On January 30, 2022, Wang Hui, who had retired for many years after marriage, finally made a comeback through the "2022 Tianjin Satellite TV Spring Festival Gala".
Many people only know Guo Degang and Guo Qilin, but do not know Wang Hui, the "Teacher of deyun Society".
Even the many disciples of the Deyun Society were more famous than Wang Hui.
However, Wang Hui is an even more important figure to the Deyun Society than Guo Degang.
Long before Guo Degang became famous, Wang Hui was already a well-known Jingyun drum actor.
It was only later that she married Guo Degang, in order to take care of her family and help take care of the Deyun Society, that she had to give up her career and retreat to the second line.
Some people say that Wang Hui is a pity.
But judging from the success of the Deyun Society, Wang Hui, who retired for love, is actually a smart woman.
Retreat for love and stabilize the "negative energy" in the rear
Guo Degang and Wang Hui met in the 2000 "Millennium Song Artist Concert", when Wang Hui was already a well-known figure in the Jingyun drum actor, and Guo Degang was still lonely and unknown.
During that time, Guo Degang's career was not smooth, emotionally he had just experienced a divorce, and his hometown still had a son to raise.
He drifted north alone and ate the hardships of life.
Because his boss was in arrears of wages, he could not even pay the rent at one point.
When it came to the rent payment day, the landlord came to collect the rent, and he could only hide in the corner of the room and did not dare to make a sound, until the middle of the night before climbing over the wall to find something to eat.
Later, he founded the Deyun Society, and in order to succeed, he was once willing to be played as a "monkey" by life.
It is in this way that Guo Degang, who wants money and no money, wants to look like Guo Degang, but wang Hui is willing to accompany him to suffer.
When participating in "Flowers and Flowers", Guo Qilin said bluntly: I am very confused, when my mother was so young and beautiful, and her fame was much older than my father, how could she like my father?
Whether it is financial embarrassment, or emotionally having a marriage and a child, these have not made Wang Hui back down.
She did not dislike Guo Degang at that time, but was willing to accompany him to gnaw on the hard bones of life.
Guo Degang once said: "Without her, there would be no deyun society now." ”
This sentence is by no means a nonsense.
In 2002, the operation of Deyun Society once reached the level of "closing its doors".
In order to help Deyunsha survive the difficulties, she sold the Xiali car that her father gave her as a gift, so that Deyunshe was able to survive.
Guo Degang desperately "fought" in the front, while Wang Hui was responsible for stabilizing the whole family in the rear.
As a stepmother, Wang Hui not only got along happily with Guo Degang's son Guo Qilin, but also became the lubricant of the relationship between their father and son.
After Guo Degang's first marriage ended, his relationship with his son Guo Qilin was very distant.
Wang Hui knew very well that this was Guo Degang's inner regret.
After graduating from Guo Qilin Elementary School, she made a decision: she must take Guo Qilin to her side to take care of her.
Guo Degang is a "strict father" who is not good at expression at home, and in order to repair his relationship with his son, Wang Hui becomes the bond between them, re-promoting the flow of love between father and son.
When Guo Qilin first wanted to drop out of school to learn crosstalk, he was strongly opposed by Guo Degang.
Guo Degang knows the hardships of this road too well, so he does not want his son to follow his old path, only hopes that he can be healthy and happy.
But Guo Qilin, who was estranged from his father, could not understand his thoughts.
Guo Degang did not know his son well enough to know his love and determination.
Without Wang Hui, the estrangement between their father and son would always exist.
After several heart-to-heart talks with Guo Qilin, Wang Hui told Guo Degang about his love and determination for cross-talk, and persuaded him to let Guo Qilin enter the Deyun Society first, starting from the most ordinary cross-talk actor.
At the same time, she also let Guo Qilin know Guo Degang's painstaking heart, and let Guo Qilin understand that his father was just not good at expressing, but his love for himself has always existed.
Wang Hui is like a key, opening the locked door between them, so that the original "stagnant" love can flow again.
Without Wang Hui, Guo Qilin might not have understood his father's suffering for the rest of his life.
And Guo Degang will not understand the child's thoughts, and will not allow Guo Qilin to drop out of school and choose his own life path.
The existence of Wang Hui has contributed to the flow of love between their father and son, so that the family energy has reached "rigidity and softness", restoring order and balance.
"Strict Father" and "Loving Mother", strong and soft at the same time
In every family, there seems to be a character who sings blackface and a character who sings whiteface.
Guo Degang and Wang Hui, this is the case.
In the big family of the Deyun Society, many disciples said: "Guo Degang is the most severe master, and Wang Hui is the most gentle teacher." ”
Guo Degang was notoriously harsh on his apprentices, even his son Guo Qilin.
There are brothers and sisters eating at the same table, and it is only his turn that the brothers and brothers have finished eating, and the elders are talking, and he must stand and listen quietly.
In terms of cross-talk, his requirements for Guo Qilin are also very high.
Guo Qilin had to memorize the passages that others could memorize in three days, and if he couldn't finish memorizing them, he would be scolded, and they were all public lessons, never giving his son face.
In his own words, "I haven't hit him with a finger, but I always make him feel that if he doesn't obey, there will be a slap." ”
Wang Hui, on the other hand, would always comfort Guo Qilin after he was trained, and also found him a teacher from Peking University for one-on-one tutoring, helping him prepare books on literature and history and qu art, urging him to read, and encouraging him to persist.
The same is true for other apprentices.
Even the most honest and obedient apprentice, Yue Yunpeng, even if he did a good job, Guo Degang did not boast.
In front of the apprentice, Guo Degang was such a strict master.
But if there is only "strict" and no "soft", it will lead to an imbalance of energy.
And Wang Hui is the existence of "softness" in the Deyun Society, neutralizing Guo Degang's "strictness".
Yue Yunpeng often made mistakes when he first learned to speak cross-talk, and many people wanted Guo Degang to drive him away.
It was Wang Hui who had been silently encouraging him, and she also asked Guo Degang to announce at the meeting: "I let him sweep the land for a lifetime, and I don't want him to go." ”
This sentence retained Yue Yunpeng, and also let him persevere and have today's achievements.
Zhang Yunlei once said in the program that Master's sternness, when he first started, he would be beaten once if he memorized a wrong line, and after each beating, the master's wife encouraged him and bought him new clothes.
If Guo Degang is the "strict father" of the Deyun Society, then Wang Hui is the "loving mother" of the Deyun Society.
She would often let her apprentices eat at home, buy them clothes, and care about their lives.
Whether at home or in the Deyun Society, Wang Hui and Guo Degang are "energy individuals" who perform their respective duties.
One is strict and one is gentle, but it is the combination of these two very different individuals that has this big family that goes downstream.
If Guo Degang is the support of this family, then Wang Hui is the link in the family that maintains and connects "love".
They stand in the right place, blending with each other and balancing the whole family.
Only when yin and yang are combined, the family will go downstream
Many people have always despised the flow of energy in women's homes.
You know, most women in the family are not spoiled princesses, but comrades-in-arms who can walk side by side with their husbands.
Defen Space once had a visitor who had the same energy in her as Wang Hui's exclusive female "connection".
Her husband, a crew member, was absent from home for many years in order to support the family's income stability.
But the relationship between the father and the child is not alienated.
As a mother, she never complains about her husband's busyness in front of her children, but will tell her son when he asks her" why "Why is Dad often not at home": "Because Dad is working hard to make you have a better life." ”
It is her guidance that enables young children to learn to understand their father's hardships and efforts early.
Even if the father is not able to accompany the child, the love between father and son is still flowing.
At the same time, she would talk to her husband about the children every day, so that he could understand his children even if he was thousands of miles away.
This allows him to have a common topic with his son when he comes home and knows how to get along happily with him.
The reason why a family can achieve harmonious relations and mutual understanding is that the "connection" played by women in it is indispensable.
If men in the family are mostly supportive and stable energy, then women's energy in the family is connection and flow.
Recall that the families you've seen are all in this situation:
Fathers are always as majestic as mountains, so that their children are afraid and dare not get close.
Mothers are always gentle as water and embrace everything about their children, for better or worse.
While relationships are stable and there is a flow of love in the family, there is always a mother who acts as a "bond" in the relationship that connects family members.
Let the children in the family know the love that is difficult to express in the mouth of the father; let the majestic father understand the thoughts of the children;
This is the yin energy that exists in every woman, linking the energy field of the whole family.
When yin and yang are combined, family relations will flow downstream.
As the old saying goes, "The terrain is kun, and the gentleman carries things with thick virtue." ”
The interpretation of this sentence is: "A gentleman must learn the kunde of the earth in order to carry all things." ”
So, what is Kunde?
Kunde is inclusive.
The earth embraces all things, and whatever is good or bad, it is accepted without complaint or regret, just like a mother.
Many people describe their mothers with the words "hard work and resentment".
Because they always seem to be taking care of their families without complaint or regret, regardless of return.
But Confucius said in the "Biography of Literature and Speech": "Kun is soft, and the movement is also rigid." ”
This means that although Kun is tolerant, she also has a bottom line temper, and if someone crosses the line and touches the bottom line, she will also be angry.
Just like the earth digs harder and harder, Kun is still hard in his bones, although the surface is feminine.
Inclusion is not the same as indulgence.
This sentence also shows that yin and yang energies are never separated, just like the relationship between men and women in the family.
In most families, people only see the role of men in supporting the family, but tend to ignore the "connection" of women inside.
But in a stable and smooth family, the strength of women is crucial.
Every woman can release this energy in the family:
Get to know every member of the family and help them express themselves;
To dispel misunderstandings among the members of the family and make them understand each other;
To break the barriers in the family, to re-establish the connection, so that there is love flowing among the members.
If a family lacks the energy of this connection, love is difficult to flow.
And the family without love flowing will no longer be harmonious, and even make people in it have negative effects such as physical and mental illness and life difficulties.
Only when yin and yang are connected, and each member stands in his or her proper position, will love flow and the home can maintain order and balance.
Honey, believe me, the energy in you is far more powerful than you think.
Feel with your heart, to tap your own strength, every woman can play a role in the family, far more than you think.
Planning | Fish sweet
Edit | Jiang Feng