Life is prone to a lot of illusions, for example, house prices are going to fall, he still loves me, tomorrow is better than today... These things don't count. But the following four illusions, it is better to recognize them earlier.
The first illusion: If you know more people, you will be powerful.
The more people you know, the more you know, the more people you know, others can help themselves. The fact is that if you know too many people, you don't have so much energy to cultivate feelings, so there are fewer people who are willing to be familiar.
Here's a chicken soup, "Only if you are strong, you are really strong." "It means that the level of enthusiasm with whom you interact with people often depends on your value. Socializing without a sense of presence is purely playing soy sauce. No matter how many people you know, when something happens, you will immediately disperse.
So, don't put too much effort into socializing, socializing will waste a lot of energy. What about laughter? It is better to take time to read more books and enrich yourself.
The second illusion: to be good to you is to like you
Others are good to themselves, especially the opposite sex, and they feel that it is ambiguous and love is coming. The truth is: some people are the so-called high emotional intelligence, they are very good at ambiguity, so that everyone feels a little interesting with themselves, rain and dew are stained, but the leaves do not stick.
So make good friends, don't think crooked, not every good emotion has to develop into love, love is mostly too short-lived, more than worth the loss.
The third illusion: hard work, you will succeed
Many people think that people who are more successful than themselves are more diligent than themselves. Wrong, it's mostly because of luck.
So, don't listen to anyone who is better than yourself and more diligent than yourself. Diligence is nothing to show, this is the standard. Every worker in Foxconn's workshop is diligent, and every cleaner in every city is diligent, is there a comparison? Most things in the world rely on luck, and when they meet, they will meet, and it is not bad to live a quiet life!
Keep your own little mood, live your own small life, and do your own thing seriously.
The fourth illusion: good friends, will not harm themselves
The older you get, the more you begin to understand a truth: a lot of things are out of control because of their own fuss. In fact, everyone should be clear that some things are destined to rot in their stomachs, although you want to talk about it, but you have to hold back. Hold, hold, hold, hold, the matter is over.
The reason why it is an illusion is that you have always taken it for granted, and after seeing it clearly, you will face the bleak life. As Romain Rowland said of Michelangelo in "Celebrity Biography": There is only one true heroism in the world, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, you still love life.