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Hypocritical people, hidden; sincere people, down-to-earth.
If a person wants to succeed, he must live "really" and not float half a bit.
At any time, stay in the matter, don't get used to thinking of yourself as the protagonist, and let others circle around you.
If you look at this line of thought, you will find that the really powerful people are willing to listen to ugly words, watch ugly things quietly, and dare to expose ugly things
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Willing to listen to ugly words and accept criticism.
There is such a story in "Yanzi Spring and Autumn": Qi Linggong likes to watch women wear men's clothes. As a result, there are women dressed as men everywhere, causing confusion between men and women.
At the imperial court, Qi Linggong said angrily: "When you see a woman wearing men's clothes, you tear her clothes." ”
Many women's clothes were torn, but the habits did not change. Qi Linggong found Yan Zi restlessly and said, "How is it good?" ”
Yan Zi said, "You let the women in the palace do this, let the women outside the palace do that, this is hanging up a bull's head and selling horse meat." ”
A minister can say ugly things before the king, which is a manifestation of the king's wisdom and the root of the country's strength. As a result, the state of Qi was able to prosper for a long time.
In contrast, those kings who liked "one word" did not have a good ending later. For example, King Li of Zhou sent many wizards to record the speech of people on the street, but anyone who said something against him was arrested. Therefore, the people on the street lost their voices, and King Zhou Li was also bombed down.
The writer Zheng Yuanjie once said: "The best way to destroy a person is to indulge his shortcomings." ”
On the other hand, in order to achieve a person, it is necessary to point out his shortcomings and not to cover them up in the slightest.
Take history as a mirror. People who like to listen to hypocrisy should reflect on themselves, don't think that the people who like you every day really like you, see your achievements, maybe they just want to tickle you; those who are embarrassed about you, not look down on you, but help you.
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Watch the ugliness and stay awake.
Ji Kang, a literary scholar of the Three Kingdoms period, was a Zhongshan doctor of the State of Wei when he was young.
After the power of the State of Wei was seized by the Sima family, he insisted on retiring and no longer bothered about official affairs.
In the fourth year of Jing Yuan, the wife of her friend Lu An was bullied and humiliated by her brother Lü Xun, resulting in continuous family conflicts. Lü Xun "the wicked sued first", counting down Lu An's various things.
Ji Kang stood up and spoke for Lu An, thus offending Sima Zhao and being imprisoned.
Before the execution, Ji Kang's face did not change, playing "Guangling San", saying: "In the future, no one can learn this song." ”
In the face of the complex and changeable situation, Ji Kang did not fear, nor did he defend himself.
There is a way that if no one knows, unless he does nothing.
After several years, Ji Kang's talents, Lü Xun's viciousness, and the sincerity of the Sima family were all at a glance. No one can say whether it is right or wrong, but Ji Kang's temperament has won our praise.
Seeing through the ugliness of others, but not polluting your eyes and spirit by the ugliness of others, and guiding your own words and deeds, this is the real "high cold".
As a person, the most rare thing is not to "ignore" the ugly state, but to be in the matter, but also to have the wisdom to jump out of the circle to see the circle, even if there is a basin of dirty water splashed on the body, you can shake it, laugh and talk.
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Dare to expose ugly things, kind and brave.
A wise man said, "How many secrets does a person need to hide in order to live a life skillfully." ”
In life, ugly things abound. In the family, some people betray the family and treat marriage as a child's play; in order to get rich, some people get money with bad conscience; walking on the street, some people occupy public resources for a long time...
As the saying goes, "The ugliness of the family is not exaggerated." "Most people, when chatting, will avoid their own ugly things and talk about the length of other people's homes. As soon as you touch your own ugly thing, you will immediately turn your face.
Some ugly things have become secrets that will never be told for the rest of their lives.
Only the powerful will expose the ugly and use it to warn themselves. When it comes to ugly things, you can also keep a normal mind, rather than being grumpy. This is the real "calm".
During the Spring and Autumn Warring States period, king Qi Wei went to Jimo and walked around and saw the Taiping Dynasty. Therefore, he regarded those around him who said that Jimo was not good as "air".
He went to Adi for a walk and saw the scene of the fields being barren and the masses impoverished, so he arrested all the people around him who said that Adi was prosperous and stripped them of their official positions.
He said to the officials in Adi: "Ever since you were in charge, there have always been people around you who say that you are very good. It's you who paid for the people around me. ”
King Qi Wei's words, like a spring wind, reached the ears of the masses, and everyone clapped their hands and applauded, and from then on, there were fewer fake things and more real things around him.
As a person, you must dare to uncover your own scars and show your attitude, otherwise the people around you will always give you praise and help cover up ugly things.
At the same time, you must also dare to expose the ugly things in society, if you turn a blind eye, you are aiding and abetting abuse. For example, if you see a thief and you pretend not to see it, you are an accomplice to the thief, and it is even uglier to cover up the ugliness.
True goodness, with its teeth, will make the vicious person deserve the punishment. In society, good people occupy all the space, and bad people naturally have no foothold.
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Shakespeare said, "He who loves vanity hides a rich coat from an ugly underwear." ”
"One white" can cover up all ugliness, but it cannot turn black into white, even if it is temporarily changed, sooner or later it will change back. Only those who turn white from the depths of their hearts have changed their faces and embarked on the road of "truth, goodness and beauty" from then on.
"The Emperor's New Clothes" provoked a lot of people to watch, and the applauders lined up in a long line, but there was a child who said, "Look, he's not wearing anything." ”
In fact, powerful people, just like the naïve child, say what they see, say what they think, and don't think too complicated about human nature.
May we listen to ugly words, and be faithful to our ears and good for our deeds.
Looking at the ugliness, the world is drunk and I am awake.
Dare to expose the ugly, real gold is not afraid of fire to refine.
May you and I be a person who dares to shine ugly.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.