Studies have found that excessive criticism by parents can hinder the development of children's emotional perception and language expression ability.
Taking children to visit relatives and friends in the New Year is a happy thing, and children's twitter is more festive, but there will always be some unexpected things in places where there are many children, and some unexpected situations often break out, which catches parents and friends off guard.
Children may be unintentional, but they may cause trouble for adults and even be ridiculed and criticized by relatives and friends. So when the child is criticized, what the parent does is very important.
The girl and her sister grabbed the toy, but Bao Mom did not criticize her
During the Spring Festival, friend Xiao Wu took her daughter back to her mother's house, the family was happy and harmonious, telling each other about the interesting things of the year, and the children also played automatically and were happy together.
Daughter Lingling has been lively and cheerful since she was a child, likes to play with her younger brothers and sisters, and soon the children's cries came from the house, and the adults immediately became nervous, worried that it was the daughter Lingling who caused the incident, and Xiao Wu was also pinching a handful of sweat.
When the scene asked the reason, it turned out that the daughter Lingling and the young sister competed for the toy, saying that the toy was her own, and the sister occupied it and refused to let go, and it had to be more true. The whole family blamed their daughter Lingling in their hearts, as if saying that the elderly sister did not understand things, and looked at Xiao Wu, hoping that Xiao Wu would discipline her daughter well.
In full view of everyone, Xiao Wu did not act according to the ideas of the people, but simply appeased the children, and there was no doubt that Xiao Wu was accustomed to children in the eyes of everyone.
For the sake of adult face, the phenomenon of hurting children's self-esteem is very common
The reason why Xiao Wu did not choose to reprimand and discipline the child in front of everyone was undoubtedly out of careful consideration in his heart, because Xiao Wu knew that his daughter had strong self-esteem, and every time he preached to his daughter, he would make her heart unable to calm down for a long time, not to mention reprimanding her in front of everyone.
Moreover, the toy belongs to the daughter, the beloved item has been robbed, unhappiness is a normal reaction, if you criticize the child in front of all the family, it will only make her more sad and emotionally out of control.
Nowadays, in order to show their face, some parents are afraid of losing the authority of parents in front of everyone, so they prove it by scolding their children in a big way, but they do not know that they have won face, but they have made the children very hurt in their hearts, and some parents' reprimands in front of everyone have caused great harm to young children.
What are the dangers of reprimanding children in front of everyone?
Parents do not know the harm of reprimanding their children in front of everyone, they have not thought much of it, if they know that they have such a huge impact on their children, they will surely end it in time.
1) The child loses his dignity in front of everyone
Children in the formative stage are extremely sensitive physically and mentally, especially pay attention to the attitude of parents towards themselves, when the child realizes that he has done something wrong, he will be extremely remorseful and entangled in how to make up for it in time.
At this time, parents did not choose to understand, but reprimanded in front of everyone, leaving no room for children, only to let the child's young and sensitive soul be impacted, lose their precious dignity in front of everyone, and can not lift their heads.
2) Remember to hate parents
Parents are the most important people in a child's life, when the child does something wrong, the parents do not choose to understand and tolerate in time, but choose to shout in front of everyone, which can only make the child resent the dearest person.
When the child's trust and dependence on the parents disappears, no matter how the parents save it, it will not help, it can only let this matter gradually ferment, and then affect the relationship between parents and children, so that the intimate parent-child relationship will be born.
3) The shadow of a lifetime, long and unforgettable
Childhood memories are the most unforgettable in life, and if a shadow is generated during this period, it will make the child unforgettable for a lifetime. You can't forget the harm your parents have brought to you, and you don't dare to make natural moves in front of everyone, and your behavior will be deeply affected for a lifetime.
Don't rush to criticize when a child does something wrong, how should parents treat it correctly?
It is vital that parents know how to properly handle situations where their children are doing something wrong, which tests the ability to be a parent.
First of all, do not scold in front of everyone, save face for the child, parents should avoid scolding the child in front of everyone, even if more people watch, do not hurt the child because of the authority and strength of their parents, which can only increase sadness and trouble.
Trying to preserve dignity and face for children will also keep things under control, which is the way wise parents should take.
Second, privately explain the reason to the child, let the child know where he is wrong. Things can not be skipped, parents need to privately and carefully and patiently explain the truth to the child, let the child know why he is wrong, after understanding the reason, the child will naturally understand the parents' hard heart.
In addition, soft and hard at the same time, do not let children repeat the same mistakes. For naughty children, parents take a soft and hard approach, so that children can remember this lesson, understand the seriousness and degree of destruction of their actions, and no longer let children repeat the same mistakes and make mistakes again.
Candy Mom has something to say:
Parents think that it is irrelevant to reprimand their children in front of everyone, but in fact, they make their children remember it for the rest of their lives.
Taking the right way to deal with the problem seems to be much better, and it is more willing to be accepted by the child, why not enjoy it. Don't let a momentary verbal education become a shadow that children will not erase for the rest of their lives.
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