"You are the best toy for children" reads and shares the stage problems of 07--"2-3 year old children"

In the previous part, we shared the emotional guidance of infancy, and as children grow, different stage problems will occur.

When the child enters the stage of 2-3 years old, he has been able to fully express his own ideas, will have his own friends and friends, and the conflict between the child and the outside world will slowly become frequent. At this stage, parents can fully interact with their children according to the method of emotional guidance.

Emotional guidance for 2-3 year olds

While we maintain an intimate relationship with our children, we must also set clear limits so that children know what can be done and what must not be done.

Emotional guidance and setting limits are the two most critical aspects of educating children.

Setting limits or setting house rules does not mean threatening or intimidating children, and parents should explain to them the reasons for certain things they can and cannot do.

About sharing

When your child refuses to share his toys with friends, he's not really selfish.

His age determines that his behavior sharing is a good habit that has been developed slowly, and before that, competing for toys was an inevitable universal behavior.

You can play with your child more, let your child share food in the toy bowl with you, or anything he explores, so that he can get used to sharing it with everyone.

If your child is over three years old and you don't want to see him making noise in public, you may want to put away some of your favorite toys before your child's friends arrive, and tell him that these toys can not be shared with children, and let the child know that the toys left outside are for all children to play with.

Another way to do this is to allow your child to monopolize the toy for a while before giving it to the child to play with. If a child is asked to share it before he or she has an exclusive toy, it may cause him to resist sharing.

But if he has the opportunity to satisfy his curiosity first, he may be more willing to take turns playing. As long as we don't insist on making sacrifices for our children, it will help them establish the right concept of sharing and gradually develop the good habit of sharing in turn

Never punish your child for refusing to share it, and don't treat it as a serious problem. Don't let the process of teaching children to share turn into a contest between you. When your child is reluctant to share, you can step in and speak for him, which is a demonstration of your understanding of him and a demonstration of the right way to handle it.

Fears common in early childhood

For children, the fear of the unknown arises naturally, so they really believe that there may be ghosts hidden under the bed in the dark places where monsters may be hidden

Children of all ages have something to fear, and some fears can persist even into adulthood.

The most effective way for parents to help their children cope with fear is to give them support and encouragement, and denying or belittling their children's fears will only make them feel vulnerable and helpless.

Children's imagination grows with age, including the imagination of horrors. So the fears of children of all ages are different.

Parents first need to understand where their children's fears come from, and then take different measures against different fears.

Knowing that most of a child's fears will disappear with age, so parents don't have to be overly anxious.

Remember that moderate fear is good for children to maintain a healthy sense of vigilance

Strange people, strange dogs, or complicated situations can all be dangerous, and we want our children to believe that their intuitive fear is a life-saving ability

The suspension of activities law does not work

What is the Suspension of Activities Act?

In response to some unacceptable behavior of children, parents will punish children in the form of punishment stations, wall-facing, and locking in specific rooms to interrupt children's behavior and let children think calmly about their own faults.

The author believes that the suspension of activities does not have the effect that parents expect.

First, parents use the suspension as punishment rather than a means of guiding their children's behavior.

Children only know that their parents do not accept their behavior, but are not instructed on what to do when it is appropriate and appropriate.

Secondly, in this process, it shows the disrespect of parents for their children, which makes children feel humiliated.

Especially when a third party is present, the child's self-esteem can be severely traumatized.

In addition, young children have limited ability to regulate emotions and need a caring adult to understand, comfort, and guide them.

Young children do not know how to regulate their emotions and feelings, and they need the help of their parents more than usual.

Abuse of the suspension of activity law is not only a punishment but also an isolation for children, and may trigger a long-term physiological response in children.

The most appropriate way to educate should be emotional guidance and setting limits.

Parents can adopt a gentle and non-punishing approach to gradually calm down in the company of their parents. Under the guidance of parents, reflect on what they have done and propose a better solution for them.

First of all, parents can squat down, have full eye contact with the child, and give the child full attention. Also remind your child of your behavior.

If the child cannot stop behaving, the child can be taken away from the scene and sat down with him in a quiet area. Please note that you are not punishing your child, you are growing up with him.

Then, wait for your child to calm down, tell your child why you stopped him, and discuss with him other possible methods.

Finally, thank your child for helping you figure out how to do it.

Understanding the stage problems of 2-3-year-old children, next, we talk about 4-7 years old children.