Quick comment| full-time mother exposed herself to domestic violence, expressing "zero tolerance" with actions

Following the domestic violence incident of an executive of a company in Shaanxi, another domestic violence incident has been on the hot search. A woman in Xi'an posted a video claiming to have been a full-time mother for 6 years and was repeatedly abused by her husband in front of her children. At present, the local women's federation has confirmed that it has received a request for help, and the situation is under investigation.

In addition to exposing the details of domestic violence 3 times in the video, the woman also experienced life bits and pieces, such as "I raised you into me to borrow you", and her husband gave her 500 yuan a month for living expenses and also made an IOU. For a while, netizens continued to comment, and many people questioned why they could tolerate a humble life. There are also lawyers who advise on divorce, reminding victims that one is to call the police to leave evidence every time they commit domestic violence, and the other is to quickly find a job to help compete for custody.

For onlookers, it is easy to "mourn their misfortunes and anger them" easily. However, leaving aside the limitations of each person's growth environment, educational background, personality, etc., and putting yourself in the shoes of the victim and thinking about it, you will find that this is a problem of ability, but it is not only a problem of ability.

Usually, the victims of domestic violence are generally the weak party, for the vulnerable, by personal strength to get rid of domestic violence, there will be many difficulties: such as how to end a marriage relationship and fight for their rights, get a job, independent children... Every life problem may make her more patient with domestic violence.

In previous domestic violence cases, the exhortation to "give the child a complete home" sounded familiar to us, in fact, hearing or witnessing domestic violence may cause mental harm to children. For families with a history of domestic violence, if the victim "endures for the sake of the child", he is actually harming the child.

For each victim, there is an urgent need for greater energy to get out of the quagmire of domestic violence.

The first step is to have the courage to say no.

Article 33 of the Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China stipulates that where the perpetrator commits domestic violence and constitutes an act that violates the administration of public security, he shall be punished by the administration of public security in accordance with law; where a crime is committed, criminal responsibility shall be pursued in accordance with law. When anyone suffers from domestic violence, they should take up the legal weapon to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests.

The second step is to let the silent speak up and the powerless to be powerful.

Every case of domestic violence that is exposed or hidden under the coat of marriage should arouse the attention and vigilance of the entire society. In the face of abusers, we rarely use "housework" to make excuses for our cowardice, and we should report it. Let the perpetrator not only bear the punishment of the law, but also deter social pressure and dare not take the risk.

The relevant departments should also provide various assistance to victims, such as paying attention to the physical and mental health of victims and their children, and helping to find employment.

Anti-domestic violence must have both a "zero tolerance" attitude and "zero tolerance" actions. Let us act to stop giving the perpetrators a chance.

Modern Express commentator Di Bai