Seven months ago, Wu Shigang took his 19-year-old mentally handicapped son and started running online ride-hailing. In order not to be complained about by customers, his co-driver has a description of why he took the sports car with his children behind his back.
(Late at night, Wu Shigang's father and son stopped to eat on the side of the road)
The Spring Festival is approaching, and he has no money to go home for the New Year. Credit cards, online loans, mortgages... These have been overdue for 9 months, and the 80-year-old mother has not received living expenses for two years. He has a complicated relationship with his family.
He was 13 years old and homeless, sentenced to 11 years in prison at 17, and "divorced" at 29. During the years when he took his son to make a living, the three women and Wu Shigang had feelings and also left.
Children have become the biggest obstacle to life, but they are also the most difficult obstacle for Wu Shigang to give up. This man with a complicated life said that the biggest dream is that one day his son will say, "Daddy, you have been wronged over the years", which means that the son has recovered and woken up, and his life may really turn around.
He added a film between the front and back of the car, the few breathing spaces Wu Shigang left for himself and his son. But the film is translucent, as if he has to deal with the urging behind him anytime and anywhere, take his son, and desperately run the car.
On the back of the co-pilot, a description of "the child's second-degree mental disability" and a copy of the disability card were posted, and Wu Shigang had no choice. Seven months ago, he took his 19-year-old mentally handicapped son Dongdong and started running ride-hailing. In order to avoid complaints and bad reviews, he can only do so.
Most passengers will be silent after seeing this instruction, and some people refuse to ride. Sometimes there are four passengers, and Wu Shigang can only apologize, ask the other party to cancel the order, and compensate for the loss.
(The co-pilot has a note on the back of the "Child's Secondary Mental Retardation")
His son Dongdong has become accustomed to the life of sitting in the co-driver for more than ten hours a day. He was quiet most of the time, staring at the video on his phone. When a person is locked up in the house, Dongdong will fall ill, shouting and smashing things.
Seeing new things in the car every day, Dongdong's condition gradually stabilized. Occasionally out of control, Wu Shigang would educate him: "This is our job, in order to earn money to eat, this difficulty can not be overcome?" ”
In order to exercise his son, Wu Shigang ordered Dongdong to wipe the car every day. The son obeyed, no matter how cold it was, and began to act with a rag. He was clumsy but serious, wiping the outside of the car and wiping it inside. Wu Shigang's orders are often "it's time to wipe the car, you can't eat without finishing your work", but when it's time to eat, he will mix a little more meat into the child's bowl.
(Video of Wu Shigang wiping cars released by children on the Kuaishou platform)
"Remember, when guests get on the bus, they must say that their uncles are good and their aunts are good, and when they get off the bus, they must say goodbye," Wu Shigang tirelessly advised. But this is obviously beyond his son's language ability, and most of the time, he can only squeeze out one or two words, "OK, good, eat, go..."
Why not send your child to a specialized school? The answer is simple and cruel: money.
Beijing's "Didi driver" registration management is strict, requiring Beijing people to be Beijing, and Wu Shigang, a Mongolian, can only run the "flower piglet" that was launched not long ago. The income of this platform is lower than that of Didi, and on January 29, Wu Shigang got out of the car at noon, ran to 5 a.m. on the 30th, cut off all expenses, and earned 98 yuan.
Why come home so late? Wu Shigang said that the dispatch of flower piglets is small, the fare is low, and he does not dare to "empty the car." When the last passenger ran to Tongzhou, he waited in place, waiting for the single to return home in the direction of Changping.
And such an embarrassing life, but also thanks to the help of the owner of the car rental company. "The boss of Jiankun Yongchang pitied me, the car rental fee is charged on a daily basis, 150 yuan a day," Wu Shigang said, counting the daily fuel fee of 300 yuan, illegal fines, net income is barely enough for him and his son to eat. In their worst of times, they lived in the car and ate only one meal a day.
The managers of "Didi" knew about Wu Shigang's situation and bought things to see him, but the rules were rules, and there was no back door to open.
Netizen "Jingjing Youchai" hit Wu Shigang's car on January 12. He saw that there was someone in the co-driver, thinking that he had mistakenly called the carpool, and as a result, "after getting on the car, he saw this piece of paper pasted by the driver's master, and he burst into tears." Along the way, the co-driver's child was quiet and didn't bother him. After getting off the bus, "Jingjing Youchai" was hard stuffed to give Wu Shigang 100 yuan.
"Well with firewood" posted what he saw on the Internet, and the sympathy of netizens was ignited. Many people poured into Wu Shigang's mobile phone, but he was too busy with sports cars to reply.
The instructions on the back seat of Wu Shigang's online ride-hailing car co-driver read, "The child has a high fever at the age of one, the child is burned out, the second-degree mental retardation cannot take care of himself, his mother ran away, the child's aunt and grandmother are disgusted Now you can walk, but you can't communicate with him, I contact people in the car every day to communicate and exercise him, where I need to take it with me to rent a house, I eat and live in the car, I hope that the majority of passengers understand, well-meaning people will have good rewards." ”
The grammar does not make sense, and there is also a typo "explanation" that tells the difficulty of father and son.
(There are also cards explaining the identity of the child under the front co-pilot's windshield of the vehicle.)
In 2006, Wu Shigang brought his son to Beijing. Since then, my son has changed to more than a dozen schools, ordinary, special, public, private, but not long. "Sometimes when I'm working, I get a call from school saying that my child is sick, hitting or biting someone, and asking me to get my child back."
Wu Shigang said that his son could not speak, and he would fall ill when he was bullied and discriminated against. He remembered that there was a good school in Changping Shahe, and the teacher took good care of his son, and his son liked it there. But the next year, the school was full, and he could only send his son to a special education school in Shunyi, which cost 7,000 yuan per month.
In that "special school", my son's illness became more and more serious. He found that his son's language ability and intelligence deteriorated, his back was injured, he was malnourished, he did not know how to wash his face and brush his teeth, he was afraid of water, he could not distinguish between left and right, and he did not have the basic common sense of life.
(2008 Olympic Games, Dongdong in Beijing)
Wu Shigang could only take his son home. Because of the inability to express, intellectual development defects, can not solve the emotions, Dongdong will lose his temper. "He smashed the glass on the door, the TV remote control was broken, and because he didn't want to take a bath, he broke the hot water pipe," Wu Shigang said, adding that his son had many uncontrollable behaviors and bit his own arm.
"I asked him to kneel down and reflect on why he broke the hot water pipe," Wu Shigang said, in order to make his son understand that he had to bear the consequences of making a mistake, he took a cold shower with his son every day, and the two of them froze and shivered.
"There are rewards for doing well, and punishment for doing wrong", is the way Wu Shigang groped out to communicate with his son. Every day before leaving the car, he would ask his son to sort out his clothes, boil hot water and put it in a small bag, bring a mobile phone, and then help him wash the car and wipe the car.
In the year of taking his son's sports car, Dongdong has learned basic life skills such as washing his face and brushing his teeth, boiling water, folding quilts, sweeping the floor, and using mobile phones. Of course, this cost Wu Shigang countless painstaking efforts. He taught his son to "greet and laugh when he sees people", and Dongdong will try to squeeze a smile out of his face when he hears the instructions. But when Wu Shigang trained his son to "turn to the right", Dongdong would only turn backwards once, and no matter how his father demonstrated, he could not understand.
(While waiting for a meal on the side of the road, Wu Shigang took the Dongdong Movement)
"My name is Dongdong, I am 18 years old, I belong to Ma, my hometown of Bameng, Inner Mongolia, I now live in Changping, Beijing, and I am with my father. I only have one father, it was my father who raised me from childhood, gave me money to earn (sic) I read, gave me food and paid tuition, my eating and drinking Lasa tuition fees are given by my father, my father is much more tired than other people's fathers, my father raised me alone, he is too hearted (sic) bitter. Now that I am grown up, I can work to earn money, I want to learn more skills, help my father work, go to work to earn money, I should be filial to my father, and be a sensible and intelligent child. ”
This passage was written by Wu Shigang last year, and although it is bumpy, it is already one of the few things that children can read.
Fate has been so harsh, and life is still miserly.
Before running the online ride-hailing car, Wu Shigang delivered takeaways. He just started working as a Meituan rider and caught up with the new crown epidemic. Many neighborhoods and roads in Beijing are closed, and Wu Shigang Road is not familiar, and he often turns around outside the community and cannot enter the door.
After a month of groping and rolling, Wu Shigang became a silver rider, and his daily income rose from more than 50 to 200 yuan. A few days after the good days, he was banned - the US group has a "takeaway smile" operation, and riders must upload smile photos every day. Busy and anxious, and having to take care of the children, Wu Shi just forgot to upload it several times and lost his qualification as a rider.
(Wu Shigang and his son are at the residence)
Can't do the US group, then hummingbird takeaway can? With experience, Wu Shigang became "silver" again for more than a month. But he was banned again— one day Wu Shigang received a single order from Guang'anmen Hospital, which was displayed near the Guang'anmen Bridge in the West Second Ring Road. Wu Shigang rushed from Daxing to his destination, the car broke down in the middle of the way, and the father and son pushed the car for 18 kilometers. This order was delayed by 6 hours, customers complained, and Wu Shigang was suspended.
Wu Shigang checked with the merchant and found that the platform had made a mistake in address. The takeaway is delivered to the south area of Guang'anmen Hospital in Daxing. After the customer called to understand the situation, he said that the takeaway was not needed and let Wu Shigang eat. The merchant also apologized and compensated Wu Shigang for 30 yuan. He was still crying on the phone: "You made me miserable, I just got silver, because you have the wrong address and I am unemployed." ”
Take the pizza that wasn't delivered and go back to your accommodation in the middle of the night. Wu Shigang opened the pizza with his son in tears, "There is a father, not bad for your meal."
In fact, Wu Shigang was almost unable to bear it. Although the monthly rent of the small bungalow is only in his early four hundreds, Wu Shigang still cannot afford to pay the rent. He and his son ran takeaways day and night, both to make more money and to avoid landlords. Sometimes he and his son slept on the side of the road and in the public toilet, and the mosquitoes stung the father and son, and he could only comfort himself: "Fortunately, it is late spring and early summer, and it is not cold at night."
Wu Shigang filed a complaint with the US group and hummingbird, and he has not waited for news for more than a month. He couldn't afford to wait. In order to solve the financial resources, Wu Shigang rented a car and started an online ride-hailing car. At the beginning, he and his son ate only one meal a day, ordered a fried rice fried cake at a roadside stall at five or six o'clock in the afternoon, and then worked until midnight, living in the car.
(Wu Shigang helped the child wear a mask)
Friend Liu Bing persuaded Wu Shigang to raise money on the public welfare platform for help, but Wu Shigang was reluctant to ask for help. Liu Bing said that Wu Shigang was strong in nature, and some guests looked at him pitifully and gave him 500 or 1000, and he refused to do so. Most of my friends are also low-level people, life is hard, although everyone helps each other, it is only a cup of water.
The Spring Festival came, and Wu Shigang and his son did not return to their hometown. "The most important thing is that there is no money, not even the road fare, for two consecutive years." He has not remitted money to his 80-year-old mother for two years, and he feels guilty.
Wu Shigang had a huge ashtray next to his bed. He has quit drinking for many years, and he can't get drunk while driving. When the Spring Festival came, he smoked even harder, two packs a day, and the cigarette butts overflowed the cylinder. Credit cards, online loans, and mortgages are all overdue for 9 months, what to do? Wu Shigang said that if it is overdue, it will be overdue, and there is no money to pay it back.
"My biggest dream now is that one day in the car, my son suddenly said to me, Dad, you have been wronged over the years, Dad, you have not been tired in recent years, Dad I am sorry for you", Wu Shigang said, that means that the son suddenly woke up, recovered, and a good day came.
When he said this, the hard middle-aged man's eyes burst into tears.
(Group photo of Wu Shigang and his son at the residence)
For his hometown in Inner Mongolia, Wu Shigang was reluctant to talk about it. He believes that "several important junctures in life have been ruined here."
Wu Shigang's ancestors went to Shaanxi, and became a rich merchant in the fur business in Inner Mongolia, so he settled down on the spot. After experiencing "land reform", the grandfather who was a landlord was "overthrown", and when Wu Shigang was born, his family was already poor and white. He dropped out of school in the fifth grade, herding sheep and selling twist flowers to earn money.
In order to marry his brother and daughter-in-law, the family owed foreign debt. For this reason, the 12-year-old Wu Shigang and his sister-in-law have not had a good relationship. The two had several conflicts, all ending with Wu Shigang being beaten badly by his father.
Disappointed by the living environment and family, at the age of 13, Wu Shigang decided to run away from home. He followed a fellow countryman wandering in Yinchuan, sleeping in the underground passage. One morning, I woke up and my fellow died for unknown reasons.
In the years that followed, Wu Shigang picked up the train and walked through dozens of cities across the country. He carried sacks at the Wuhan wharf, joined the "Beggar Gang" in Zhengzhou, and was almost killed by a ground snake at the Beijing Railway Station for scavenging. He was regarded as a blind stream, and was sent home many times, and then escaped halfway through, "three times in Beijing alone."
At the age of sixteen or seventeen, Wu Shigang went to a private coal mine in Wuhai, Inner Mongolia. He said that at that time, ordinary people's monthly wages were a few hundred yuan, and he earned three or four thousand a month. When he encountered a landslide under the mine, he ran desperately to the wellhead, and the roadway behind him continued to collapse. On the day of his escape, he cried with his co-workers at the mine mouth.
The father knew that he wanted Wu Shigang to come home. He couldn't help it, and ended five years of "wandering". This turning point became the last memory Wu Shigang wanted to mention.
Back at his hometown, Wu Shigang went to the villagers' homes to watch people play mahjong. He got into a verbal altercation with people, and when he was young, he lost his hand and caused a catastrophe, and was sentenced to 11 years in prison. Wu Shigang said that this is a habit developed when wandering, "if you want to protect yourself, you must not die, otherwise you will die long ago when you wander."
At the age of 28 when he was released from prison, Wu Shigang became a "bad element" in the eyes of others. He made a living riding a tricycle in Wuhai until a woman appeared. The woman took the initiative to pursue him, risked the pressure of breaking with her parents to marry him, and gave birth to a child. This woman is the mother of her son Dongdong.
But soon, because of economic problems, family conflicts occurred, Wu Shigang said: "Dongdong's mother's family thinks that my family is poor, can't afford to eat meat, can't afford cosmetics, and washing face soap has become a matter of blame." Finally, when Dongdong was more than a year old, the two divorced. Wu Shigang carried his son to see the construction site and guard the waste station, and the money for odd jobs was not enough to live.
Poor thinks differently. Wu Shigang sold his earthen house for 6,000 yuan, asked a "teacher Han" in his hometown to take care of the children, and went to Beijing to work alone. He said that in those years his son suffered: Because he couldn't walk, other children bullied him, and pee were in his pants, crawling on the ground. "The family is only five kilometers away from where the child is being cared for, but no one is taking care of dongdong. This matter Wu Shigang is still grumpy about.
When they arrived in Beijing, Wu Shigang joined the crew. At the best time, you can earn 1,000 yuan a day. His photo album also has photos of Andy Lau as a stand-in in the movie "Submission of Names".
(Wu Shigang still keeps a photo of when he was a stand-in for Andy Lau)
Feelings also seem to have taken a turn for the better. Wu Shigang met Ms. Li from Henan in the crew, and the two had a relationship with each other, and the other party even asked him to take his son to Beijing. Wu Shigang said: She takes care of her son to pick up and urine, especially careful, and her son has a good relationship with her, don't look at his son will not express, but if you ask who to kiss, he still remembers Aunt Li. ”
But later Wu Shi just learned that Ms. Li had major psychological problems because of her unhappy married life: "Her husband found Xiao San and drove her out of the house, she drank poison and rescued her, but her brain left sequelae." "Ms. Li often suspects that Wu Shigang is cheating and having an affair, and then simply does not let him go out." Wu Shigang could only give up the work of the crew, and his income fell sharply.
In September 2012, when the "Japanese purchase of Diaoyu Islands" incident broke out, Wu Shigang followed his friends to the street to protest and slept on the ground in front of the Japanese Embassy that day. When he returned home, Ms. Li did not quit, and her son fell ill and smashed the TV. Wu Shigang was looking for someone like crazy.
Three years later, Wu Shi just contacted Ms. Li. After saying goodbye, Ms. Li left home and cut off all contact with the outside world. Wu Shigang bought Ms. Li 10,000 yuan of clothes and jewelry, which is to thank her for her dedication to herself and her son, but the two can no longer continue the frontier.
In the next eight years, Wu Shigang had two more relationships. In one of the paragraphs, the other party concealed his married identity and wanted to "take the 200,000 yuan called by her husband and Wu Shigang and go away", Wu Shigang flatly refused, and the two separated. In 2020, Wu Shigang met Ms. Song, who worked in Fangshan, and the other party thought that "he is a very good person, real and kind, often donating blood, but it is because of his son's drag, the economy is very difficult", the two did not end up together, Ms. Song confessed: "He has no place to live, he can't eat, we can't be together." ”
(Honorary certificate obtained by Wu Shigang for blood donation)
The original family, emotional experience, and even the life of relying on his son do not seem to be enough to describe the twists and turns of Wu Shigang's fate.
Wu Shigang himself adapted the song "Shepherd of the Cocoto Sea": "Sweetheart, I am waiting for you in Houhai, Beijing." They say, did you marry Wuhai because there was a beautiful desert there, or did the camel bells there make you smile sweetly? "Beijing, Ba League, Wuhai, for life, he loves and hates.
Wu Shigang's sister-in-law can't remember the contradiction of that year, she said that she was nearly sixty years old, living in difficulty, and had to support her 80-year-old mother-in-law, and indeed could not take care of her uncle and nephew. Wu Shigang's brother's mobile phone number is an empty number.
In Bayannaoer Hangjinhou Banner, where Wu Shigang's household registration is located, the production captain once applied for a minimum guarantee for him, but was rejected by his superiors on the grounds that "Wu Shigang works in Beijing, his income is higher than that of the villagers, and he does not meet the minimum guarantee policy".
The content released by "Jingjing Youchai" received more attention, and after obtaining Wu Shigang's consent, he published Wu Shigang's kuaishou number, mobile phone number, and QR code for collection. According to Wu Shigang's rough statistics, he has received about 10,000 yuan in donations.
(Douban netizen Jingjing Youchai posted to help Wu Shigang)
After telling his story, two questions have long been stuck in my heart: one is that when our society has come to this day, whether there are special laws and regulations and rescue agencies to pay attention to groups such as Wu Shigang and children - although it is not enough to be "low-security", it is really difficult; the second is whether when we are passengers, whether we are willing to have a mentally disabled "passenger" in the online car.
The Spring Festival is approaching another day, and Wu Shigang is still driving with his son on the road. He didn't want to rest, and pulling on the road would make him forget his troubles. He said he planned to run a sports car for the New Year. "You eat dumplings, I'll come back and make my own food, and I'll still have this year, but we're just a little pitiful, nothing."
(Wu Shigang and his son on the road)
Since running away from home at the age of 13, Wu Shigang has tried to escape from fate countless times, but life has beaten him to zero again and again. Eventually, because of his son's presence, he became a hard guardian.
This can't help but remind me of the story of the novel "Alive"—an escapee from life, who has endured hardships and becomes a person who strives to live.
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