Once a woman falls in love, her intelligence will decline and she will even become a child who has been coaxed. Of course, it cannot be generalized, but it is an indisputable fact that women have to pay a lot for love, and even bow their heads for love.
There is one of the earliest abandoned women's poems in the Book of Poetry, "Hu", which tells the story of the heroine's old age and decline, and her husband Hu abandoned her, and she once dedicated her life for love, then the tragedy of women may be caused by love.
Men loving women and women loving men are not the same thing. Men can start and give up, they can see a love one, but most women can't do it, and they have to give a personal commitment to the man they love. Especially in ancient times, many women had to follow feudal morality, "marry the chicken with the chicken, marry the dog with the dog." So much so that most of them became the object of choice in terms of marriage, and did not necessarily have their own love, and even the vast majority of ancient women did not know what love was. Thus, there is a beautiful love legend. Because love is too beautiful and fleeting, it makes women like it. But women are not men, men can look for flowers and willows, everywhere, affectionate, happy life, women can only marry men, become a tool for giving birth. What love can be said can only be found on the night of the candle in the cave, but that kind of love is based on sex, and it is not called love. Of course, women have to bow their heads.
Ancient women should achieve "a woman's talentlessness is morality" and obey "the orders of her parents and the words of a matchmaker" in the choice of marriage." "You can only meet a man when you are married, where will there be any good love?" Things like Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun eloping are very rare, and they have become people's talk after dinner, and of course, they have become beautiful love stories. As for the four love legends, they are all a kind of story that bows down for love. After her husband's death, Meng Jiangnu did not remarry, bowed her head for love, sacrificed herself for love, and wept down the Great Wall; the weaver girl was far away from the Heavenly Palace for love and was willing to live in the human world; Bai Suzhen cultivated for a thousand years, marrying Xu Xian for love, willing to lose her mana, and also to save Xu Xian, who was kidnapped by Fahai; Zhu Yingtai threw herself into the grave of Liangshan Po for love, and he doubled butterflies. Although the story is beautiful, women can fight for love, not to mention bow their heads.
A woman who falls in love with a man intends to live with a man for the rest of her life, and she also has to give him children. In ancient times, only men were allowed to divorce their wives, but women were not allowed to divorce men. That is to say, women must bow their heads and dedicate themselves to love, and they must also "sing with their husbands and women" and "husbands as wives", of course, they will lose their independent personality and free thoughts. For the sake of men's aesthetics, women must tie their waists, wrap their feet, and also go out of the door to go out of the second door, teach their husbands and children, but do not understand knowledge and culture, and they have no ability to participate in politics and deliberations, of course, they have lost the right to speak. In the Wu Zetian period, there were also female officials, which can be counted as a sign that women have obtained a certain degree of freedom, but it is not universal, and it is only some women who have become female officials, and many women are still oppressed and dedicate themselves to marriage, not knowing what is called love.
By now, the women seem to have been liberated. They will also learn from men to abandon each other, see one love one, and even beat the fetus for men, although they use the way of active love, but they are often hurt by themselves. Men can fight for love, of course, they can also see a love one; women can bow their heads for love, to please men, to save a love, of course, they can also turn into the arms of their men, even when they are underage, they have already tasted the forbidden fruit, beaten the fetus, and some have given birth to children. Perhaps, women really have more choice, and bowing their heads for love is not always a wise choice.
Married women know that there will inevitably be contradictions and frictions between husband and wife, and even fights. If you get divorced in a fight, not many marriages may come to an end. Most of the time, women will bow their heads for love, and bear with it. If you blindly tolerate unprincipled, it will only encourage men's arrogance, and you will suffer even more, and the gains will outweigh the losses. When men and women want to divorce, people often advise women to think about their children and for their families, but men don't know how to think about their children and think about their families? Many women endure domestic violence for the sake of their children and families, and they endure it for a lifetime, and they sacrifice their personal happiness for love. And those who are unbearable, looking for other men, of course, will bow their heads for other men, unless the woman is a strong woman, it is better to be stronger.
Big husbands can bend and stretch, and so can women. Those who should make concessions must make concessions, and those who should not give in must not give in. After all, love is very short, and bowing down for the sake of short-lived love, and sacrificing, seems to be courageous, but it cannot be advocated. If women are sacrificed for love, are the people in the world extinct? Women can bow their heads for love, to cling to men, to give up some of their own interests, but if they become playthings and objects of bullying, they must decisively leave the man and look for a man who can really rely on for a lifetime, or find a man who really loves himself and what he loves.
Women are also people, not tools, and they are not pawns at the mercy of others. Most women are gentle in temperament, but gentle temperament is not a sign of being slaughtered, but a survival strategy. Perhaps, women bow their heads for love also have this factor. Women can make concessions for love, bow their heads, but have their own principles, can not be based on damage to the body and emotions, and can not bury their own lifelong happiness. Remember, women do not belong to men and children, only to themselves, and can give in, but the bottom line cannot be lost, and independent thoughts cannot fall.