Author: Lin Shui Editor: Li Jin
Publisher: Marriage and Family Magazine
id：hunyinyujiating99
In the recent hit variety show "Shining Band", an 8-year-old boy sang the old song "No Door Lock" with a young and clear voice, and the words and rhythm were pinched to death, surprising many netizens.
This boy is the son of PinGuan.
Hindsight netizens have written in the comment area: "Tiger father has no dog." ”
I still remember the first time I listened to this song, I wondered in my heart how someone could sing a sad love song so tenderly and movingly.
An old song has pulled countless people back to the green years, when Pin Guan was a unique "love song gentleman" in the Chinese music scene.
That pure and transparent baritone sound, like a cup of hot tea in winter, has warmed the hearts of many people.
After many years of absence, I did not expect that the low-key pinguan already had a handsome son and a lovely daughter, and he already had a life as warm as his singing.
He met his wife at a low point, fell in love in a long distance for 9 years, and married all the way for 10 years. PinGuan said: "There is a feeling like boiled water, but the still water is deep, the surface is silent, and it actually contains a lot of wisdom in life. ”
His love life is like his song, although there are no too strong ups and downs, but whenever the clean and clear voice rings in the ears, people can't help but feel that everything is so warm and beautiful.
When countless people were healed by his music, he also found the sunshine that could warm him.
01
At a low point, love is a beam of light
In 1995, Li Zongsheng came to Malaysia to select new people, listened to hundreds of songs on the spot, was not satisfied, and was about to give up, the singing of two young people made his eyes light up.
The young people in the audience, a little cute, the two sang "Palm" unhurriedly, and Li Zongsheng applauded: "This is the person I am looking for!" ”
Subsequently, he took the two to Taiwan and signed a contract with Rolling Stones: Wang Guangliang and Huang Pinguan, and the combination was called "MUJI"!
The debut album of "MUJI" is "Palm", which reached the second place in the Taiwan chart and won the first place in the big horse and tiger charts, dominating the charts for 10 consecutive weeks. Won the "Best Composition Award" and "Best Lyricist Award" in Malaysia in 1996.
With a green face and a clean voice, these two not handsome young people seem to have a magic power that can make everyone who listens to the song fall into a fresh and natural melody.
Since then, the two have released a number of albums, and they have achieved good results.
But no one expected that MUJI would go their separate ways after 5 years.
With a love for music, Pinguan began a solo musical journey, but the road was not smooth.
The changes in the music market, the changes in the audience, and a series of changes have hit him with enthusiasm.
In 2003, Pinguan was at a low point in his career, full of confusion, and even doubted whether he would continue to follow the path of music.
Just when he was full of doubts about the future, someone helped him firmly move forward.
At a party, Pin Guan met his wife Jennifer.
Born in Taiwan, she went to the United States to study at an early age and worked in business management in Hong Kong after graduation.
Jennifer, who is beautiful in appearance and cheerful in character, immediately impressed Pinguan.
"At that time, my wife was very good in every way, and I still can't believe that she would choose to be with me." At that time, pinguan was in the haze, and I couldn't see that I was so good and dazzling that I had been warming countless people with my singing.
On the contrary, Pin Guan always likes to talk to Jennifer about some unhappiness in life or unhappiness at work, and whenever this happens, Jennifer always smiles and says to him: "This is not very bad." ”
Looking at Jennifer, who can find happiness in mopping the floor and washing dishes, Pinguan couldn't help but ask curiously: "Why have I never seen your unhappy side?" ”
Jennifer laughs and says, "Life, if you think it's interesting, it's really interesting." I hope you have a good day! ”
Because I love you, I hope you can become happier. This love lights a light for the gray world of pincorns and brightens his heart again.
A good partner can not only bring the sweetness of love, but also make a person a better version of themselves.
Pinguan gradually came out of the depressed mood and bravely set sail again.
Life is sometimes wandering, and it is inevitable that you will be confused.
As long as there is love in the heart and light in the eyes, the confusion will eventually dissipate, as if after wandering is calm.
The following year, his new album "Door Unlocked" was released, and many songs on the album, such as "Door Unlocked" and "Obviously Love You Very Much", were once again loved by countless fans.
Boccaccio once said, "True love inspires, awakens the sleeping power of the heart, the hidden talent." ”
Seeing the crown in his heart, he finally found the most suitable musical path for himself.
He did not follow the public, but continued to be himself, with more clean and warm songs, to bring good feelings to the fans.
02
Good love can resist everything
Pin Guan sang in "I Miss You More Than Imagined": "I miss you more than I think, I love you more than I love you." There are so many separations, displacement is for dreams, and the final station that dreams most come to mind is you. ”
Many people don't know that every sentence in the song is his truest state of mind.
He has been in love with Jennifer for 9 years, but the two have not had much time together.
At that time, he was busy with his music in Taipei, and Jennifer was working hard for his career in Hong Kong.
"Every time you transfer from Hong Kong, you get a different feeling."
Because beloved, right here.
"Being together for so many years, so happy, all depends on tacit understanding."
Parting will of course be reluctant and always believe that everything is worth it in the end.
I want to lose and gain in the past, and how many tests I have endured together.
Watching others get together, we can still make each other happy. ”
A song "Healthy and Happy" sings the hardships and persistence of long-distance lovers.
When they can't meet, Pinguan writes all his love into the song and sings it to her beloved.
And Jennifer also understands his difficulties, and always flies to where he is whenever he has time.
Every weekend has become the most precious time for the two of them.
Someone once asked Pin Guan: "Long-distance love is very sadistic, right?" ”
Pin Guan said: "Yeah, but we all persevered." ”
True love, regardless of distance, lies only in the heart.
Love is a beam of light, and the energy of this light comes from two people who love each other.
No matter how far apart, as long as there is love in each other's hearts, the light is always there.
In 2011, Pinguan took over a TV series, and as the male protagonist, he had a lot of scenes, and he had to memorize the script every morning.
Seeing him so busy, he was distressed that Jennifer deliberately froze his favorite shrimp dumplings from Hong Kong and consigned them to him to eat.
Looking at the pin crown who got up in the early hours of the morning to carry the table book, Jennifer also got up and wanted to cook dumplings for him.
Suddenly, Taiben's half-backed Pinguan heard a scream.
When he looked back, he saw that Jennifer's hands were full of blood.
It turned out that the dumplings were frozen and stuck to the plate, and she wanted him to eat them quickly, so she scraped them with a knife and accidentally cut her fingers.
Pin Guan quickly took her to the hospital, but there was still a whole day of scenes waiting for him on the TV station, and he could only rush to the TV station.
That whole day, Pin Guan was restless.
It was already midnight after filming, and he rushed home anxiously, and as soon as he opened the door, he saw Jennifer, whose hand had been stitched with more than twenty stitches, mopping the floor with his other hand.
Feeling sour and unbearable for a moment, Pinguan excitedly stepped forward to hug her busy and trembled, saying, "Marry me!" ”
At that moment, Pin Guan knew that no one would love him so much, and he himself would not be so distressed about another person.
In an interview in the early years, Pin Guan once said that he was afraid of marriage, but love was enough to defeat all distance and fear, because we had each other to rely on on on the way forward.
03
Listening to each other and growing up is the best way to be married
In 2012, the two finally ended the 9-year love run and entered the palace of marriage.
After the marriage, the two still have a deep affection, Pinguan opened a concert, Jennifer was his fan offstage, and he also took good care of him in life.
But from love to marriage, from romance to triviality, even sweetest feelings will have a dull day. At this time, the difference between them is particularly glaring.
Jennifer is cheerful and optimistic, informal, while Pin guan is more restrained, slightly macho, and does not like to apologize.
At one point, the two had a big fight over a small matter and then started a cold war.
From day to night, no one pays attention to anyone.
As she was about to go to sleep, Jennifer suddenly came over and jokingly said, "How's the big man, the gas is gone?" ”
In fact, the anger in Pinguan's heart has long gone, but it is only hindering the man's face and being silent.
Looking at him in silence, Jennifer suddenly said leisurely, "Otherwise, we will be separated." ”
This sentence frightened Pinguan and hugged his wife: "Wife, I'm sorry!" ”
It was also this time that made him realize how much harm his usual poor communication had caused to his wife.
The Cold War will make the problem bigger and the feelings lighter.
Wounds need to be cleaned and disinfected so that they are not red, swollen and inflamed; problems need to be spoken out in order to find a solution.
Since then, he and his wife have agreed to find a way to solve problems together, and never gamble again, let alone break up.
Pin Guan said: "My wife has a very strong wisdom in life. ”
Since having a child, every time PinGuan returns home from a business trip, he will first hug the child and then hug his wife.
One day, Jennifer suddenly said to him, "Husband, this order is not right. When you get home, you should hug me first, and then hold the child. Because the children will grow up one day and leave us, the person who can really accompany you to old age is me. ”
Since then, no matter how busy he is, no matter how tired he is, he will call his wife for an hour every day and listen to her talk about the trivial things in life.
Life requires wisdom, but it is also indispensable to another half who is willing to listen and change.
A good marriage needs to cooperate with each other and grow together.
Only when two people operate with their hearts, can love flow naturally in the life of chai rice oil and salt.
Today is the 10th wedding anniversary of Pinguan and his wife. On this day every year, Pinguan will send a Weibo commemoration, because this is the anniversary of the two people together.
Jennifer, on the other hand, will also arrange the child on Pinguan's birthday, leaving only the time alone for two people.
In their own way, the two left their love in the marriage.
For marriage, everyone has their own ideas and cognitions, and there will inevitably be various frictions and quarrels in getting along.
As Mark Harden put it, "If you want to live with another person, you have to give in." ”
But if one party always backs down, sooner or later the marriage will be out of balance.
Only when the two men give in to each other can the ship of marriage move forward steadily.
Pin Guan sang in "The More Love, the More Matched" written to his wife: "A person's perfection is perfect, and finally he loses to the best of both worlds." ”
Vigorous love is only temporary, and love that can go long always needs to compromise with each other and tolerate each other, and the same is true for marriage.
Perhaps, those marriages that have gone a long way have been on the verge of parting ways.
It's just that in the end, some people choose the self, and some people choose to be inclusive.
Running a marriage is actually a process of constant trade-offs.
A happy marriage is not because two perfect people meet, but because two people are willing to give up their perfect selves for each other after they meet.
As Pin Guan sang in the song "For You I Want to Be a Better Person" to his wife during the marriage proposal: "For you I want to be a better person, you have completed my soul." Just want you to understand how deep love can be. Your perfection, let me finish. ”
Source:
1. Interview "The Love of Listening can be interviewed at any time in Pinguan"
2. Variety show "Gang to Your Side"
3. Talk show "Speak My World" No. 6
4. MUJI Baidu Encyclopedia
5. Pinguan Weibo