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Seeing this topic, I will think of my own marriage, I am now a housewife, husband Li Kai is a private business owner, although the scale of the enterprise is not large, but it is enough for our family to live happily.
Li Kai was particularly busy when he started his business, when we didn't have children, we didn't have the current house and car, I started a business with Li Kai at that time, and helped Li Kai a lot.
Later, the company was on the right track, and I happened to be pregnant again, so at the suggestion of Li Kai, I left the workplace and became a housewife, and every day just being a child made me busy on all fours, and I grew up with my grandmother, so I didn't want my children to grow up with the elderly in the next generation, because I knew the pain clearly.
With children, I put all my thoughts on children.
One day, I found that Li Kai's WeChat actually put a beautiful woman's avatar in the top position, I asked Li Kai who she was, he said lightly that he was just an ordinary friend, I couldn't understand, I was put on the top, and there was even a woman who enjoyed the same treatment as me.
I began to make a big alarm bell, and began to ask Li Kai to take my mobile phone to check every day, Li Kai did not look good every time, but I thought that this was better than me being squeezed down by Xiao San.
Li Kai tried to communicate with me many times, telling me that the woman was just a friend in ordinary business, because there were more business contacts during that time, and it was at the top, and there was nothing between them.
Looking at the woman painted on the photo with delicate light makeup and a slim figure, I looked at myself in the mirror again, not only did I have fine lines at the corners of my eyes, but also my body was bloated and dressed casually, I suddenly felt that Li Kai must have a good relationship outside, so I stepped up the inspection of Li Kai's mobile phone and stepped up the tracking of Li Kai's itinerary.
Li Kai wanted to stop talking every time at this time, and his expression was cold and thin.
After feeling that Li Kai had the clue of cheating, I thought back to the past, and then looked at the current Li Kai, I felt suspicious everywhere, and felt that Li Kai was no longer the person who pursued me and vowed to be with me for life.
After finding the signs of Li Kai's derailment, I could no longer calm down, every day I pestered Li Kai to ask East and West, the more Li Kai explained, the more I doubted, I suddenly felt that Li Kai had changed, became a person full of lies, I no longer believed him, I doubted his every move, his every move made me suspect that he did not love me.
I was crazy, but I couldn't find the evidence, Li Kai quickly moved out of the house, I said he changed, he said I changed, I said he was no longer the one who loved me, and he said, I am no longer the sunny and confident person, he asked me, how did you become what you are now? I roared, it was you who changed, why you became what you are now.
So we separated.
I went to the psychiatrist and I felt like I was going crazy myself.
With the help of a psychiatrist, I gradually calmed down and began to realize that indeed I had changed, that I had become that I did not even know myself.
I need to take care of the children, the children are my everything, and at the same time I need to find myself, so I fell into a cooling off period with Li Kai.
I started writing on the Internet, I myself am particularly fond of writing, when I was a child I had a dream of being a writer, and now I am cleaning up my emotions while regaining my dreams.
Every day something was done, I was no longer caught up in my own emotional vortex, I slowly found myself, insisted on writing every day, and did not delay in taking care of the children.
After calming down for a while, I took the initiative to talk to Li Kai once, after three months, Li Kai sat in front of me, I had exquisite makeup and a slim figure, and now I could stay out of the matter and talk about things between us.
Now that we're back together, that woman is really just a client, and now we're good friends, talking about everything, thinking back to those crazy things half a year ago, I think the reason why couples don't communicate emotionally well is actually that the thinking of men and women is two different existences.
Sometimes it is not the thing itself that hurts you, but the wild thoughts in your head, and the men's thoughts and the women's thoughts are not in the same time and space.
Warn women all over the world, you must not only have husbands and children in your world, otherwise marriage will have problems sooner or later, and not everyone can be lucky like me, can get help in time to restrain the horse.
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