Today we talk about it: what kind of woman will attract a good man? Tell us three truths. We all hope to meet a good partner, so the next three sentences of the teacher are very important.
First sentence: Don't pay too much attention to each other's emotions and needs, you should pay more attention to your own feelings and needs
This sentence is to help everyone avoid the scumbag, because the scumbag's most habitual routine is to let you guess his mind, let you go with his emotions, and even sometimes suppress you through your excessive attention to him. So no matter what kind of relationship you are in, don't pay too much attention to what he really thinks. What should you pay more attention to how you feel? What are my needs for the other person, or for the relationship?
Don't see a boy come over with a Ferrari with one hand, and you think: Wow, this boy is so good! So handsome, will he not like me to be so ordinary. I tell you, driving a Ferrari with one hand is not necessarily handsome, it may be that the other hand can't make it strong! So we don't have to pay too much attention to him, pay attention to ourselves, you can avoid scumbags, and you can grow well in this relationship.
Second sentence: Accept that the other person loves you more than they love you
This sentence is to hope that everyone will not have too much quarrel in the process of getting along with each other. Because many women have perfectionism about love, when facing love, they feel that he loves me, what he should do for me, go to the knife mountain and the fire for me, etc., but this is unrealistic.
If you are consuming with a man every day in a mess. Then the man's inner drama is: close the door when you go, thank you. He won't think that because I love her, you're my little baby, I'll embrace everything about you, no, aren't people all weighing the pros and cons? Then we have to accept that he loves himself more than you, which is normal.
If you are always between him loving himself and loving you, you must decide the winner or loser, you must be the only one for him. His most important person may end up hurting himself, or he will get a lie, or the relationship will collapse.
Third sentence: A man who loves you will not necessarily change for you
I know a lot of women who want their partner to be the way they want to be, and they want to change each other. But I tell everyone that even if he loves you very much, he will not change for you, which is very important. I just want to tell everyone that you don't always want to change a person, and when he really changes, it may not be what you want.
Let me give you an example: Let's say I'm buying a car now, and I'm buying a car to improve my life, to make my life better. But if the 4S shop tells me that if you want to buy a car, sir, you must first cancel your driver's license, and you say that I should not buy it at this time? If I really do what he did, I cancel my driver's license and then sell the car to who drives it, how do I drive without a driver's license, then I won't be able to enjoy the benefits that this car brings me.
So even if he loves you very much, he may not be willing to change for you, so why should we force each other to become what we want? Sometimes you should ask yourself why I want him to be like this, what my needs are, refer to the first one, and pay more attention to your feelings and needs.