In June, because of severe depression, I couldn't go to work and rest at home, and I remember seeing this real-life and true-story healing movie on Central Radio 6 at 9 o'clock in the evening, (my husband had depression) let me understand what depression is. The hero's encounter is simply a copy of himself. Today I will combine the plot of the movie to tell you about your similar experience with the hero, and I believe that this is really a true portrayal of most depressed people.
We were originally sunny and happy, but recently slowly became silent, as if there are endless hearts, but can not tell, the male protagonist Takasaki is a very harsh person who treats life, making bento every day, with what cheese with what color of the tie has its own rules, and the wife Xiaohua is a manga artist, treating life more lazy, relying on her husband's salary to support the family, two people also raised a lizard, called Seven Seven, witnessing two people every day, a plain life.
Unlike Takasaki, Haruko has no rules in life, free and easy, Haruko is a non-professional manga artist, everything gets by, the only thing that can make him serious, that is, things related to Takasaki, he found that the recent takashi is very abnormal, he no longer pays attention to his appearance, the hair on the back of his head is always upturned, often look at the garbage can and talk to himself, saying that what useless things should be disposed of,
His body also began to ache inexplicably, and these two days he was listless, his appetite was reduced, he could not eat at all, and he was not interested in Haruko's affection.
Give your own bento to your colleagues
Haruko persuaded him to go to the hospital for a check-up, and only then did she know that she was suffering from depression, and the doctor said that depression was a cold in the heart, a very common disease, and there was no need to be too nervous. Just like treating a cold, first rely on drugs to control, and then find out the cause, pull out the root of the disease, for Takasaki, finding the cause is actually very simple, nothing more than work pressure. But even if you know the cause of Takasaki can not resign, he and his wife proposed to promise that he will take on the responsibility of supporting the family, Haruko only needs to concentrate on his manga dreams, no matter what, he has to hold on, Takasaki to talk to the company leader, want to transfer to a more relaxed position, but the leader knows that he suffers from depression and does not care very much, after all, who in this era is not a little depressed, the leader rejected Takasaki's request, difficult customers also called, continue to vent their dissatisfaction, life is still desperate.
Every day on the way to work, I would stop, stare at the garbage, feel as useless as the garbage, try to jump off the building, but shout upstairs, I can't do it
Haruko looked back on her husband's life during this time, only to find that he had ignored too much, he began to look up information about depression on the computer, Haruko felt guilty and found that she did not seem to notice her husband's condition, she immediately asked her husband to resign, and then her husband handed in a resignation letter, there was no hard work, and there was professional drug treatment, coupled with Haruko's careful care, Takasaki's situation slowly improved, he began to experience happiness again, would be happy because of the good weather, and was also elated when he went to review.
As a result, I was told by the doctor not to take it lightly, and depression is always good and bad. Takasaki was preparing for a bad mood in his heart, but he didn't think that it would come so quickly. Takasaki's brother came to visit him and said some words of encouragement to him, thinking that he could help Takasaki, but his brother's words made him feel the pressure again, Takasaki constantly denied himself, he wrapped himself in a quilt and cried bitterly, obviously very hard but worthless, like a garbage, he was worried that his depression would spread to Haruko, Haruko suggested that he should not think much, rest well, take a nap is good, he cried bitterly, thinking that sleeping during the day was sorry for society, Haruko saw him lying lazily on the ground, enjoying the warm sunshine, life can be lazy, just like their pets, do nothing, just sleep comfortably for a day, it is also a different kind of happiness, so Haruko lies on Takasaki's back like Seven Seven. Takasaki looked at his pet sadly, I am really a useless master, I am so sorry for you, at this moment Takasaki expects to be a cold-blooded animal, can not care about everything, nor can feel the pain, but Haruko put his hand on herself, if you become a reptile, it will not be so warm
So Takasaki's condition slowly changed, it was no longer so sad, but fell into a long sleep, early after breakfast, nap after lunch, of course, still sleep after dinner, the whole person is like a sleeping beauty who was cast by a witch, Haruko said to him that it is better than not sleeping. Because of depression, Takasaki still can't do it to make love to Haruko, and Takasaki feels guilty at this time.
One day Takasaki was basking in the sun in the yard, Haruko asked Takasaki what the happiest thing to think about, Takasaki said cooking, eating delicious food, washing clothes and cleaning. How difficult it is for a seemingly simple life to suddenly bring interest to a depressed person. Takasaki tried to cook his own dishes, and he blamed himself for not being able to taste the taste at all, and the dishes were fried everywhere, even if Haruko praised him, he didn't feel happy. Takasaki's depression is mixed and bad, and her mother-in-law and Haruko say during the conversation, Haruko said, I shouldn't think about the cause of my husband's depression, I should think about the real meaning of depression. On this day, I personally met and chatted with my classmates, and my classmates were sighing that they were going to divorce, and they were going to struggle alone in the future, so tired and miserable, and Haruko advised her not to work hard, if it was painful, don't try. My husband was depressed, but I decided not to work hard, no matter how hard it was, no matter how uncomfortable it was.
Later, in order to make ends meet, Haruko went to the magazine to look for a job, and Haruko said that her husband was depressed so she came out to look for a job. The head of the magazine was also very considerate of Haruko giving her a job because she had suffered from depression. The leaders of the magazine want haruko to publish a book on depression to help more people. After Haruko returned home and told Takasaki that her husband had depression to get the job, Takasaki felt very embarrassed, Haruko said: After saying it, I was happy for myself, precisely because I did not dare to say it before because I was afraid that everyone's prejudice and misunderstanding of depression would not be understood, and I did not want to be inexplicably sympathized. But it's not, because I think it's hard to talk about my husband being depressed, so I'm happy to say it now. Takasaki gradually began to chat with his former colleagues because of Haruko's enlightenment.
Haruko gradually put Takasaki's depression behind, Takasaki also spent every day under her infection, but depression is far less simple than they think, one day Takasaki found that Haruko's name in the manga was written wrong, he asked Haruko to contact the manga club to correct it back, because of her husband's few words, because of being disturbed, Haruko was angry and acted very impatient, it was these few words that touched her husband's sensitive nerves, Takasaki has always thought that he has been abandoned by the world after his illness, only Haruko is left, Now that Haruko is starting to hate her, it's time for him to leave this desperate world, he covers his mouth in the bathroom and cries and tries to commit suicide, but fortunately Haruko finds out in time and stops it.
Later Haruko found that her husband needs to understand more, in the process of accompanying her husband to fight depression, Haruko found what she really wanted to draw, in order to help Haruko better complete the manga, he also dedicated his diary, which clearly recorded his daily feelings, I believe that many depressed patients will feel empathy, Haruko completed the manga with the help of Takasaki, Takasaki is also helping Haruko to draw manga in the process of being more cheerful and calm, and even approved by the doctor, no longer need to take medicine, life is getting better and better.
Something to celebrate is also happening, due to the manga hit, Takasaki and Haruko were invited to give a speech, the theme is depression is not terrible, in the lecture hall, Takasaki said, depression is really difficult to survive, but the secret of my victory over it is not anxious, not special treatment, recognize what I can and can't do, to be honest, because I am sick, I used to feel ashamed and difficult to say, but my Haruko changed me, he told me. This is not a shameful thing, no matter who can really be themselves at any time, should be proud and proud, whether it is because of illness and suffering, or those who support them around, their life posture itself is a very proud thing. Since then, Takasaki has been completely relieved of his original life, but he still does not want to face the crowd, and enjoys the life with Haruko, Haruko opens a studio at home, Takasaki also receives a lot of emails every day, and carries out depression speeches, he really accepts depression. She herself and rediscovered the beauty of life, and finally two people sat in the doorway, the husband held Qiqi, the two people seemed to have another understanding of life, Haruko found what she really wanted to paint, the husband had a new understanding of himself in the process, and they defeated the seemingly powerful enemy with a smile.
The film ends abruptly here, this is based on the real life of people with depression, really recommended for people with depression, or depressed mood to watch, he can let us find the resonance of the heart. And the film conveys a universal method of combating depression "If it is painful, don't work hard, just keep a normal mind" All along, when we are very tormented by depression, we often hear that you have to cheer up and live hard, as if hard work is the right and only attitude in life, giving up or stopping will be spurned and disdainful. However, it is already very painful to be sick, and at this time, you must stop and rest, and don't try to maintain a normal mind first. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, although you won't recover immediately, at least emotionally. After watching the movie, I feel that many of the plots and mental activities of the hero are exactly the same as when I was sick, and it is indeed very realistic. Although a movie is only two hours long, telling the story of the hero from illness to coming out, it may take a long time for us to recover in real life, but we should not lose confidence. As long as we keep exploring ways to heal ourselves, we will always find it. Just like the last sentence of the film, even the darkest night will usher in the dawn.