Book list author: Xie Yunzhong
Non-fiction classes
#1
Lecture Notes on Modern Western Thought by Liu Qing
Review:
It took two weeks to read on and off. The book focuses on the views of 19 thinkers, concise, concise, popular and serious, and outlines an exciting map of modern Western thought with beautiful and clear expositions.
The experience of reading this book, like the aborigines of a philosophical kingdom, shows you the most wonderful, unique, and iconic attractions of each town - not aimlessly and without forced sales of smuggled goods, but according to your own experience, telling the historical style and current suitable viewing angle of the kingdom map here, and planting in your heart a strong desire to "want to visit the panorama again". So it's also an invisible grass growing machine, and I'm looking at the book list, looking forward to filling this big hole next year.
#2
"Dark Morning"
Chinese New Year's Eve read suede's lead singer Brett Anderson's autobiography that day, I was fascinated by the noise of firecrackers and was led into a crazy, unrestrained, irrational but charming world. It's a pleasure to see your beloved musicians talk about their creative journeys and early years. As a loyal fan of goatskin, the translator's style of writing is quite original, which adds a lot to the reading experience. I couldn't help but recite the passages of the book several times, as if to touch a beautiful soul.
From the beginning of the preface, I fell in love with Uncle An's brushstrokes, gentle, frank, and affectionate, so it was particularly moving. He observes, interprets, and records the world with an honest self-analysis, a unique sensitivity, and an almost serious literary character. This autobiography is different from the madness, explosiveness and emotional flow of Uncle Ann's singing voice, but is full of warm, soft, introspective emotions, like the "Life is golden" he wrote to his son—one of my favorite sentences is "I want to sing my world with my own voice and my own tone, even though the world is broken, gray, dirty, and weird, I still try to sing a little grace and poetry." ”
#3
"When You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain"
The hot book of the year, whether it is the story itself or the psychological and sociological factors behind it, there are many places worth discussing. Share some of my thoughts:
The focus of domestic violence is first and foremost "violence" and then "family". The exercise of violence symbolizes a certain power that enables a person to be in a higher position in the relationship, to gain a superior feeling and more resources, including a sense of control over himself through control of others. The difference between domestic violence and other acts of violence is that the family represents love and violence represents harm. The victim is hurt from where he or she should have been loved, which will deprive the person of trust in the environment and even destroy the original cognitive system. It is therefore extremely destructive.
Domestic violence is inherited. Even if it is not within the scope of domestic violence, witnessing domestic violence from an early age, it is easy for children to learn a certain rule, that is, "violence = power". In order not to be the most inferior person in the family, he will even imitate the behavior of the abuser and use violence against the party being abused. This rule of power will also affect children's relationships as they grow up, making people cruel and distorted in some ways, becoming a toxic factor. He is unable to establish a secure intimate relationship with others, does not know how to express love gently, and must put himself in the initiative of the relationship by forcing and controlling others to feel at ease.
Children who grow up in a domestic violence environment are prone to identify with the perpetrator. They identify with the abuser's sense of power and believe that this power can help them change the fate of "masochism." At the same time, the deformed relationship between parents will make children have a certain cognition, that is, "love can tolerate harm", so they will constantly test the bottom line of others in a relationship as a confirmation of the strength of the relationship.
The higher the level of education, the more capable it is to establish its own moral rules and cognitive systems, and the less susceptible it is to the rules of family power. It is a saving factor in domestic violence and other traumatic experiences. Education means gaining a broader perspective and more diverse values, and thus breaking the shackles and reshaping one's own spiritual world. Education gives people the possibility of freedom.
For Tara, the mountain symbolizes not only the bondage of the past, but also a spiritual source. Only in the mountains can the tendencies, rules, and values that make up Tara's existing personality find deep belonging and resonance. Beyond the mountains, Tara would feel lonely, misunderstood, and lost.
#4
"Absolute Laughter of the Abandoned Doctor's Journal"
The highlights of this book that attracted me to read on the subway were: the unforgettable heavy taste medical passages, a large number of nouns that did not affect the reading of the enterprise-level spit, the understated heartache and the humor engraved into the DNA (here the heartache of the author's partner H, who was released 999 times), the heart of a sincere, caring and compassionate healer.
We always forget that doctors are human beings, that there are people who are vulnerable, who tempers and idealism; we should know that the health system is not human, and the British Health Minister does not do human. The original title of the book, "This is going to hurt", just like the core of a talk show is often tragic, and I can't help but feel sad at the end of reading it.
Translation halved star (actually forced translation of the author's same-sex partner into the opposite sex, exo me?). ), a short style designed to touch fish, plus half a star.
Fictional classes
The Master and Margaret
Masterpiece of magic. Like a gothic black fairy tale, it is strange and strange, gorgeous and strange - the missing human head and the black cat that spits out of the mouth; the poet and the writer talk tearfully in the middle of the night in the mental hospital; the general affairs assistant without a shadow accompanies the rooster singing slowly and slowly floating out of the window; the vengeful witch who has lost her beloved hangs upside down and flies over the forest lake; at the most luxurious carnival feast, the demon king in pajamas raises his sword and drinks heavily; under the unchanging full moon of the millennium, the loyal sharp-eared dog shares the same fate with the Roman governor who has been staring at the moon for a long time.
At the end of the story, the tired people who have experienced suffering and soaring are not without sentimentality but without regret, and they set off on a long journey to bid farewell to the clouds of the earth and the towers of the city. In front of us is a moonlit road sprinkled with silver, leading to forgiveness and eternal peace. If "cowardice is the most important flaw of man", then the death of Yi ran must be the final liberation of man, returning all uneasiness to the peace before birth.
Better to read than russian literature in general. Pearly smooth and moist descriptions, mute dialogue full of metaphors, roller coaster-like ups and downs of the exciting plot, with a bit of mischievous and ironic character modeling, wrapped in a deep and serious core and no trace of advice - the heavens are good reincarnation, good and evil will eventually be rewarded, light and darkness are two sides of the same coin. In the contest of magic and divinity, the images of Satan and Jesus are cute.
"Scream"
"The self-pity of the talented is the elegy of the swan, and the collapse of the mediocre is the cry of the beast." Initially attracted by the subtitle, throughout the story, I think Yoko is not mediocre—she is mediocre, lacking in will, low self-esteem, and easily deceived, but she also has a dedication to survive by grasping a little "needed" warmth, a vitality that struggles to breathe upwards in the dark soil, a kind of almost ruthless sobriety that clearly sees the light but is not deceived by it, and sinks for it. Eventually she no longer felt abandoned by anything, and after recognizing her ignorance and powerlessness, she was given the freedom to choose infinitely, and found a meaning based on the ethereal world—the desire to survive, to fight, to compete, to give.
The author's penmanship is very strong, and the second-person narrative has a strong sense of substitution, which can fully empathize with the protagonist. Mom, Little Goldfish, and Shindai are all very impressive. The first half reminds me of "The Life of the Rejected Pine Nuts" and "Kim Ji-young, born in 1982", which has a deep sense of powerlessness; the second half suddenly unfolds the crime line, stringing dramas to "The End of the Road" and "Born to Kill Maniacs". The ending is stunning.
The Martian
The whole story is witty and exciting, and it is the degree to which someone like me who touches the mechanical principle can read it with relish. The protagonist's problem-solving mode of "encountering crisis - troubleshooting - proposing a plan - constant trial and error - perfecting details" is always trustworthy, just like the game to fight monsters and upgrade the level, making people feel very substitution and not worrying.
The protagonist is the most revolutionary optimism I have ever met, and under the 108 heavy punches given by Mars, he can still cry and eat potatoes and laugh to live, which is a small strong in the history of psychology. During the reading, I repeatedly thought about it- I was the protagonist, in which case I would never last two days on Mars; fortunately, I was not the protagonist, and I would never be able to go to Mars in my life.
Also, some people think of this article as an aerospace science essay, and I didn't remember any practical skills after reading it, but just consolidated a knowledge point again: the Elrond Conference. (The only thing NASA Tech house and I have in common is that I like The Lord of the Rings)
The Golden Age
After reading it, I began to reflect on why I couldn't see it back then. That kind of fresh and vigorous vitality, natural and unpretentious beauty, and the consciousness of the advanced era attract people to read it in one breath. In Wang Xiaobo's eyes, sex is instinctive, as strong and beautiful as sincere love. His language is fluent and simple, natural, like the vast fog in the valley; his stories are deep and moving, and the aftertaste is long, like the white buffalo with moist eyes in the fog—personal desires and the absurdity of the times, in the face of such a look that is enough to penetrate the nothingness and look directly at the truth, it seems to be nothing.
This is a classic worth reading and reading again, and the ironic humor and the description of the scene full of spirit in the text alone is enough to make people like it, not to mention that the author expresses far more than that. By the way, Amway B station up the main "Li Haoshuai's Golden House", with his interpretation of the Wang Xiaobo series to eat, the flavor is better.
Psychology
"Maybe you should talk to someone"
The author of this book is a psychotherapist who is experiencing a low point in life, but also a single mother who has reached middle age, and in the book, she doubles the role of therapist and the client, using a series of counseling records as a clue to string together several life stories that are not satisfactory but eventually enter the country. I have to say that psychotherapeutic novels like Owen Yalong are my super comfort zone for reading. I broke through the difficulty of "dragging on a book for two weeks" after falling in love, once again experienced the immersion and efficiency of reading, and often could read into life, and accelerate thinking and absorption with my own experience.
What touched me the most were the following:
As Teacher Li Songwei said, "Symptoms are functional." You feel pain that can't be changed, perhaps because it can bring you certain benefits, such as avoidance of responsibility and bigger problems.
Your anger is sometimes just a cover-up for fear and at the same time makes it impossible for you to be persuaded by the comfort of tickling your boots; when you really understand the source of your anger, you may be able to get out of your emotions faster.
The loosening of emotions often comes abruptly and wonderfully, and even you cannot predict at what moment your hard shell will be broken, causing your whole soul to tremble. In the last few chapters of the book, the visitors in the treatment room ushered in this moment, which seemed inexplicable, but in fact, it came to fruition– all of which stemmed from the persistent positive attention and the courage to face the hurt/change, which I was deeply admired and touched by.
One visitor impressed me, even envied, was that young Julie was suffering from cancer when she was newly married, and was repeatedly caught off guard by tragic small-probability events. She has no future, but has a nearly perfect past. She wanted her obituary to read, "Julie Callahan Blue, Chinese New Year's Eve five." Every day of her life was deeply loved. ”
A heartfelt and honest exchange, seen without reservation, understood without judgment, the meaning and joy it can bring is unimaginable. Even if it's only a short hour at a time.
"Family on a Hot Pot"
The transcript of the work of the master of family therapy is extremely silky to read. Share a few topics that impressed me:
People's misunderstandings and expectations of married life. Both parties in a marriage tend to place all their spiritual weight on the other person, obtaining sexual satisfaction, romantic love, companionship of friendship, security, and psychotherapy, while the failure of expectations will lead to the termination of the relationship.
Women's dilemma in family life. Too often, society demands that women show obedience and sacrifice, forgetting to tell them that "giving up the idea of trying to change or get support from a partner may be a fresh start." Your world will be centered around you, not the other person. "As a result, women's self-awareness awakening and self-growth often lead to divorce.
The huge tension hidden in the relationship. The fear of giving and the fear of independence are entangled with each other, unable to satisfy but unable to separate, and even deliberately avoid quarrels because of fear of losing each other – and once the contradiction is provoked and manifested, the fragility, pain, sadness, and frustration exposed by both sides will be shocking.
Man's innate thirst for warmth and care. Whether it's caring eyes, tone or body movements, "true care is absolutely irresistible when it comes up." ”
The kindness, sharpness and creativity of the master. "It must have the power to leave sharp incisions like surgery to cut through the family's heavy resistance and escape, to reveal the indescribable pain in their hearts, and to unleash their great potential."
What sets family therapy apart from individual therapy is that family therapists question the way in which long-term happiness can be achieved by simply pursuing the self, arguing that the balance between "self" and "others" is what humans need most. And it's hard for me to deny that.
In fact, I also read several books about family therapy this year, including "The Master's Craft and Skills" and "Circular Questioning", each of which is professional, rich and wonderful. This book is the most informative and interesting, suitable for non-professionals to read.
"Did I Make You Stupid Cry?"
The book covers a lot of psychological and cognitive neuroscience, which gives me the illusion of revisiting General Psychology. But the author's unique and even slightly bad-hearted sense of humor and strange but mysterious vivid metaphors have greatly improved the readability of the book.
In addition to some seemingly practical "brain-fooling" tips, I also remembered the following three points:
Human memory often improves and adjusts the information stored in the brain in order to make us feel better;
It's true that our brains often see "being liked" more important than "right";
Despite our willingness to live in groups and be friendly, our brains care too much about maintaining a sense of identity and peace of mind, preferring to treat us unfairly if someone or something threatens us.
Knowing that "the human brain is so stupid" (trouble, confusion, illogysis) doesn't make us a little smarter, it may stop worrying about our stupidity. From then on, tell the brain: you can't escape this pot, we have to carry it together.
"A Gift to a Psychotherapist"
At the beginning of the year, when reading, I can't help but stop to make memories and comparisons. About Owen Yaron, I'm really tired of boasting. As the recommendation says, "The light of the master's words illuminates my heart through the back of the paper" and "Drinking this wine can really save myself.". I remember my teacher saying that "psychologists tend to live long and healthy lives", and I also think of the image of The Buddha Gautama in Siddhartha– not that there is no defect, but that it can achieve and maintain a state of openness, sincerity, positivity, and self-consistency, and is somewhat close to harmony.
The book concludes with a deep impression on me: "The profession of the therapist can be traced back not only to Freud and Jung, the founders of psychotherapy, to their predecessors Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, and Kierkegaard, but also to Christ, Buddha, Plato, Socrates, Galen, Hippocrates, and all the other great religious leaders, philosophers, and physicians." What all these people are concerned about and saving is the despair of humanity. ”
Film and television
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Psychic Journey
It was as good as expected. Warm, moving, fun and powerful. The ending reminds me of a quote from the Buddha who once read in a book: the question of the meaning of life cannot be taught, and one must immerse oneself completely in the river of life so that the problem does not exist.
In the story, the spark is not the "goal of life", but the "yearning of life" and the "will of life" - the shape of the lollipop and the aroma of pizza, the wind of the underground passage that raises the hair to the sky, the moonlight driving into the realm of self-forgetfulness with music, the throbbing and sighing of the heart of the ginkgo falling for a moment, the moment after a moment of calm, loneliness but consummation, the minutes and seconds of those who do not regret living until now and want to continue to live. Because the feeling of being alive is itself a miracle.