Li Ping, who makes two people "uneasy" in "Xiao Min's Family": When people reach middle age, please do three things right

Introduction: When you are young, you get married because of love, and when you wait until you are not confused, you find that whether you are married because of love or not, the couples of the same age around you still have a good life, and some days are fragmented. Is there really a knack for running a good family and marriage?

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Some time ago, the circle of friends was colorful and colorful. Some friends like to mention the car, some friends like to mention the new house, and many friends post various gifts, and some friends scold the other half in the circle of friends.

Now many young people say that they do not want to get married, because the marriage partners are too snobbish, the man hates the woman to pay the bride price, and the woman hates the man for a dime.

"What exactly does marriage bring to humanity?" Many bloggers have issued soul torture.

In fact, marriage brings us or the growth of each other, if we meet a partner who goes hand in hand, the two progress and struggle together, people will definitely have a better life than many of their peers when they reach middle age.

However, there are also many couples who have great ambitions when they are young, and as they accumulate and are defeated by reality, they continue to be rotten, and finally they become resentful couples in middle age.

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The TV series "Xiao Min Jia" was a very good TV series at the end of last year, and the finale of the show has been around for a short time, during which time, I watched it again. When I watched it for the second time, I couldn't help but feel that the second female Li Ping, this woman is really very not simple, when people reach middle age, there are two people who are "difficult to reconcile" because of her.

The first person to be upset was Li Ping's biological daughter Chen Jiajia.

Chen Jiajia said to her father Chen Zhuo in the first episode, if you two did not divorce, Li Pingwang's person would be you.

Chen Jiajia, as the daughter of Li Ping and Chen Zhuo, said that the original meaning of this sentence was: If you two don't divorce, maybe your life is good now, and I don't have to have a normal family.

The second person who is upset is Chen Zhuo's love enemy and Liu Xiaomin's ex-husband Jin Bo.

When Jin Bo first arrived in Beijing, he was on the run, a man who was almost fifty years old was poor and in debt, and the debt collectors chased all the way to Beijing.

When Jin Bo saw Li Ping, who was once his peer and can now become an educator, he was very unhappy. He said, "I used to be the little prince of Jiujiang, my parents were factory leaders, and I was the chief of the security section. If I had married Li Ping, it would have been me who was now prosperous. ”

Jin Bo's difficulty is that he wants to sit back and enjoy his success, he does not want to struggle and does not want to suffer, he just wants to enjoy a ready-made life.

In the middle and late part of the "Xiao Min Family" TV series, Li Ping's husband Hong Wei had an accident, and Li Ping rushed to deal with various affairs before and after running, and incidentally helped Hong Wei solve the matter of his extramarital birth. In the end, Li Ping left Beijing with Hong Wei's illegitimate son and went to Shenzhen to start a business.

Even Li Ping's ex-husband Chen Zhuo sincerely admired and respected her, and a middle-aged woman could actually start over after experiencing her husband's betrayal and career destruction.

These also give the audience a blank imagination, when Li Ping and Hong Wei were able to establish a firm foothold in Beijing, it was not a good fate, nor was it Li Ping Wangfu, but the two really struggled hard for their careers and maintained the same direction. Therefore, when people's families reach middle age, they can have a successful career and prosper. Even if something happens later, Li Ping can face it strongly and open up another space to continue to move forward.

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Having said all this, it is nothing more than to express a point of view - if you want to live a good life, especially a middle-aged couple, you need to have the accumulation of the previous ten years or more, continuous accumulation.

Couples who have a bad life in middle age are mostly made by themselves and cannot complain about others.

Careful analysis shows that middle-aged couples who have a prosperous life usually have to do the right three things.

First: There is family planning and goals, and husband and wife must be in the same heart.

Some couples have not yet entered the family state when they are newly married, and they are ignorant of the management of marriage and personal growth. Some couples may not understand it when they first get married, but after a few years, they begin to plan the future direction of the family.

With the family planning and the goal of struggle, the husband and wife work together, and there is a good family foundation to take root for the stability of middle age.

Some friends want to buy a house when they are just married, so they plan to save money, save enough for a few years, and then start to look at the house. There are many friends around who did not have a house when they first got married, but they will accumulate a family business for themselves.

However, some couples feel that the house is so expensive, then do not buy, and it is very good to squeeze in with their parents, but there are many contradictions with their parents, and family conflicts often occur.

Therefore, couples who have family planning and goals, and work together with one heart, after reaching middle age, most of them will have a much better life than those who get by and are satisfied with the status quo when they are young.

Second: Limited energy is focused on important things, rather than creating family conflicts and internal friction.

Then the above one says that some couples get married and their faces become more and more ugly, because they quarrel every day. Quarrels between husband and wife, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, between sisters-in-law, between concubines. There is an old Chinese saying that a poor family quarrels all day long, and it is not good to live a good life.

People's energy is very limited, and they should focus their time and energy on important things, such as career, physical care, and family harmony. And some people do not have the ability to do business themselves, nor are they determined to manage themselves, so they begin to create contradictions and stir up a good home.

This kind of internal family conflict is very painful, and it is in the midst of internal friction all day long, making people exhausted and unwilling to struggle.

Home and everything are eternal truths.

Third: either seize the opportunity of the times to fight, or live your life.

Recently, I have always heard people talk about the outlet of various times, but in fact, some people are born with business sensitivity and can seize the opportunities of the times to fight.

Like Li Ping and Hong Wei of the TV series "Xiao MinJia", they are able to seize the opportunities of the times, coupled with continuous efforts to exchange for the achievements of "can become education".

Of course, from 2021 onwards, the life of educational institutions will not be good, some people will change careers smoothly, and some people will have more time to transition.

Why did Li Ping and Chen Zhuo divorce at that time? Because Chen Zhuo is not a person who gives up to fight together for his career, although he also started a business later, when the company's capital chain has a problem, he thinks that "half a year's term, if it is not done, it will not be tossed", entrepreneurial partner Qian Feng proposed to "sell a house in my Shenyang" as a financial support.

Is Chen Zhuo wrong? Not really! Chen Zhuo is a person who lives his life in his own duty, although he will not be as rich and noble as Li Ping, but there is not much risk in life, to ensure that his family has a house to live and can live a good life, which is not bad.

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Many couples are confused and covetous at the age of struggle, and they count one day at a time. When they reach middle age, they blame each other's spouses, believing that their partners have delayed themselves. As everyone knows, other people's good lives are also the result of hard work and hard work, and they are accumulated over time.

No one has a good life and a good marriage because they enjoy their success, and these people's good days are achieved by supporting each other and achieving each other.

There are also many friends around the age, family situation, work income, etc. when they get married, and the beginning is almost the same, but with the passage of time, it gradually begins to diverge. Some couples are getting older and weaker, the house is not bought, the children are not raised, and the savings are not saved. Some couples buy a family business, raise children, and have a successful career.

Life is not good, first do not always blame others, first of all, we must reflect on ourselves.

It's always hard to change others, but there's hope for changing yourself. After you have made certain changes yourself, then work hard to plan the family well, have a clear development idea, and may be able to change the fate of the future family, so that when people reach middle age, they may be able to enjoy the beauty of life.

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