When you can't hold on, I accompany you - the way to ☘️ treat depressed patients Depressed people are most afraid to hear the three consecutive: come on, insist, stand up. It's like if you run a hundred meters

When you can't hold on, I'll accompany you

- The way to treat people with depression

☘️ The three consecutive times that people with depression are most afraid to hear:

Come on, stick to it, stand up.

It's like if you run a hundred meters and then your leg breaks.

You have a fever and diarrhea and pneumonia.

If you talk about him, he will say, I am also out of good intentions. The question is, the leg is broken, sick, why should you come up and stick to it?

Do you think you're doing flat supports? You should go directly to the doctor!

🍀 I have a friend who is depressed and said that I did have very deep feelings during that time.

It's about feeling like a man with a broken leg and wanting to find a crutch.

But the people around her kept encouraging her: be optimistic, be strong, and run like us! But it was as if she was asking: Why are you sick? Why are you making excuses?

🍀 In our society, it is an extreme shame to have psychological problems.

If a cancer patient insists on chemotherapy and survives repeated pains, people will praise him for being strong.

A person with psychological problems insists on living, fighting all kinds of psychological struggles every day, and people will say that he is vulnerable.

But why has our society never been able to truly understand a person with psychological problems?

Your understanding is the greatest support

🍀 One of my favorite movies is "My Husband Gets Depression."

🍀 His wife, Xiaoqing, is an unsellished cartoonist, lazy, who likes to stay at home to draw cartoons and sleep, and relies on her husband to earn money to support the family.

🍀 Husband Hatogan is introverted and honest, pursuing perfection and extremes in everything, measuring straight pants legs with a ruler before going out, and working meticulously.

I don't know from what day, he found that he was getting more and more wrong, looking at everything very negatively, and when he threw garbage, he felt that he was garbage.

🍀 That irrepressible loneliness and sadness kidnapped him and was as painful as society and family abandonment.

He often had headaches, low back pain, and discomfort in all parts of his body. There was no appetite, weak body, no interest in anything, and even climbed to the top of the unit to commit suicide.

On the surface, his life was normal, but in fact, he had already been "sick".

🍀 But the shame of mental illness made him feel that he had to hold on.

Because, the boss told him, who is not a little stressed now, why are you depressed?

My mother-in-law also said that you must be strong, optimistic, and take on your responsibilities as if everything is his fault.

The pressure of supporting a family, a job, and social competition was all piled on him, and he did not dare to choose not to work hard.

🍀 However, Xiao Qing did not blame him.

Threatening by divorce, she asked her husband to immediately quit his job to see a doctor and start looking for a job to earn money to support her family.

After the depression was diagnosed, Takano began to completely deny himself, often triggering negative emotions because of a small thing: I am a broken person, useless, and have no existence value.

The wife asked him to take a nap, but the husband felt that he slept in the daytime to be sorry for society.

He couldn't tolerate himself relaxing.

🍀 Xiaoqing has always accompanied her husband in her own way. Instead of rushing for her husband to recover immediately, she told him:

Do what you want to do, eat what you want to eat, and if it hurts, it's okay not to make an effort.

🍀 One of the images that touched me very much was that Xiaoqing taught her husband to take a nap, and his limbs were lazily spread out, but his husband was still on his stomach stiffly.

Xiao Qing rolled around next to him, then climbed onto his body, and the two of them chatted comfortably and endlessly.

🍀 They would hug each other tightly, talk about stains on the ceiling, pet lizards igu.

The husband asked: Will it be lonely?

The wife answered: No, it is a reptile and a cold-blooded animal with no complicated emotions.

🍀 The husband sighed: I also want to be a reptile.

The wife sat up, grabbed her husband's hand and put it close to her chest, and said softly: If you become a reptile, it will not be so warm.

🍀 His wife's company let him know that he was never alone.

In the most difficult times, the people closest to you have never thought of giving up on you are the greatest psychological support.

🍀 But a depressed person said that this film could not be watched after seeing half of it.

Takano was surrounded by so many kind and gentle people, and while he was touched to the point of being confused, he was also very, very envious.

Because the truth is that those who pluck up the courage to show themselves and seek help are easily denied by parents, relatives and friends, and even strange netizens.

🍀 Where does Xiaoqing's positive love and attention come from?

I think it's because of deep understanding.

Because of understanding, it is not easy to say to them, you are just not strong, just bear with it.

🍀 When you can't hold on, asking for help is really no big deal.

Psychological struggle does not detract from our strength.

Psychological trauma will not corrode our lives.

Honestly confronting our own psychological problems does not make us vulnerable or lose our minds.

On the contrary, it will make us a complete person.

🍀 I received psychological counseling, not because I was sick, because I wanted to face my inner feelings, I didn't want to run away from and deny my past experiences, I wanted to truly be myself.

🍀 As an ordinary person, if you have friends around you who tell you that he is watching psychological counseling and that he has a mental illness, please do not easily ask "how can you get sick".

Don't judge lightly: "You don't have to be so depressed", "You have to be positive", "You just think too much in a day", "How can you be so pretentious"...

Your words are likely to cause them double the pain.

🍀 And if you're facing emotional distress, some minor psychological problems; if you're facing mental illness, depression, mental disorders—

I want you to know that it's not a shameful thing to be brave enough to ask for help.

It's not you who should be ashamed, it's those who don't know you but judge you recklessly.

🍀 One of my favorite quotes is that everything has cracks, and that's where the light comes in.

Those who chase the light on the rift should not be ridiculed.

I'll give you a hug.

The world and I love you.