Guide: The neighbor's mother said that her baby did not like to go to kindergarten recently, and carefully asked the reason why the child did not want to go to school, because when the baby was drawing, she could not draw the puppy well. When this child encounters a little difficulty at home, he will be in tears, and he will hesitate to do things, especially unconfident.
In daily life, there are many such children, obviously a very small thing, will make them depressed, lose self-confidence, and even pessimistic disappointment. Like the neighbor's baby, just because he can't draw well, he doesn't want to go to school. This shows that the child lacks the ability to face difficulties and is afraid of failure.
Everyone will encounter failures, and the baby will naturally encounter more or less difficulties and setbacks in the process of growing up. If the baby's ability to resist setbacks is poor, parents will become anxious and uneasy, and even worry that their children will not have the courage to face difficulties alone in the future.
When children encounter difficulties, the attitude of parents is very important. Parents should tell their children that there is no problem in failure, and the most important thing is that we must overcome difficulties and strive to move forward.
Children lose their temper because they are not satisfied with a little thing, or they stagnate when they encounter a little difficulty. Even self-abandonment, indicating that the ability to resist rubbing is poor, and the psychological endurance is not good. There are many reasons why children become less and less able to resist setbacks.
01, the frustration brought by parents
In today's families, there are many only children. For the sake of safety, adults will not let their children move freely. If the baby usually wants to go out to play, it must be accompanied by parents, and it is rare to leave the adult's vision range. Children do not have their own space, under the protection of adults, can not talk about setbacks and difficulties, wait until they go to school, leave the care of their parents, encounter a little difficulty will be sad and crying.
Sometimes, the baby does the wrong thing, and the parents' criticism is too harsh, which will also make the child lose self-confidence. Some parents like to deny the baby in public and in front of many people, which will make the child lose self-esteem.
When playing with friends of similar age, your baby may be rejected. Sometimes, there are conflicts between children, and when there is a dispute, the children are also in the ascendant, and often this will make the children feel frustrated.
02, the frustration brought by the teacher
Teachers are very important to children, and sometimes the teacher only pays attention to other children, not to themselves. Or maybe the teacher praised the other babies and snubbed himself. When the child wants to communicate with the teacher and express a certain thing, the teacher is absent-minded, which will make the child feel frustrated.
The life of a child is actually not as smooth as we see, and it will go through many tests. Parents should correctly cultivate their children's ability to cope with setbacks.
03, real frustration education
Parents want to do a good job in real frustration education, is to let children learn to face problems on their own and solve difficulties. In this process, parents can not only focus on setbacks, the most critical is guidance and education.
First: Let your child participate moderately in the challenge game
When Erbao was young, he played checkers with his husband, and when he started playing, he would cry when he lost. Later, we encouraged wa to continue to work hard, believing that she would be able to win, so we slowly cultivated the child's psychology of coping with setbacks. When Erbao wins, I will encourage and praise him on the side, so as to give the baby more and more confidence.
Parents can also take the baby to play the game of breaking through the level, while playing while discussing with the child how to break through the next level, for the baby's correct advice to give the child encouragement, can enhance the baby's confidence in overcoming difficulties, no matter what difficulties are encountered in the future, the child will feel that the parents are behind to support them.
Second: Give your child the opportunity to grow up independently
In the minds of many parents, anti-business education should let the baby experience hardships, feel the failure, and create more setbacks for the children. But we don't have to let our children accept too many artificial setbacks, because in the process of growing up, there are many small challenges.
For example, the first time you go out alone, the first time you get dressed, etc., these are all opportunities for children to grow. Most importantly, at the right age for the child, moderate letting go is the best choice.
Third: When it comes to helping your child, you have reservations
Parents' love for their children is meticulous, when they see that their children are not doing things well, they immediately go to help do it, or help to the end. It is precisely because of this help from parents that children will lack initiative in doing things. Always feel that they can't do anything, always rely on the help of adults, will not try to solve it, and do not want to continue to try after failure, which will make the child's ability to resist setbacks become lower and lower.
When the baby needs help, parents should have some reservations to help, or give the child a small tip to guide the baby to do things through their own efforts. Instead of directly helping them achieve their goals, we should create a better environment for the baby to grow up.
In addition to these moves, I would also like to share with you a very good way to choose the right picture book, preferably the scenes that children will encounter in their lives, and have a strong sense of substitution.
epilogue:
Parents can't always be with their children to protect their lives, and babies are not as fragile as we think. Excessive intervention will deprive children of the opportunity to grow. Parents should use the right way to guide their children how to actively face setbacks and learn to grow in adversity.
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