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Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

Author | Fan Deng Reading · Feng Xiaoling

Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Xia Han

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Good evening to all book lovers, welcome to the reading column "Encounter" produced by Fan Deng Reading.

The British writer Woolf once said:

"Reading The Moon and Sixpence is like crashing head-on into a towering iceberg, completely disintegrating a mediocre life."

Let Haruki Murakami read it twice, Zhang Ailing, Yu Hua, Bai Yansong, etc. were deeply touched, what is the charm of this book?

Today to share with you Maugham's "The Moon and Sixpence", here is the real microcosm and portrayal of you and my life.

Everyone knows that people who engage in art are either crazy or stupid.

However, the emotional experience of a person who engages in art may be more legendary than his artistic achievements themselves.

In the famous writer Maugham's novel "The Moon and Sixpence", there is such a talented painter with rich emotional experience - Strickland.

In order to paint, he abandoned his wife and son in middle age, seduced his life-saving wife in Paris, settled in Tahiti, and then combined with teenage girls to live a life of wandering and elegance.

Three women, three very different emotional relationships, also brought about a completely different ending.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

The three views are not compatible, and the stability of marriage is only an appearance

Strickland, 43, is a securities broker.

When a person reaches middle age, his daily life is to make money, to make money, to make money.

His wife Ami took him to social gatherings in the literary circles, and his humble appearance and mu ne's boring performance became the object of ridicule by others.

The lively and high-profile Ami despised her husband countless times, and did not forget to play the round field: "He is such a person, everyone forgives." ”

Although the two have different temperaments, the male and female protagonists have raised 2 children together.

The marriage, which lasted 17 years, looks stable and strong.

Suddenly, one day, Strickland left everything that was peaceful and went to Paris alone, sending Ami a few words of parting letters.

He doesn't love his wife anymore, and he doesn't want children anymore. Now in his heart, there is only one thing to paint.

Is all this really without warning? Not.

Strickland wanted to be a painter when he was a child, but his father felt that he could not make money studying art, forcing him to shelve this dream.

For more than a year before leaving Paris, he actually had to go to night school every week to learn to paint.

But he didn't tell his wife truthfully that he didn't think she would approve of what he was doing, but was worried that she would influence his plans, so he kept lying that he was going to the club to play bridge.

When Ami heard that her husband did not appear at the club, she did not ask her husband for confirmation, but instead thought to herself that her husband had a lover outside.

Both people do not trust and understand each other, and lack the most basic communication and communication between husband and wife.

Such a marriage, even if it is stable on the surface, is also vulnerable on the inside.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

The deep reason for this is that the three views of the two are different.

Ami is romantic on the surface, but she has always pursued a better material life.

Strickland is the opposite.

His heart is crazy and hot, and once the artist's power awakens, he can not hesitate to abandon the shackles of the world and pursue the moon in his heart.

A person who learns to paint is very poor, so he works odd jobs to earn some money, which he uses to buy canvases and paints.

He didn't care if his life was decent, nor did he care about negotiating with guests in order to sell the paintings for a good price.

The two people want things that are not the same at all, and their lifestyles are different, so how can they talk about being together and living together?

Their seemingly "stable" marriage was actually unconstrained on Strickland and was nothing more than a dispensable chicken rib for Aramco.

Because these two people are not the same people at all.

Gorky once said:

Marriage is the spiritual union of two people.

If two people have different views and consider the problem in the opposite direction, it is natural that they will not be able to obtain spiritual resonance.

This inner empty relationship is the easiest to fall apart.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

Quickly attracted, passionate relationships will not last long

Strickland's life alone in Paris was very difficult, and he had no time to take care of it when he was sick.

His friend Stelhof cherished Strickland's talent, and because he was worried about his illness, he wanted to take him home to take care of him, but was strongly opposed by his wife Bronche.

Bronche had a hunch that this dangerous man would surely break the peaceful life of himself and his husband.

Sure enough, after Strickland was taken home, Bronche soon became his lover.

Stroeve could not resist The charm of Strickland, and so did Bronche.

She didn't love her non-committal, unmasculine husband.

She longs even more for desperate love, for being conquered by a powerful man.

The appearance of Strickland ignited the seeds of wildness in Bronche's heart.

The same passion swept through Strickland.

When he was weak-willed, Braunche met his physical and emotional needs well.

She was his nude model, the muse of his genius painter on the road.

This storm-like attraction drenched the two people.

They don't think about the past or the future, they just follow their instincts and "be together" briefly. During this time, the other in the eyes of the two shone irreplaceably.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

But when the passion faded and the true appearance was exposed, both people felt a huge gap.

Her desire for control made him want to flee, and his irresponsible attitude made her miserable, and the relationship between the two fell to a freezing point.

Strickland just wanted to go back to his own world, to be at ease with his art, and not to be disturbed anymore.

And poor Braunche, knowing that the relationship has come to an end, is still deceiving himself and using all means to save it, until he gives up his innocent life.

The lover relationship established by the two by "passion" is like a tornado, which quickly strikes and quickly dies.

As Carl Pope, the greatest philosopher of the 20th century, said, the joy of love cannot end in the embrace of passion.

The two have passion, no warm intimate experience, and it is even more impossible to have loyalty and responsibility for love.

This psychedelic relationship comes and goes quickly.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

Get along comfortably, accompany each other, and the feelings can flow for a long time

In order to better engage in artistic creation, Strickland came to the natural and pristine island of Tahiti.

With the help of the locals, he and Atta, the island's indigenous maiden.

They lived a self-sufficient rural life, did not have to run back and forth for their livelihood, and lived a peaceful and happy life.

Atta never bothered him to draw, she cooked, took care of the children, and accompanied him silently.

Atta's side, Strickland's eccentric temper has narrowed a lot, and he has become gentle, hospitable, and has gained a real sense of inner peace.

This relationship, which returns to the time of hunting and gathering by the old ancestors of human beings, seems to be closer to the essence of the mate.

There is no mutual use and control, there is simply companionship, comfort, intimacy, and long streams.

Everyone desires a life of physical and mental freedom, and no one wants to be too tied down by a person or a relationship.

At the end of The Moon and Sixpence, Strickland falls ill with leprosy, and everyone around him avoids it, leaving Atta to stay by his side and continue to paint with him until the end of his life.

He painted a stunning masterpiece on the walls of his home, but asked Atta to burn the house down after his death.

Atta was not shaken by the enormous commercial value of the painting.

After Strickland's death, she burned the house and the fresco according to his will.

Then, she ended her life and accompanied her lover to another world.

Atta may not understand Strickland's art, but no doubt she understands him and respects him, and she gives him enough freedom and space.

For Strickland, there may not be much passion between the two, nor a legal commitment to marriage. But this feeling is relaxed and comfortable, and he can be himself freely, which is already precious.

Sanmao once said:

The clouds are light and the wind is light, the water is long, not only the friendship of gentlemen, but also the love.

If you want to be long-lasting, the relationship must be simple and pure, and comfortable to get along with.

There is not so much vigorousness, some are just the warm companionship of the long stream of thin water.

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

Write at the end

Of Strickland's three relationships:

His wife Ami is very different from his three views, empty of the shell of marriage, and the internal relationship is actually empty and boring, vulnerable;

As for Bronche, it was only his momentary passion, the two never knew each other deeply, and there could be no real future;

Atta, on the other hand, gave him the greatest tolerance and freedom, allowed him to experience a peaceful family life in the last years of his life, and finally reached a reconciliation with himself.

Many people go around and search for a lifetime, looking for a perfect relationship.

But what most of us need is a relationship that is comfortable enough.

There is not so much greed and desire, there is only simple and pure understanding and companionship.

As long as you can be yourself easily, it is already a good enough intimate relationship.

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Author | Feng Xiaoling, an engineer in Silicon Valley, a post-90s literary and artistic girl, longs to accompany words for a lifetime.

Column Director | Come slowly

Typography | Zheng to the north

Music | "E8r Piano Song" on the shores of Lake Baikal

Read the 3 loves in "The Moon and Sixpence" to understand what a good intimate relationship is

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