Recently, I believe that everyone has been brushed by the TV series "The World of Man", whether on TV or on various short video platforms on mobile phones, there are repeatedly starring in the drama.
In the play, the Zhou family has three children, which is about the events of the 60s and 70s of the last century, the eldest brother Zhou Bingyi and the second sister Zhou Rong were admitted to the university after the college entrance examination was resumed, and it is Peking University. The old third Zhou Bingkun, played by Lei Jiayin here, became a worker in a soy sauce factory because of his poor study.
The eldest brother and the second sister had a good life after college, the eldest brother became the son-in-law of the provincial governor, the second sister also married an intellectual, and Zhou Bingkun fell in love with a widow with a child.
The neighbors are full of praise for the eldest and second eldest of the Zhou family, and zhou's father and mother have also gained a lot of envious eyes on weekdays, only the third elder, few people mention it.
But the good Lai who mixed did not say, the matter saw the true chapter, after Zhou's mother was paralyzed, it was the third and daughter-in-law who waited; every time the family encountered something, it was the first of the third elder, shielding the family from the wind and rain, and Lao Bai thought of a word to describe the role of Zhou Bingkun, called "worrying about life". I believe that many friends have more or less such friends themselves or around them.
But even so, as if it was a thankless effort, his parents still thought that he was not as angry as his brother and sister.
Such a plot, to be honest, looks quite depressed, so today I also want to stand up and say a few words about this topic.
Jackie Chan's parents pushed their children away with their own hands
In fact, in real life, there is no shortage of parents like TV dramas, who are looking forward to their children becoming excellent, hoping that their children will become dragons and daughters will become phoenixes, and they want to cultivate their children into people who are outstanding. But in fact, they are also gradually pushing the child away; excellent children have become the face of their parents, but they do not see their parents once a year.
Before there was a video of the left-behind elderly spread on the Internet, the big mother pulled the big child to go to Guangzhou, the United States, and the big mother who did not have the child around could only make up for it to go forward and be lonely.
Netizens watched the tears, the video under the highest praise of the message said: "Children with good grades are here to avenge, children with poor grades are here to repay kindness, although not all right, but there is also a certain truth." ”
Everyone will find that the more excellent they are cultivated by their parents from an early age, the more they will most likely be away from their parents when they grow up; on the contrary, they are not out of breath from childhood, the most filial piety, and they are really in the face when their parents really encounter things. Therefore, there is also an exclamation in the old white title: "Most of the people who slaughter pigs are slaughterers, and the negative hearts are all readers."
Many parents think that their children have soared and their good days are not far away. The reality is that the child's steps are too large for elderly parents to keep up. And parents often do not want to trouble their children because of love, staying in place and waiting for their children to turn back, but they can't wait for a long time.
More than 100 million left-behind elderly people
As early as 2020, the number of empty nesters on the mainland reached 118 million, and it is predicted that it may exceed 200 million in 2030.
Some elderly people have been very miserable because they have not been cared for around for a long time, and even when they die, there is no one around to accompany them, resulting in the body being found for a long time.
Lao Bai once saw a very bitter thing, saying that there are places where the old people are clocking in the designated location every day, if anyone does not come, then everyone will go to the house to see, because people may be gone at home.
Think about raising children but finally end up with such a fate, no wonder the fertility rate can not go up now, everyone does not love to have children.
Many elderly people, even if they are in the same city as their children, their children cannot return home several times a year, and they all say that raising children to prevent the elderly, can they still prevent it now? And years from now, maybe we ourselves will become a left-behind elderly.
Selflessly dedicated Chinese parents
I once saw a topic about the original family on Zhihu, and the discussion was quite hot, and many young people expressed their disapproval and anger at some of the practices that their parents had done to themselves in their childhood. Even overshadowing the parents' dedication to themselves, perhaps some parents are not qualified enough, but Lao Bai believes that most parents are doing their best to help their children, how can they end up causing so many opinions? Did you really feed them too much?
They can't bear to stop us from pursuing the life we want, but will only silently give and then wronged ourselves. What does being a child bring to parents? Many people are talking about mixed understanding and filial piety to parents, but they don't know that their children want to raise and can't be kissed, and really when you are ready, your parents may no longer be there.
Parents are what parents are, parents are a wall between a person and death, parents are there, you still don't feel death, once your parents are gone, you are alone in the face of lonely death, looking directly at it.
Although the balance between companionship and struggle is more painful, we always have time to chat with our parents on video to understand their recent situation, after all, these seemingly simple behaviors are really the care they need.