To capture a high-quality man, we must understand the inner thoughts of men

In the relationship between the sexes, I think there is a very important ability, that is, the ability to read the mind, that is, to understand the inner thoughts of the opposite sex, the difference between the thinking of men and women is very large, if you can read the inner thoughts of the opposite sex, then you will really be quite powerful.

So how do you know what men are thinking? What is the difference between the emotional needs of men and women? I remember a girl who shared such a story with me, which made me understand that the original ideas of men and women are quite different.

This girl and her boyfriend have a major disagreement because of one thing, and even quarrel to a state where they are about to break up, what is the matter?

This girl, while chatting with a friend they shared, knew that their friend had broken up, but their breakup had not yet been announced to the outside world, for various reasons.

It was their breakup, but they knew each other, but the people around them didn't know, and then after the girl knew this information, she was particularly surprised and shocked.

Surprised, she felt that this thing could not happen, because the couple seemed to be really very good and matched, and what was shocking was that no one really knew about this matter, they did it so strictly, there was no leakage of wind.

She didn't understand and didn't know why, but she always felt that it was a particularly important thing.

And the two lovers who broke up, with her and her boyfriend, also know each other, and are also good friends, so in such a state, he went through several inner entanglements, and finally carefully told her boyfriend the secret.

She thought that her boyfriend, when he knew this information, would be as surprised and shocked as she was, but what she didn't expect was that her boyfriend said very calmly: Oh this thing, I already knew about it, they had already told me.

At that time, the girl felt even more shocked, which made it more difficult for her to accept, because she could not understand why her boyfriend, knowing such a big secret, did not share it with her. Then she asked her boyfriend: Why don't you tell me about something so important?

The boyfriend is very calm, very calmly said: Is this important? This is not a matter, this is a matter between them, and there are many things in it that others do not know, and it may be said that others do not understand, so what does it matter? It's not a matter between us.

Then this girl suddenly felt that this boyfriend was very strange, what was he thinking, why I didn't know what he knew all day, I didn't know what he thought, I didn't know how to communicate with him better, and suddenly I felt like there was a stranger around me.

So the more she thought about it, the more wrong she became, and she began to complain to her boyfriend: Hey, you don't trust me enough, you don't care about me enough, you don't have enough closeness with me, because you don't share your secrets with me, so they have a very violent argument.

In fact, in this case, our question is: What is the man thinking? Sometimes we will find that the difference between men and women is really very large.

Women will feel that everything related to interpersonal relationships, feelings, as long as there are some things involved, it must be a major danger, or a hidden danger that may occur, so when women feel some emotional fluctuations caused by relationships, they especially like to share with others at the first time.

By sharing, to relieve an anxiety and fear in her heart, and even hoping to be able to get a support and affirmation of the love around her, to ensure that a bad relationship, resulting in bad consequences, will not happen in her own relationship, she wants to complete such a confirmation, she needs to get a sense of security.

But men usually don't think like this, and men usually think that if it is not related to competition and interests, as well as personal development, even if the sky falls, it does not seem to have much to do with them, and they will automatically block out some things and entanglements in emotional relationships.

This is because men and women, the inner sense of security to build the basis of the point is not the same, so they are not the same way to deal with these problems, then these different places, will lead women to guess: I don't know what you are thinking.

She will have a sense of strangeness, and a feeling of not being comfortable, as if she is isolated, isolated.

There is also a case of a married woman who said she wanted to divorce her husband because she felt that although they had only been married for half a year, they had been in love for more than three years, and after getting married, she suddenly found out that her husband might not really be the person she really knew.

Because inadvertently, she saw her husband's mobile phone, which had some chat content between her husband and other friends, which she didn't know at all, such as his friend's emotional problem, and then there was a third party outside, her husband and that friend chatted in a mess, but this matter was not told to her at all.

Then she found that her husband had a lot of little secrets, such as browsing some pornographic websites, reading some pornographic articles, and then she would find that the man who usually made her feel particularly upright, honest, particularly strong, brave, and particularly kind suddenly disappeared without a trace.

She saw through the phone as if it were a complete stranger, she said she had no idea what the man lying next to her was thinking all day, which "he" was real, and she began to dare not continue to live with her husband.

In fact, in life, I don't know if you have found that there is such a phenomenon, when you have something happening to yourself, you will suddenly find that there will be many similar things in this world.

For example, when you are in love, you find that the street is full of couples, when you want to buy a new car, which car you lock in, and then the car on the road suddenly changes more, when you quarrel with your boyfriend because of some emotional problems, you will find that everyone around you is arguing with your boyfriend.

In fact, this is also a very special psychological state of people, that is, we prefer to see the part that we are willing to see, whether it is the world or the person opposite you, we are more willing to see the side you want to see.

So, when you keep sending out this signal, I hope that this person next to me is a frank, positive, upright, kind, not close to the womanish man, when you continue to reveal such a message, the person next to him will be aware of it, and then he will deliberately hide his bad side, carefully hidden.

At this time, it is not really said which is the real him, but all of this adds up to the real him, but in our lives, it is easier to find and see the part that we are willing to accept.

So what the hell he's thinking, we look at here, is not what he's really thinking, it's what I want him to be thinking.

The world of men and the world of women are really very different, and there are a lot of men and women who don't know much about this.

Men prefer to do something challenging and competitive that highlights their value more, but what about the woman's world? It is hoped that there will be more ease, more security, and more stability.

Men and women, what they want is inherently conflicting, one is outward, the other is inward, so you have to know what he is thinking, in fact, the easiest way is to understand your own ideas.

If you're a bird-like woman, or you're a very strong and independent woman, it doesn't matter, you go and take the boyfriend next to you, the other side of the normalcy he presents to you, and imagine it.

Imagine that when he is with you, he is particularly stable and mature, or maybe he is in front of his friends, he is a free and loose man, because people are always multi-faceted, comprehensive, can not be single, only one side.

Since the man's world is outward-facing, the woman's world is inward-facing, the man's world is changing and fluctuating, and the woman's world is stable and lasting, then at this time, if you constantly know what he is thinking, in fact, this will cause a lot of trouble.

Because you want to know what he's thinking, you actually want to control his thoughts, you want to control his whole being, you want to get his whole and transparent information.

For men, this is actually a kind of control danger, this signal is sniffed by him, and then he will want to break free from this feeling, to escape from the occurrence of such a state, and you will find that you do not know more and more what he is thinking.

In the eyes, if you want to maintain stability in love, the woman makes a container, whether you are a cup, this is a bowl, or a basin, also, a vase, no matter what you do, you make a container.

Because as long as your container is stable and unchanging, then this man, he will slowly adapt to such a stable state, and he wants to conquer such a stable state, which is also a manifestation of the man's sense of value.

If you want to be a controller, then the man will show a posture of running away, so at this time, instead of you wanting to know what he is thinking, you should let yourself become calm and stable.

At this time, the man will feel that behind your calmness and stability, there is a trace of mystery behind the waves.

We know that many women will be anxious, and then she will continue to express, and constantly release, but the expression and release of this anxiety is actually to present the most real things in your heart to men at a glance.

At this time, you become a transparent woman with no secrets, or a woman who is particularly easy to read, and the value of a man is focused on competition and competition, and the pleasure he wants to conquer, the pleasure within him, will be greatly weakened.

So your stability, in fact, in the eyes of a man, looks more like a mysterious state, he wants to lift the veil of your stability, to explore the truest thoughts in your heart.

This becomes, instead of you want to know what he's thinking, but he will tell you what he's thinking, turn passive into active, at this time, your feelings will go more stable, not the man's running woman's pursuit, but the woman's shouting, let the man open the desire to explore.