Love is an ability that we need to learn with our whole lives.
Some time ago, I saw a set of data on the Internet: analysis of the causes of divorce for contemporary people.
Among the top reasons for divorce are:
Trivialities of life, long-term separation, and a weak emotional foundation between husband and wife.
With fewer and fewer people getting married and the divorce rate getting higher and higher, we have to reflect on what is wrong with the marriage of contemporary people.
From three years of pain, seven years of itching, to the marriage of middle-aged people.
It seems that at every stage of marriage, there is a "spell" to be experienced, and only by breaking the spell of marriage can it continue.
Just like the Tang monks who learn the scriptures, they need to go through ninety-nine eighty-one difficulties.
At present, people's marriages also need to go through various tests.
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The dilemma of middle-aged couples one: there is nothing to say
Have you ever experienced an emotion without words to say?
This feeling is probably:
After returning home from work, the two people were busy.
Only at the dinner table, the time belongs to two people, and the rest of the time is busy with their own affairs.
One person packs up the housework and cooks, and the other person lies on the sofa and plays with his mobile phone;
One person takes care of the children, and the other person hides in the study;
When you are dissatisfied with each other, you lose even the energy of anger and are unwilling to communicate with each other.
Some time ago, a reader left a message saying that his marriage with his wife had become a "weekend couple."
On weekdays, two people leave early and return late; when he goes to work, his wife is sleeping, and when he comes home, her wife has not yet left work.
At the time of the weekend, the two people are busy with their children, and they communicate less and less with each other.
Over time, he lost the desire to communicate and share with his wife.
In fact, the state of marriage without words is the true portrayal of the current marriage.
There are these manifestations:
I would rather share my heart with outsiders than share it with the other party;
Very little communication at home, too lazy to chat with each other;
Unable to get "emotional comfort" from the other party, gradually losing patience;
Want to change, but are not willing to take the initiative, just want to wait for the other party to take the initiative.
Over time, marriage has become more and more difficult.
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The dilemma of middle-aged couples two: no love to do
Writer Junichi Watanabe made a point in the book:
When couples can't get physical satisfaction from each other, it's easy for them to get that satisfaction elsewhere.
Despite the constraints of self-control, moral sense, and sense of responsibility, it is difficult for people to grasp their own hearts under the constant temptation.
I often hear someone confide in:
Married for many years, loveless and sexless.
Loveless marriage and sexless marriage are irreparable damage to marriage.
What is sexless marriage?
Facing each other, there is no desire for love, no passion, no freshness.
It's like a fruit in a corner, you see it, but you just don't want to eat it; so you let the fruit mold and rot.
If you want to keep your marriage fresh, you must maintain a "religious" heart.
Fear of marriage, fear of love, fear of life.
Do these 3 awe-inspiring and you will find another direction to treat your marriage.
We live in an environment where there are "many temptations", so we should not only strengthen our own beliefs, but also give each other confidence.
What is a couple?
Husband and wife are two hearts tied together, trying to run a small family, so that the family is getting better and better.
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How to break the situation of a chicken feather marriage?
In this world, money can't solve all marriages, such as marriage.
Someone said:
After marriage, as long as you work hard to make money and make the family's life better and better, there will be no problem with the relationship between the husband and wife.
However, you want Yangchun White Snow, and he doesn't like it, so what?
This is not an economic issue, but a relationship between values and soul fit.
When you have nothing to say, he doesn't understand you, and you don't want to bother to understand him, the marriage is already on the decline.
If you want to change the bad state of your marriage, you have to make an effort.
First: Fall in love with each other again
Think about it, what was it like when you first fell in love?
When it's snowing outside, you'll take a picture of him and share it with him at the first time; and his perspective is to quickly run to the window to see if there are any snowflakes outside.
No matter what interesting things you encounter, bad worries, you are willing to talk to each other at the first time.
Therefore, you must develop a desire to share with each other.
Only sharing can keep the sense of freshness; only communication can reduce contradictions.
Some people say: there are not so many topics to share with each other, what to do?
Do you know?
Marriage is a day when little things, one trifle after another, combine.
Even sharing some boring topics with each other can promote each other's feelings.
Second: Implement marriage into small things like eating and sleeping
For most people, marriage is nothing more than: eat together, sleep together.
Do every little thing as well as possible, and the marriage will be half successful.
Men show tolerance and spoiling of their wives, and wives show understanding and respect for men.
Mutual tolerance, mutual understanding, mutual support and praise, a lifetime of marriage will pass.
Isn't getting married like a person who eats for a lifetime?
Isn't it when you wake up from a nightmare at night and find that the other party is around?
Isn't it that you have encountered setbacks and pressures, and have the other party help you share?
Isn't it true that when you are old, someone will support each other with you?
Don't think of marriage too complicated, treat it with your sincerity, patience, and sincerity, and the marriage will be better.
Today's Topic:
What difficulties have you encountered in your marriage?
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