Three heartfelt words a middle-aged man would never say to his wife

In fact, I can't stand sexless marriage

I don't know when it started. He found that his wife didn't want to be close to him anymore. Sometimes he took the initiative to approach, but his wife frowned and said: I am tired today. Don't bother me

Often rejected, his heart was severely hit, his self-esteem kept him from taking the initiative, and it also made him lack patience with his wife and often impatient in life. Wives find that their husbands are becoming lazier and more reluctant to approach. After the vicious circle is formed, in a few years, it basically becomes a sexless marriage

In his heart, he really wanted to say to his wife, "I can't stand this kind of marriage," but he didn't know where to start. It made him feel embarrassed and desperate

Second, I actually want to communicate with you, but I am more afraid that you will scold me for this

I don't know when he began, he found that between him and his wife were either children, or the elderly and housework. From these words, he could always sense his wife's dissatisfaction with him

Many times, when he looks at the conspicuous wedding photos hanging on the wall, he always remembers how they always have countless smiles when they are in love or newly married. He got up to break the silence, wanted to tease his wife, but he walked over to find her face tense and seemed to be in a bad mood. He was afraid that his humor would turn into his wife's endless scolding and nagging. "Forget it," he thought to himself, simply picking up his phone and brushing it up.

Such a marriage overwhelmed him.

Third, in fact, I am very lonely

He didn't know when it started. Suddenly he found that he had fewer friends. It's hard to see friends who used to get together a lot when they were free. They are promoted, they are entrepreneurs, and they have children who have to take time out to take care of their families, and everyone is busy. Leaders, colleagues and customers, who are financially involved, have become the main targets of socializing. He had to endure his own heartache and discomfort, licking his wounds alone and digesting his emotions.

The wife walked around in the kitchen, watching her busy figure, watching the children do their homework seriously, and a strong sense of loneliness struck, feeling like a machine, running all the time, seemingly out of place with the people around her, unable to establish emotional connection

He wanted to say to his wife, "I'm so lonely," but the phrase ran into his mouth for a long time, but what came out was "I'm tired," and he felt funny and meaningless

In fact, the man around you who is often silent, who often disappoints you, who often annoys you, also wants to approach you and hug you, but he doesn't know how to approach you again

Can middle-aged marriages really get better? Will the relationship between husband and wife only get flattened? The answer is of course no, but someone has to speak up first, speak their mind, and admit "I need you, I want to spend the rest of my life with you."

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