Successful people throughout the ages have a common characteristic - self-confidence.
Self-confidence can help us discover our strengths, which in turn creates a motivated motivation to achieve something positive and motivates us to play to our strengths in order to achieve self-actualization goals.
People with self-confidence, neither inferiority nor conceit, can correctly understand themselves. Under the premise of properly evaluating their own knowledge, ability, morality, personality and other internal factors, believe that they have merit in all aspects, believe that they can make up for the shortcomings in all aspects, and can see that they still have great potential to tap and play in all aspects.
"Confidence is the number one secret to success." It is a famous saying of the American writer Emerson, life tells us: a person who does not even believe in himself will eventually achieve nothing. Dongzi used this to motivate himself when he was young, a teenager who dropped out of school in the countryside, and this is how he carries "self-confidence" all the way.
Self-confidence is actually a positive mentality, the courage to face challenges at different stages of life. Only by believing in yourself and respecting yourself will you be proactive and enterprising, and will you be brave enough to move forward.
A confident child will drive away cowardice, face things with a sunny smile, and deal with difficulties with a calm mind. A confident child can grow up healthy and learn happily. However, many children around us are not confident enough, always think that they are inferior to others, and the child's lack of confidence comes from the negative evaluation of parents and teachers.
A word of trust can make a person whose heart is like a desert blossom on the soil of the soul. Throughout their lives, people hope to be understood and trusted by others, especially those closest to them. Gaining the trust of others is a happy and joyful thing that can reflect the value of the self. The trust of parents is an invisible force for children, spurring them to keep moving forward. With the trust of parents, children can be more confident.
A 13-year-old boy, introverted, quietly like a little girl. Under the careful care of parents and mothers, the child grows up little by little, although the size is about to catch up with the father's height, but in the mother's heart, the son is a child who does not grow up, so he will not let him do anything, naturally this child will not do it, and he has been ridiculed by his classmates for this. Maybe it was the ridicule of his classmates that stung him, he didn't want to go on like this anymore, he wanted to change himself, no longer cowardly at the mercy of the manipulator, tried several times always failed, the child was not discouraged.
One day, the computer at home was hit by a very serious virus, constantly crashing, because the child's father wanted to use the computer to speculate in stocks, so he was very anxious, and he had to carry the chassis to the computer city to repair. The boy had just learned to make a computer system in his computer class at school, so he said to his father, "I can help you fix the computer, and it won't take long." But Dad said very dismissively: "What can you do as a child, it is not novel and fun, it will only cause trouble for adults, you don't make trouble, I still have to hurry." ”
From home to the science and technology city to repair the computer, it takes two buses to get there, not to mention that it is not convenient to hold a bulky chassis. So the child begged his father again, saying, "I will definitely fix it soon, just go to the video store downstairs and buy a system disk." However, even so, Dad was not impressed, and even said a little angrily that he had delayed his time.
It turned out that it took Dad an afternoon to fix the computer, and the kid was depressed at home for an afternoon... The boy sighed: Why can't my parents trust me once?
Advice to parents – Parents should trust their children
Believe in children, you should develop yourself according to the child's instinctive mechanism, you should understand and respect the child, and you should not always deny the child.
Trust in a child should be like believing that a seed in the soil, as long as it is given sunlight and water, will grow a seedling, will surely blossom and bear fruit. Because we believe that this is a state of life. We transform the child into a seed, believing that the child will develop according to a certain natural mechanism, will not transmit his worries to the child, and will let the child develop himself.
In any case, parents are the children's most trusted people, your thoughts and behaviors are the child's weather vane, do not let your wrong thoughts mislead the child. Children's ability to accept new things may be beyond your imagination, parents do not understand things, does not mean that children are not clear, once the child has the idea of performance in front of the parents, must give trust and support, rather than holding a skeptical attitude. Even if your child tries unsuccessfully, don't sneer at him, help him analyze the reasons for the failure, and express expectations for the next performance.
What kind of environment is created for the child, what kind of person the child will develop. If the parents of the boy in the case did not doubt the child's ability, but let him try to find the reason first and repair it, maybe it would not have to waste so much time, nor did it take much physical energy.
One possibility is that the computer may have been fixed through the child's efforts, which is a matter of great joy; the other possibility is that it has not been repaired and restored; and there is a relatively bad result, which makes the computer worse. If you make some backups beforehand, the possibility of the latter is very small. In fact, even so, if you give your child this trust, harvest a sunny, confident son, what if the computer is damaged, isn't the son more important than the computer?
It can't be fixed, and it's not too late to take it to professionals to repair, it's just a little more time. And for the child has a different meaning, the father's trust for him is a responsibility, he will devote himself wholeheartedly, even if not successful, it is also a touch to himself, in the future computer learning he will be more focused and serious, will definitely master the computer knowledge more and better, to the father greater surprise.
Moreover, the child still has the possibility of repairing the computer, and at most it will only delay your time with the computer. Therefore, our parents should trust their children and give them a chance.
Different practices will have different results. I have experienced this first-hand.
Now my daughter Yueyue's computer operation and computer comprehensive knowledge have far surpassed me, and she helps me sort out some relevant information from time to time.
But I have also made this mistake, that is, the summer vacation when Yue Yue was 9 years old, I looked up some information on the Internet and downloaded it in the computer, in order to facilitate reading, I planned to copy the information from the desktop computer to my laptop, because I was busy with other things, Yue Yue volunteered to come and help. After a while, Yue Yue said in a loud voice, "Daddy, why can't you open it?" "I came to see, she just copied the files in the form of "shortcuts" saved on the desktop, and its "root directory" in the USB flash drive, the U disk files have been deleted by her, so it can not be opened at all. So, I went to the "Recycle Bin" to find the deleted files, and I didn't find one, so I loudly reprimanded her and blamed her, thinking that she was subjectively unsympathetic and led to the loss of the files.
Later, Yue Yue wrote me a letter about the displeasure of being wronged by me. After reading the letter and calming down, I realized that I had wrongly blamed the child, although Yiyi was more proficient in computers than the average child, but she was still a child after all, her knowledge in this area was still very limited, and she was subjectively malicious. No matter who it is, "knowing what is wrong must be changed" is my consistent rule of life, and finally my apology ushered in the smile of the child.
Since then, I not only did not stop the child from helping me get the computer, but also asked her for advice from time to time, the child's self-confidence has been greatly improved, and the computer operation level has become more and more skilled.
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