There are three filial pieties, and no queen is greater. Shun married without telling, for no queen also. The gentleman thinks that Judas is also telling.
- "Mencius Leaving Lou Shang"
Mencius, c. 372 BC – 289 BC, courtesy name Ke , Zi You, Shandong, was a representative figure of the Confucian school after Confucius , and was known as Confucius and Mencius.
Speaking of Mencius, many people will think of the allusion of MengMu's three migrations, as the saying goes, things are grouped together in groups, and a person's growth environment is one of the important factors that determine this person's future achievements.
Meng Mu was deeply aware of the meaning of this, and for the future of Mencius, Meng Mu had to relocate many times to prevent Mengzi from learning badly.
The success of Mencius is inseparable from Mengmu's good education.
Mencius is also his main work, most of which is a compilation of Mencius's speeches, jointly compiled by Mencius and his disciples, recording Mencius's language, political views (benevolence, the discernment of wangba, minben, the wrongness of the heart of the gejun, the lightness of the people) and the political actions, which are Confucian classics.
Among them, there is a famous sentence that has been passed down through the ages: "No filial piety has three, and no queen is greater"!
Regarding the non-posthumous statement in this sentence, many people in later generations have commented on it, mostly explained by the absence of children, which means that if a person does not pass on the lineage, it is the greatest filial piety to his parents.
The Eastern Han Dynasty Zhao Qi's Mencius Chapters and Verses is the earliest annotated text of Mencius, which explains: "There are three things for those who are not filial to those who are not filial to the ceremony... Do not marry and have no children, no ancestors, three filial piety. Of the three, none is greater. ”
In modern times, there are also such sayings as having no descendants, but what this is the meaning of the greatness of the no queen is still controversial, and people have a variety of views on this.
One view is that the absence of a queen is not fulfilling the responsibilities of the child.
It is clearly recorded in the Book of Verses:
In "Qi Feng Nanshan", it is said: "What is it like to marry a wife?" Parents must be told. ”
Shun married his wife, and did not repay his surviving parents, so he did not fulfill the responsibilities of his children.
In addition, there are also views that no queen means that there is no respect for the elder, and Shun did not tell the parents, that is, the meaning of disrespecting the parents.
Of course, no matter how this phrase is interpreted, all adults with some conscience know very well what filial piety is and what is not filial piety, and these arguments are meaningless.
So, there are three unfilial pieties that Mencius said, and what are the other two major filial pieties?
First, the execution of the faults of the parents without correction, so that the parents are trapped in the place of injustice, this is also called filial piety.
For this kind of behavior, parents and children are mutual.
In the father's love and mother's love, there is a kind of love called coddling, about coddling, I believe many friends understand, that is, children from an early age to do some of their own "love to do" things.
Children do not understand things at a young age, do not know whether these things should be done, but parents know in their hearts, but some parents, out of doting on their children, know that there is a mistake, but do not discipline, resulting in children in the future because they do not get a good education and go astray.
On the contrary, when a child becomes an adult, he sees that his parents have done something wrong, and if he is not persuaded, he will also fall into the unrighteous place of his parents, which is a kind of foolish filial piety and too much connivance with his parents.
Everyone knows Confucius, Confucius has always advocated filial piety, at that time a disciple asked Confucius, as long as you are obedient to your parents, is this filial piety?
When Confucius heard this, he immediately retorted, "What is this called?" If the parents do unrighteous deeds and the children do not dissuade them slightly, do they not fall into the unrighteous land of the parents"?
Confucius's words awakened the dreamer, and the disciple suddenly realized!
Second, the family is poor and the parents are old, but they are unwilling to become officials and obtain the salary to support the elderly.
This sentence is well understood with modern thinking.
It is a great filial piety that the family is poor, but the children are old at home.
As a child, you should take the initiative to step into social work to make money, use it to support your parents, should not sit on the mountain and eat the air, a lot of age, still reaching out to your parents for money.
Parents work hard to raise their children, and when children become adults, they should not rely on their parents and become the dependence of their elderly parents, which is the greatest filial piety.
All in all, being born and nurturing, dying and burying, marrying a wife and having children, is the greatest filial piety to parents!
Reference historical materials: "Mencius", "Book of Poetry", the picture comes from the Internet!