When the opposite sex gets along, we are all curious about each other's lives, work, and families. In the process of understanding, you will want to relieve the curiosity in your heart and want to fully understand everything about the other party.
It's just that people don't realize that the more we are curious about a person, the more we want to spend more time with him, and the more we spend on each other. If one day, we do not have a trace of curiosity, the other party will lose that important position in our hearts, and we will no longer think about spending any thoughts.
In love, when we accept these contradictory psychology and face each other's relationship naturally, love will remain more stable and longer.
Addison said, "Lovers' secrets must not be discovered by each other." ”
The two sexes get along, and if we want to maintain this relationship, we must understand that in love, we must not only keep our secrets, but also hold back our curiosity.
When you want to know an answer, the more curious you are, the more tortured you are. However, in the end, even if you get that answer, it may not help love, and it may make you question this feeling and affect your relationship.
There are many things about love that we need to discover and feel for ourselves, rather than getting answers from each other's mouths.
When the opposite sex gets along, women don't have to ask these questions, and their feelings are the best answers.
01 "Do you really love me?" "How much do you love me?" ”
In love, one of the most favorite questions a woman asks a man is " Do you really love me?" Such a problem has been.
We all know that women are more sensitive in their feelings, and it is easy to be insecure, and the more they love a man, the more women are worried that the other party will leave at any time. Even if men often say "I love you" to women, women may not believe that men's words are 100% sincere.
Therefore, women will always ask such questions to men to ensure that men love themselves. It's just that women forget that the more you ask, the more impatient men will only get. Maybe at the beginning, men will be very patient with you and make you happy, but the more times, men will also be bored.
Even if the man loves you again, the woman's behavior will hurt the feelings of the two people and let love begin to enter the downhill road. It won't be long before your love is gone.
Women who want to get answers need to feel and observe themselves, rather than always asking men.
02 "Who is more important than your family?"
After a woman encounters love, it is difficult to remain as sane as before, not only will she often question the man's love, but also hope that she will always be the most important person in the man's heart.
Some women, in order to prove their importance, often ask men, "Who is more important than your family?" ”
What women don't know is that in fact, after hearing such a question, men are very uncomfortable in their hearts, because love and affection cannot be compared at all. In a man's heart, family members occupy a very important position, and love cannot be easily shaken.
After hearing your question, men may say against their hearts: "Of course you are the most important" in order to take into account the overall situation, or say something that makes you happy. But a woman should also understand that no matter how the man answers, it cannot change the fact in his heart.
If you don't want to be bored with yourself, women should stop asking such questions. No matter how much you love each other, you must also be clear that love may only be temporary, and family affection must be a lifetime, and love and affection are not comparable.
03 Some questions about the predecessor
In love, women are also very jealous. Seeing men and the opposite sex say these few words, women will be unhappy; seeing men help other women, although women say it doesn't matter, in fact, they have already begun to be angry in their hearts.
However, some women, obviously unable to accept a man's previous emotional experience, still can't help but be curious, always like to ask men about his past emotions.
For this reason, many men can't help but complain that women are really strange, obviously she knows what she wants to know, and then she will be angry after saying it; if she doesn't say it, the woman will still be angry, and she doesn't know whether she wants to say it or not.
It is conceivable that in the face of this problem, how contradictory men will be, and how helpless they will be. When a woman knows a man's ex, it will definitely affect the feelings of the two people, and maybe eventually make herself an ex.
Some things have passed, women should choose to let go, some things do not have to be too curious, the more you know, only yourself will be hurt. He has chosen you now and that's the best answer.
Tennyson said, "Love is free, and free love is the most real." ”
If you want your love to be more stable and make men love you more, women must learn to give their love a certain space to make men more relaxed and comfortable.
If women often ask men these questions, it will only make men feel too tired and too depressed in this relationship. Men's hypocritical answers will eventually begin to become hypocritical even with this love. By that day, even if the woman regrets it, it will not help.
Women should understand that these questions, in fact, do not need to ask more, your feelings are the best answer.