Phoenix Reading Plan Healing
Feel life and grow together
See an author writing about his mother.
When she was a child, her mother was very grumpy, and she was not unloving to their sisters and brothers, but in the wrong way, she often beat and scolded.
Her mother also did not have a good temper with her father, but fortunately, her father's personality was very good, he was a cultural person, never cared about this, and often took back some newspapers and periodicals to his wife to encourage her to read more.
Unexpectedly, her mother slowly looked into it, sometimes it was most of the day, often immersed in the text, and later, her father also asked her mother to try to write some small articles and help her submit articles.
Unexpectedly, at the beginning, the rate of winning the manuscript was not low, and there were constantly payments sent, which made her mother more enthusiastic about writing, and she sat at her desk and meditated hard when she had time.
Later, although her mother did not write anything famous, she was like a changed person, her personality became softer and softer, she could speak softly to anyone, she no longer had the violent temper of the past, and the family became peaceful.
The older I get, the more I live, I like to do anything, and now, an old lady in her sixties has learned to drive, and even drives on the highway to visit her daughter thousands of miles away.
The story of this old lady is not chicken soup, she does not have any so-called success, but she has an epiphany that the source of all unhappiness is herself, and she begins to change herself, not only living comfortably, but also making everyone around her comfortable.
Professor Dai Jianye once said: "We must not have great ambitions for love marriage, the greater the ambition, the deeper the pain, the more demanding the less the harvest." In the world of two people, you can set high standards for yourself, but you can't be strict with your partner. ”
Professor Dai Jianye said that just after the honeymoon of the two of them, the small family was full of smoke, and I wanted to transform my wife according to my own standards, and my wife was also determined to reshape me according to her model.
Everyone thought at first that the other party could be reborn, and finally understood that the nature of the dead wrongdoer was difficult to move.
In marriage, it is God who changes oneself, and it is neuropathy that changes others.
Never expect others to meet your expectations, but create the life you want.
Friend Mei Zijie, the child has been in a closed management school since childhood, and only returns home during the holidays.
She has a lot of free time every day, but she has no hobbies, and she only stares at her husband every day and does not let him go out.
Her husband's unit socializes more, plus he himself also likes to be lively, and he must go if there is a scene, so angry that Mei Zijie often quarrels with him.
Every time I talk to each other, Mei Zijie complains that she was blind and married to her husband.
To tell the truth, Mei Zijie's husband is a good husband, people are very down-to-earth, never lazy, the personality is also very good, by the wife all day, but also just a thick smile.
I am sometimes very afraid that Mei Zijie will talk to me, full of negative energy, every time I finish talking, even I will feel that the human world is not worth it, and marriage is even less worthwhile.
Last year, I don't know what kind of opportunity, Mei Zijie was fascinated by calligraphy, and also followed the professional teacher to learn for a while, she said that every day she did not want to eat and sleep, she wanted to write, as soon as she picked up the brush, the whole person was particularly happy, forgetting all the troubles.
Her husband raised his hands to support her hobbies, bought her books and pencils, visited various calligraphy exhibitions with her on weekends, and took the initiative to take on housework to give her time to write.
Nowadays, Mei Zijie and I chat, the style of painting has changed, in addition to talking about calligraphy, almost all of them are talking about topics such as "happy marriage and worth it in the world".
I couldn't stop crying and laughing.
The man was still the same man, the home was still the home, but she herself was alive, and everything was fine.
In fact, there are many such marriages, and when you have a bad life yourself, everything you see is terrible.
You may wish to try to change yourself, make yourself happy, not only the relationship between husband and wife is good, but also the relationship with everyone will be better.
Last year's fire show "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves" also allowed us to see countless possibilities for women after the age of thirty, which can be freer, more engaged, and more exciting!
Marriage is always the icing on the cake and never sends charcoal in the snow.
At the end of life, you will find that who you live with, in fact, you still live with yourself.
If you are well, your marriage will be fine, and if you are not well, your marriage will be very bad.
Your life, let it be in your own hands, a little bit better.
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