In the New Year, every family is reunited, and the families with many brothers and sisters are even more children and grandchildren around the knees, so it is not lively. But my friend's family couldn't be happy.
Friends' home in the county, a few years ago the three brothers and sisters discussed to give their parents a New Year gift together, but soon after arriving at the mother's home, there was a positive case of new crown in the county, and the community where the friend's mother's family was located was also sealed because it was an epidemic-related community, so that the three brothers and sisters plus two children in each family were all isolated in the parents' home.
At the beginning, everyone was very happy, anyway, the New Year goods have long been prepared, all kinds of meat is enough for a large family to eat until the fifteenth day of the first month, the cabbage at home also occupies half of the storage room wall, everyone rarely gets together for such a long time, there is food and drink and can play cards together, play, feel very leisurely and happy.
But after a few days, my friend felt bad. The reason is that all the juniors in the family, whether old or small, will not work, from washing dishes, mopping the floor, to cooking, and none of them will do it.
Friends are teachers, the requirements for their children have always been strict, although children do not make complex meals, but home-cooked meals can be cooked, sweeping, mopping, washing dishes is often dry, but other children - the eldest brother's eldest daughter is 20 years old, the son is also 15 years old, the eldest son of the second sister's family is 16, the younger daughter is 9 years old, no one works. Every day these children do not get up at 8:00 in the morning, get up to eat a few bites of rice, the rice bowl is pushed forward, just look at the mobile phone to see the mobile phone, play the game of the game, who has no life in the eyes. The eldest son of a friend is only 14 years old, and every day at the request of his friend, he helps wash the dishes and mop the floor.
After a few days, the more the friend thought about it, the more it was not a taste, and he couldn't help but send work to a few older children, but the eldest sister-in-law and the second sister said: "Where they can work, they have been in school since they were young, and they have never done housework, and they will not do it."
The friend listened to a worried face, saying that the child is so old, ten fingers do not stick to the yang spring water, then how to live independently in the future? Unexpectedly, the eldest brother and sister-in-law and the second sister said: "Well, people who can't work will have a life that can't work, and those who can work will have to serve people for a lifetime." ”
Even the parents who were on the side echoed, "Yes, you see the daughter of Kuixing in our village, who was sick and weak since she was a child, plus there was such a daughter, her mother and her father did not let her do anything, at that time, people still laughed at other people's daughters, and as a result, people are now married better than anyone, and they still don't do anything when they go to the in-laws' house." There is also the son of the eldest wang, who cannot do housework himself, and as a result, he marries a daughter-in-law who can cook and do housework, and he still can't do it. Our children will not do it, that is a blessed life! ”
Friends don't know what to say for a while, thinking: Being an elder is also too selfish, no wonder the children are so selfish, it turns out that this educational concept is harmful, but your children don't want to do housework, do other people's children want to do housework? Isn't it good to teach your children so that in the future they can form a new family and be harmonious and happy? If everyone has this kind of heart to teach children, can the small families in the future not have family conflicts?
Friends look at their children every day after the busy, the heart is very depressed, in our WeChat friends group complained, did not expect everyone to say that this phenomenon is too common, children who will not work can be seen everywhere, and the initiative to help parents do housework is rare. Everyone sighed: What is this world? Chinese families are so spoiled for their children, it is no wonder that the divorce rate is getting higher and higher now!
Teacher Xiao Xu once made an anonymous questionnaire for middle school students to investigate the situation of students in the class doing housework and cooking meals, and the result was that 98% of the students, fifteen or sixteen years old, still can't make simple meals, 80% of the students can't guarantee to do housework once a week, most students can only do housework once or twice in the winter and summer vacations, even if this or two times is not actively done, let alone do it well.
Our education has always advocated the all-round development of "morality, intellectual, physical and aesthetic work", but in the past ten years, it has only focused on academic performance, especially now that there are not many children in each family, everyone is spoiled in the sky, children are not willing to work, and parents do not expect it.
But from the perspective of long-term interests, it is difficult for children who have not tasted the hardships of labor to have a good mind, they are often low-minded, selfish and lazy, and they will not be considerate and caring for others, even if such people are admitted to college, but really go to society, how can they be competent for all kinds of work and bear family responsibilities?
In short, I hope that parents must get rid of the concept of "ma man's life", do not let this sentence harm the child, and cultivate the child into a talent of "moral, intellectual, physical and aesthetic" all-round development as soon as possible, only in this way can the child create his own happy life.