, he looks triumphant and cynical.
Let's say you're going to eat lobster at a party, and he says lobsters are all stuff in a stinky gutter, which is disgusting; you're going to eat cold dishes, which he says are overnight stuff, and he's worried about a bad stomach.
No matter how beautiful things are, they will be stirred up by him, and no matter how good your temper is, you can't help but get angry.
Second, pranks. How would you feel if a strange bug crawled out of your drawer while you were at work? I was startled and sweaty.
What's even more heinous is that when you walk, someone suddenly gives you a scoop of cold water, from head to toe.
The ancients said: "There is a ruler in speech, and there is a degree of ridicule." ”
Usually joking can invigorate the atmosphere, if the joke is too violent, it becomes a tease. There are always people who pretend to be joking, take advantage of others, or hit others hard. How wide the dark side of the heart is, immeasurable.
Third, stir up dissension. If one day, a friend inexplicably turns his face, you will be very uncomfortable.
A feeling, how to say that it is lost? Whether in the workplace or in the love field, we cannot always be isolated. Good feelings, like a warm spring breeze, help people grow.
However, when you meet a rotten person, you can no longer have a good relationship with others. You've been labeled again and again, and you can't tear it off.
Fourth, the wicked sue first. When I was at work, a colleague falsely accused me of leaking secrets. In fact, things are done by himself, but after the matter is revealed, he needs a person to top the bag.
There is a word called "preconceptions," which means that there are many versions of the same thing, and most of us will believe the first version.
Hateful people are always more cunning than you. He used all his wisdom in a vicious place. You, on the other hand, are a righteous gentleman, speaking of principles and reasons. In contrast, you are always a little inferior.
In "I Am Not Pan Jinlian", the peasant woman Li Xuelian and her husband faked a divorce, but they did not expect that her husband really did the fake drama and married another girl. Li Xuelian was not convinced, and her husband went to court, but the "fake divorce" was your love and my wishes, and there was no fact that it proved to be false, so she lost the case.
Later, she kept petitioning to seek justice, but her husband laughed at her: "Why do I think you are Pan Jinlian?" ”
In the new society, divorce and remarriage are not strange things, but Li Xuelian has lost a lifetime of happiness.
Marrying a rotten man is already unlucky enough, and to be entangled with him all the time is to live to the point of mold.
Stay awake, stay away from rotten people, and be yourself again, in order to embark on the right path.
03
For the rest of your life, kick the rotten man out of your side.
Lu Yu said, "What step can't be wrong?" Don't play bad cards, as soon as I hear this, I will be angry, whose life is not from one mistake after another to survive. ”
Instead of dying with people, it is better to turn the other cheek, and "old and dead will not interact with each other" in the future.
I read a philosophical story about a child who, when he was alone at home, used his hands to tease the turtle in the bathtub. The gentle-natured turtle, enraged, "grabbed" the child's fingers with one mouth.
The child was in a hurry and confronted the turtle, but he was blindly busy.
Grandpa came home and said to the child, "Put the turtle back in the water, don't move, be gentle with it." ”
Sure enough, the turtle let go of its mouth.
Isn't that also true for tangling with rotten people? The angrier you are, the more you strike at it, the more you are restrained by him. Only by learning the method of "soft ke gang" can it work.
Kick away rotten people, you have to master some skills, not hard.
For example, find the weaknesses of rotten people, and treat them in the same way as people. Even if he is a martial arts master, he will have soft points such as "valves".
Find stronger people as companions, let the rotten people be afraid of you, and have to avoid.
Don't care about small losses, don't pestering others, and take the initiative to keep your distance.
Insist on being a better version of yourself, let people be invulnerable.
With the strength of the team, squeeze out the rotten man and isolate him fiercely.
Dare to expose the behavior of rotten people and leave him with nowhere to hide.
Of course, all tricks must be carried out under the premise of "protecting oneself", and it is not possible to hit the stone with a pebble.
04
Yi Zhongtian once said: "If life goes in the wrong direction, stopping is progress." ”
Many people like to look ahead and give face to others. Because we have too many concerns – afraid of getting into trouble, worrying about the aftermath.
Always find a lot of reasons for yourself and forgive rotten people. The attitude of "more is better than less" makes rotten people have no fear.
In fact, there are ways to be a person, and for those who deliberately hurt people, give him a little color.
As long as you are on the side of justice, you are destined to win.
Of course, no one is perfect, and for a rotten person who can still turn back, you can tolerate him, impress him, make him a good person, and even make friends with him.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.