When people reach middle age, they are afraid of tigers, they are afraid of wolves, and they are afraid of unemployment.
In their old age, people are afraid of poverty, they are afraid of suffering, and they are afraid of loneliness in the middle.
When people reach middle age and old age, they will encounter more and more problems. In particular, family problems will appear frequently around us.
Some people sighed that when they were young, they thought that it was the most painful to be looked down upon, and they did not know that a more bitter life was still to come. In life, there is no most bitterness, only more bitterness. There is no most unfortunate, only more unfortunate.
Many times, we think, since life is so lonely, how can we be good? Who is it that can be relied upon?
Life, after all, tells us a truth, no one in this world can be trusted, including your family. As long as it is a person, there will be a day when the heart will change, and we cannot overestimate the human heart, nor can we underestimate human nature.
No matter what age we are, there is no better way to do it than to "rely on ourselves."
There is a saying in the Book of Verses: "Forever speak of one's destiny, and seek many blessings for oneself." ”
We must always think about whether our actions conform to the rules of society and natural development, so that we can pursue more blessings. In the second half of our lives, our blessings are not in the hands of others, but in our own hands.
After the 60s, you always have 5 hole cards in your hand to avoid the risks of life.
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Hole card one: there are deposits, there are assets.
It cannot be denied that the days with family members around will eventually be "happy and happy". But if your family or relatives don't treat you well, who can you rely on?
When we were young, we thought of "having enough to drink.". This is naïve thinking.
After getting older, it is clear that there is no "sentient drinking water" in this world, only "rich and wine true brothers".
Money and assets are the most loyal servants. Except they can't talk to you, they don't have the temperature, they can't defeat death, and all the other problems are all about money.
There is a saying that "there is money in the hand, and there is no panic in the heart." ”
I have seen poor people who run to the hospital in the middle of the night but have no money in their hands, have seen poor people who are humble to the extreme, and have seen honest people who have been abandoned. They didn't do anything wrong, but why did they live a humble life? Because there is no money.
It can be said that kindness, this is nature. And no money, that's the original sin.
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Bottom card two: "A good mentality regardless of gains and losses".
Wang Yangming believes that narrowness of heart is the root of evil, and heart is the source of happiness.
A person's heart will actually affect the rest of his life. The heart is like the morning sun of the morning sun, and the flowers bloom to the sun all your life. My heart is like a drowsy rain, and my life is miserable.
When people are old, they are most likely to think wildly and cannot be opened. Especially the middle-aged and elderly people who suffer misfortune often sink into the misery of life.
This is not necessary.
For life, we need to learn the attitude of "Sima Yi" most. He didn't care when others insulted him; he laughed and giggled when others gave women clothes to humiliate him; when others said he was a shrunken-headed turtle, he pretended to be a shrunken-headed turtle.
Therefore, his life span is particularly long, basically surviving the hero Haojie of the Three Kingdoms period. This is the winner in life.
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Bottom card three: half serious, half confused attitude.
A Zen master once said, "Attachment is like a knife, it will cut off your blessings." Muddles like dirt will nourish your whole life. ”
Being too persistent, always worrying about small things, there is no need. You know, being too serious is easy to offend others and easier to let yourself suffer.
Man does not come to this world to suffer sin, but to enjoy life. And how can you enjoy life? Relying on it is the "rare and confused" wisdom of being a person.
Most people think that being confused is not a good thing. However, the more confused the person on the surface, the richer the inner world.
Only young people will be extreme, and mature middle-aged and elderly people often give people a feeling of light wind and light wind.
Life, there is not so much to worry about. Annoyances are caused by themselves, and they are also created by themselves. In this way, do half serious, half confused, and you can be stable in the second half of your life.
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Bottom card four: "Unity" good relatives around you.
After the 60s who have already run six, they must give full play to the wisdom of "unity" and try to have a good relationship with the people around them. Especially children and wives, if they can compromise, they must not compete with them.
Competition, that is the practice of a child, not the choice of a mature person. Since we can win-win, why do we have to fight for your life?
Especially the relatives of a family, do not do the "relatives are painful and the enemies are fast".
The family pays attention to harmony and unity. Life is all about peace and meditation. Only when the family is good, can life be peaceful. If the family is not good, then everything is illusory.
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Bottom card five: Good living habits are the source of your happiness and longevity.
There is a saying that "stay in the green mountains, do not worry about firewood." ”
As long as the mountain remains, we will eventually be able to cut down the trees we want. As long as the river doesn't dry up, we'll be able to catch fish after all.
In the same way, as long as our lives are long enough, the blessing will eventually come unexpectedly.
The source of a long life is to develop good living habits. Eat when it's time to eat, don't stay up late when you should sleep, and don't be lazy when you should exercise.
People, if they want to live a long life, if they want to be healthy, there is no shortcut, they can only start from the "living habits".
You know, developing good living habits is the beginning of a good life after 60.
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