The recent 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics are in full swing, and Chinese athletes who have won glory for the country have become a hot topic at present.
Ski genius Gu Ailing can be said to be a big hit.
On February 8, Gu Ailing competed in the final of the freestyle ski women's big jump. The Frog Princess lived up to expectations, jumping, churning, landing perfectly, completing the strongest challenge for herself, winning a precious gold medal for the Chinese team, which was also her own first Olympic medal. This is the first time that a Chinese athlete has participated in the Big Jumping Platform of the Winter Olympics!
In this Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing participated in 3 events, and the big jump is the one she is least good at, and she can achieve such good results, calling her a genius girl is indeed deserved! (Netizens cast envious eyes ~)
Her integrity, bravery, and countless fans. Yesterday, in the face of the US media's bad comments on Chinese athletes, they were domineering and recoiled.
In fact, as early as the age of 13, Gu Ailing set a goal for the Beijing 2022 Winter Olympics, hoping to greet everyone with Chinese. Five years later, at the age of 18, she finally got her wish.
Gu Ailing, who grew up in the United States, can speak fluent Beijing. When others call her a "doll", she will always respond with a sentence - "I am a Beijing big girl".
As a post-00s "medal harvester", Gu Ailing's resume is very beautiful -
Learned to ski at the age of 3;
At the age of 9, he won the National Junior Championship;
At the age of 15, he won the gold medal in the World Cup in Italy;
At the age of 17, the American team threw an olive branch to Gu Ailing, but she refused;
After rejecting the United States, she made an unexpected decision - to join the Chinese nationality and fight for the Chinese team!
In two years, she represented China in a total of 12 gold medals in major competitions, completely rewriting China's history of zero freestyle skiing championships.
(Announced on social media accounts that he officially became a Chinese citizen and represented China at the 2022 Winter Olympics.) ）
In addition to the label of world champion, she shines with a lot of aura.
She is a down-to-earth bully with strong time management skills. With a full score of 1600 on the SAT, she scored 1580 points, which is equivalent to the domestic college entrance examination, the difficulty is extraordinary, and she was finally admitted to Stanford University.
She is also a cool and crazy fashion circle darling, with a healthy, sunny, cheerful image by more than 20 international big names.
Such an excellent "almighty" girl, netizens have been envious and jealous, shouting: What window did God close for Gu Ailing?
How did such an independent-thinking, positive, and academically outstanding world champion come about?
When asked if her mother is a "tiger mother", Gu Ailing smiled and said: "My mother is not a 'tiger mother', it is a 'rabbit mother'. ”
Perhaps from Gu Mama's way of education, we can find some enlightenment.
You're going to have to try it again
Love is the most important talent
Gu Ailing's father is American and graduated from Harvard. Mother Gu Yan is a Chinese, graduated from Peking University, and is also a Stanford scholar.
Parents are highly qualified students, but they do not carry out "tiger-style" education for their children, but provide a relaxed growth environment for their children, without restrictions or suppression.
When her mother Gu Yan studied at Peking University, she was a member of the short track speed skating team. While studying in the United States, she worked part-time as a ski instructor in addition to academics. Under the influence of her mother, Gu Ailing began to play skiing at the age of 3.
Gu Mama did not utilitarianly let the child take the professional skiing route, and when her daughter began to receive professional training, she was actually a little worried, after all, skiing is a particularly dangerous sport.
But Gu Ailing loves skiing very much, and her mother let go of her inner fear and let her daughter enjoy this happiness.
In addition to skiing, Gu Ailing also enjoys football, basketball, rock climbing, horse riding, archery, kayaking, cross-country running and other sports, and has a great time.
In encouraging children to explore new things, Gu Mama often said to her: "You have to try again, the worst result is that you don't like it, but if you like it, then you are earning." ”
Gu Mama is not afraid of trouble, gives enough children the right to choose, constantly tries, and constantly tries and makes mistakes, so that children can find their own love in exploration.
Gu Mama never forced her daughter to do something, she believes that "words are not as good as teaching by example, children like piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, she will do it herself, and then create such an atmosphere." If your child doesn't want to, you don't have to force her. She has always supported children in choosing what they love, and firmly believes that only in this way can children stay focused and experience a sense of accomplishment.
Gu Ailing once said that she did not ski for the Olympics, initially doing these things because she liked it, and then starting to compete by the way, and starting to win by the way, which made her like to ski more.
Love is the real talent, and Gu Ailing's ski trip confirms this.
Didn't sleep enough
Who has the energy to play
Gu Ailing's daily schedule is full and compact, taking into account learning, training and entertainment, and her day is equivalent to three days for others.
Speaking about the secret of time management, she said: "The secret is to sleep well, and the most important thing my mother taught me is this." I sleep at least 10 hours a night, so I have a lot of energy growing up. ”
Gu Mama has repeatedly emphasized that sleep quality is an important factor for children to maintain the efficient operation of their bodies and brains, she said: "I just let her sleep enough, sleep fifteen hours when she was a child, thirteen hours after going to primary school, and now she has to sleep enough for ten hours a day. ”
Mother's decentralization has allowed Gu Ailing to have full autonomy from a young age, and she can make her own decisions on big and small things, and she can learn and live at her own pace.
Gu Mama herself is very positive and cheerful, with enthusiasm for life and passion for work. Under the teaching of her mother, Gu Ailing knows that learning is her own business, and it is also something that she will do all her life.
In this free environment, Gu Ailing is extremely self-disciplined and highly focused on doing things. When she went to school, her mother drove her four hours from San Francisco to the ski slopes every Friday and back on Sunday. During the nearly 8-hour drive, she changed her clothes, ate, slept, did her homework, and arranged her time reasonably.
With amazing self-control, she completed 4 years of school in 3 years, and graduated from high school a year early in 2021 in order to concentrate on training for the Winter Olympics.
Today's self is better than
Yesterday's self-improvement is good
Positive feedback from parents is an accelerator for children on their way to growth. Empathy is the most important "soft power" of good parents.
Whenever Gu Ailing's game was not smooth and her mood was low, her mother never complained or insulted her, but smiled and gave her a big hug to encourage her daughter to get out of the haze.
When her daughter was hit, Gu Mama often said to her: "It is good to make a little progress" and "today's self is better than yesterday's self".
The Austrian psychologist Adler believes that life is constantly compared with the "ideal self", rather than living under the evaluation of others.
Not comparing with other people's children, encouraging children to be bold is difficult for parents today to do, but it is an important factor in building children's high self-esteem.
When we often see children doing wrong things or encountering difficulties in life, many parents are accustomed to accusing and suppressing their children with "other people's children".
As everyone knows, under the pressure of being questioned and beaten, the child's heart is under great pressure, his self-esteem is seriously frustrated, and all his attention is on how to establish a trusting relationship with his parents (how to get the support of his parents), rather than solving the troublesome things.
We often say that we give children high-quality companionship, but companionship is not the same as companionship, what children really need is timely response and sincere attention from their parents.
My mom is something I know
The most open-minded person
Gu Ailing once confessed to her family in an interview: "My two biggest idols are my mother and grandmother, both of whom are very powerful, very confident and very brave women. ”
In her eyes, mom is the best mom in the world, and always a gentle and powerful image.
When her mother let her be herself, Gu Ailing would proudly say: "My mother is the most open-minded person I know." ”
Whether in the Winter Olympics or in life, Gu Ailing is radiant and infectious, she knows what kind of person she wants to become, and she is particularly clear that she is a valuable person.
And "valuable" is a person's highest evaluation of the self.
Psychotherapist M. Scott Pike said, "I am a valuable person"—recognition of self-worth like this is a fundamental prerequisite for mental health and the foundation for cultivating self-discipline. It comes directly from the love of parents.
With the unconditional acceptance and support given to Gu Ailing by her family, she can have high self-esteem and a high sense of value, explore the unknown world in the space of stretching freedom, gain self-confidence, and become an independent and complete person.
How could such a Gu Ailing not sparkle?
Parents should be happy in the process of raising their children, and this happiness comes from watching the child trek on his own life path, showing hope and strength, looking for love and novelty, and becoming a great adult!
I hope that every child can be treated gently by their parents and live their own light.
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